Anxiety In Uni Halls Watch

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Does anyone else experience anxiety in halls at uni?

I get along with my flatmates, but we're not the closest of friends.

Whenever I hear people in the kitchen with their friends or people coming and going from the flat, I suddenly get so anxious, as-as an introvert, it's made me realize how little I socialize (I do socialise e.g go to the cinema with friends, but not to the extent of others) and it's made me quite self-conscious.

I feel like I can't relax here, I constantly need to be 'on' and ready for socialising at any point, which as an introvert I find extremely difficult and stressful. For example, going to the kitchen for a glass of water or even hearing people walk down the hall in case they knock on my door.

One weekend I had the flat to myself as everyone else had gone home, and it's been the best weekend I've had here. I was so relaxed, got lots of work done and enjoyed the weekend with my books and TV shows. For me, socializing all week with friends on my course is enough, and I love having the weekends as my me time. Is anyone else like this?

When people move into a student house next year with their friends, does this get any better? Thanks!
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I had this in my first year of Uni. It's the reason I ended up living in a flat on my own.

I can't speak for if it gets any better, but if you get along with your flatmates at the moment, and feel comfortable around them, then it might not be any different. I still feel the kind of things you describe about my friend(s) (I can't say plural, I only really have, what, one? two? but yeah...) after one and a half years at Uni.

For now you'd be best trying to focus on not worrying about this kind of thing. Try to get some nice headphones that can blank out sound, that helped me quite a bit, at least with background noise in the flat from others.
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I had this in my first year of Uni. It's the reason I ended up living in a flat on my own.

I can't speak for if it gets any better, but if you get along with your flatmates at the moment, and feel comfortable around them, then it might not be any different. I still feel the kind of things you describe about my friend(s) (I can't say plural, I only really have, what, one? two? but yeah...) after one and a half years at Uni.

For now you'd be best trying to focus on not worrying about this kind of thing. Try to get some nice headphones that can blank out sound, that helped me quite a bit, at least with background noise in the flat from others.
Yeah, the headphones sound like a good idea, I feel like at this point living alone is the only way I'll be happy so I can control when I want to be social, and not worry about the pressure of going out and drinking. Just need to get through this year and never live in halls again.
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Yeah, the headphones sound like a good idea, I feel like at this point living alone is the only way I'll be happy so I can control when I want to be social, and not worry about the pressure of going out and drinking. Just need to get through this year and never live in halls again.
Living alone has its challenges, too. You'll need to ask yourself whether you can do it. Here is a list of things I've had to do in the short three months I've lived alone:

-> Buy home insurance (expensive as hell, I live on the coast)
-> Hire plumbers and electricians (unless you rent from a landlord who handles that)
-> Carry recyclables several miles due to lack of recycling services
-> Deal with raunchy neighbours
-> Get leered at while undressing... and I'm a pretty skinny dude!!!
-> Have a seagull fly through a window

If you live with other people, these kinds of hardships are minimised. But, I can tell you, living alone is the best thing ever. Cannot recommend more if you have the funds. I live rent-free... with rent, it might not be feasible, since renting a place for yourself is insanely expensive...
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Living alone has its challenges, too. You'll need to ask yourself whether you can do it. Here is a list of things I've had to do in the short three months I've lived alone:

-> Buy home insurance (expensive as hell, I live on the coast)
-> Hire plumbers and electricians (unless you rent from a landlord who handles that)
-> Carry recyclables several miles due to lack of recycling services
-> Deal with raunchy neighbours
-> Get leered at while undressing... and I'm a pretty skinny dude!!!
-> Have a seagull fly through a window

If you live with other people, these kinds of hardships are minimised. But, I can tell you, living alone is the best thing ever. Cannot recommend more if you have the funds. I live rent-free... with rent, it might not be feasible, since renting a place for yourself is insanely expensive...
Thanks for the advice! These are things I'll seriously consider before arranging my accommodation for next year. Hopefully, I can find some introverted friends to live with me if I feel like I can't live alone.
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