I feel really guilty about having a guy friend. My bf doesn't even know he existis? Watch

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I've been friends with this guy since I was 14 (21 now) I've never met him, we just know eachother through mutual friends & never flirted with one another. We go through phases of talking on and off. It's so easy to tell him things I wouldn't tell others (including my bf) because its like he's an 'outsider' of my life and my social circle, and with us only talking online i feel more comfortable being open with him. We talk almost every day, not talking about anything inappropriate but I feel guilty talking to him so much and telling him things that I wouldn't tell my bf. Am I in the wrong for talking to this friend of mine so much? Should I tell my bf about him? My bf has girl friends but not ones that he talks to daily. I can't help but feel so guilty!
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I've been friends with this guy since I was 14 (21 now) I've never met him, we just know eachother through mutual friends & never flirted with one another. We go through phases of talking on and off. It's so easy to tell him things I wouldn't tell others (including my bf) because its like he's an 'outsider' of my life and my social circle, and with us only talking online i feel more comfortable being open with him. We talk almost every day, not talking about anything inappropriate but I feel guilty talking to him so much and telling him things that I wouldn't tell my bf. Am I in the wrong for talking to this friend of mine so much? Should I tell my bf about him? My bf has girl friends but not ones that he talks to daily. I can't help but feel so guilty!
you don't need to feel guilty about having guy friends.. but you should feel a bit guilty about not telling your boyfriend. And you should strongly question why your not comfortable enough with your boyfriend to tell him the things you can tell this other guy.

a generally healthy rule to have in a commited relationship is:

Any friends you knew before you were dating remain friends of each of you regardless of boy/girl
Any new friends you meet while you are dating, are joint friends, the boyfriend is the main person for the boys, girlfriend is the main person for the girls
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