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    My boyfriend of 3.5 years asked for a break for some time alone as we had been arguing and I said no and he broke up with me. What shall I do?

    To further clarify, we have had the most amazing relationships. He told my mum and his sister 2 months ago he was wanting to propose to me and the only thing that would make him happy in life now was to marry me.

    We was about about to move in together and we had been bickering and arguing. He said he was starting to miss me less. We had a bad argument then he messaged me and said he thinks we might need to take a break. I was like no way they don't work , you need to make a decision now and his decision was to split up. But further told my parents that I forced the decision and now I'm not happy about it. He has been Crying to my mum, sisters and brothers saying he's sorry.

    This was 2 and a half weeks ago. I begged and pleaded and found this didn't work. I then went into no contact and 4 days into it he asked was I awake at 11pm and 3 minutes later said never mind. The next morning he then asked for a belonging from my house and where I was? I said I could meet him he said he was busy and he would get it tomorrow and then stalled and said don't worry about it. All my belongings are in his house, money etc. I even have a business of his in my and work in this shop. And have to see him everyday.
    Surely if he wanted to split up he would of got away as soon as possible.

    Can anyone give me some advice because I don't know what to do?
    should I move on or have hope?

    im looking on gettin. Another job asap and he's only told his family that we are on a break? Help
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    (Original post by Carly price 1987)
    My boyfriend of 3.5 years asked for a break for some time alone as we had been arguing and I said no and he broke up with me. What shall I do?

    To further clarify, we have had the most amazing relationships. He told my mum and his sister 2 months ago he was wanting to propose to me and the only thing that would make him happy in life now was to marry me.

    We was about about to move in together and we had been bickering and arguing. He said he was starting to miss me less. We had a bad argument then he messaged me and said he thinks we might need to take a break. I was like no way they don't work , you need to make a decision now and his decision was to split up. But further told my parents that I forced the decision and now I'm not happy about it. He has been Crying to my mum, sisters and brothers saying he's sorry.

    This was 2 and a half weeks ago. I begged and pleaded and found this didn't work. I then went into no contact and 4 days into it he asked was I awake at 11pm and 3 minutes later said never mind. The next morning he then asked for a belonging from my house and where I was? I said I could meet him he said he was busy and he would get it tomorrow and then stalled and said don't worry about it. All my belongings are in his house, money etc. I even have a business of his in my and work in this shop. And have to see him everyday.
    Surely if he wanted to split up he would of got away as soon as possible.

    Can anyone give me some advice because I don't know what to do?
    should I move on or have hope?

    im looking on gettin. Another job asap and he's only told his family that we are on a break? Help
    "Taking a break" is the coward's way of saying "I'm bored and want to have fun with other girls but I don't want it to be classed as cheating".

    If there were issues in the relationship, taking a break will not solve those issues, it just shoves them under the doormat.
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    I just want you to consider how strange it is for someone to be so madly in love for nearly 4 years and because of a few arguments leave you... doesn't add up.
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    (Original post by Carly price 1987)
    My boyfriend of 3.5 years asked for a break for some time alone as we had been arguing and I said no and he broke up with me. What shall I do?

    To further clarify, we have had the most amazing relationships. He told my mum and his sister 2 months ago he was wanting to propose to me and the only thing that would make him happy in life now was to marry me.

    We was about about to move in together and we had been bickering and arguing. He said he was starting to miss me less. We had a bad argument then he messaged me and said he thinks we might need to take a break. I was like no way they don't work , you need to make a decision now and his decision was to split up. But further told my parents that I forced the decision and now I'm not happy about it. He has been Crying to my mum, sisters and brothers saying he's sorry.

    This was 2 and a half weeks ago. I begged and pleaded and found this didn't work. I then went into no contact and 4 days into it he asked was I awake at 11pm and 3 minutes later said never mind. The next morning he then asked for a belonging from my house and where I was? I said I could meet him he said he was busy and he would get it tomorrow and then stalled and said don't worry about it. All my belongings are in his house, money etc. I even have a business of his in my and work in this shop. And have to see him everyday.
    Surely if he wanted to split up he would of got away as soon as possible.

    Can anyone give me some advice because I don't know what to do?
    should I move on or have hope?

    im looking on gettin. Another job asap and he's only told his family that we are on a break? Help
    As UWS said further up a break is a cowards way, I do wonder why he has suddenly chucked in the towel like that.
 
 
 
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