Uni romance frustration!

About half way through Fresher's Week, I met a guy who totally swept me away - totally gorgeous, so funny and with a ridiculous amount in common with me. We swapped numbers and were texting for a while and every time we saw each other, we'd end up chatting for hours. There was a girl who lived in his corridor who kept making a beeline for him when she saw him but he didn't seem bothered. In the last week though, he hadn't been texting me as much, though he was still nice when I saw him. I found out this week that he's now going out with the girl from his corridor, and I'm absolutely gutted. I know I shouldn't be, but I can't help it :frown:

She came on so strong to him and that was exactly what I was trying to avoid by getting to know him a bit more gradually. Argh. It's just driving me a bit crazy because I like him so so so much, and I hate seeing them together all the time.

Anyone else experienced the perilous side of falling for someone at uni yet? :frown:

Reply 1

jpowell

15

Strangle this interloper in the night, then you can be his rightful girlfriend.

Reply 2

littleone

ouch! thats really got to hurt.well, first of all dont blame urself, u werent to know.
u dont really know if they'll last it out either! so i guess u can always hope...a little devious, but hey, as youve just seen its a selfish world!
2ndly, you dont really know if these people were spendind lots more time together than u 2 were, not forgetting their on the same corridor, and maybe, he just got to know her a lot quicker and decided to go out with her, not giving you a chance.also, he may have been unsure if you liked him in that sort of way, and perhaps just thought that you saw him only as a friend, possibly explaining the reason you still really get on. but, theres hope, perhaps he likes you, but was confused by whether you felt the same or not.
dont worry, takecare
lots of love
xxx

Reply 3

Kondar

1

Never happened to me, but I might be able to help. Once at work there were these two girls, one liked me (girl number 1) and another one that I liked (girl number 2). The one that liked me flirted with me all the time and made it clear that she liked me, followed me around, etc... I had more and better conversations with the girl that I liked (girl number 2) and I had much more in common with her (2). But I ended up dating the one that liked me (girl 1), mainly because she persued me so much. Later I found out that the girl that I liked the whole time (the one I didnt end up with-girl number 2) liked me too ! Kinda sucks. Just be patient and hopefully it will work.

Kinda confusing the way I wrote it...
Cliffnotes- Girl number 1 - bad
Girl number 2 - good

Reply 4

ChemistBoy

16

You met a guy in freshers week and now he's shagging someone else and you are suprised? Talk about naive...

Reply 5

Alice2411

stressedstudent

About half way through Fresher's Week, I met a guy who totally swept me away - totally gorgeous, so funny and with a ridiculous amount in common with me. We swapped numbers and were texting for a while and every time we saw each other, we'd end up chatting for hours. There was a girl who lived in his corridor who kept making a beeline for him when she saw him but he didn't seem bothered. In the last week though, he hadn't been texting me as much, though he was still nice when I saw him. I found out this week that he's now going out with the girl from his corridor, and I'm absolutely gutted. I know I shouldn't be, but I can't help it :frown:

She came on so strong to him and that was exactly what I was trying to avoid by getting to know him a bit more gradually. Argh. It's just driving me a bit crazy because I like him so so so much, and I hate seeing them together all the time.
Anyone else experienced the perilous side of falling for someone at uni yet? :frown:

why dont u ask him why he led u on then? he obviously gave u the impression that he liked u as wel, and now hes gooing out with this girl,, it seems a bit odd, i think u should ask him, r u still txtin and chattin in the corridors or has he completly blanked u?

Reply 6

magiccarpet

2

stressedstudent

About half way through Fresher's Week, I met a guy who totally swept me away - totally gorgeous, so funny and with a ridiculous amount in common with me. We swapped numbers and were texting for a while and every time we saw each other, we'd end up chatting for hours. There was a girl who lived in his corridor who kept making a beeline for him when she saw him but he didn't seem bothered. In the last week though, he hadn't been texting me as much, though he was still nice when I saw him. I found out this week that he's now going out with the girl from his corridor, and I'm absolutely gutted. I know I shouldn't be, but I can't help it :frown:

She came on so strong to him and that was exactly what I was trying to avoid by getting to know him a bit more gradually. Argh. It's just driving me a bit crazy because I like him so so so much, and I hate seeing them together all the time.

Anyone else experienced the perilous side of falling for someone at uni yet? :frown:

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this exactly happened to me!!!!!!! :eek:

!!!!!!
1 i just met this HOTOHOHOHOT guy in freshers week, he's doing LLB 1st yr law aswell, but theres some ho girl who has a boyf (2 actually) but always always comes on strong to him. she wants him to stay round her's at xmas, and always asking hime out and if he want to sleep with her. however he says he doesnt like her and wants to be with me. but i cant help thinking if he changed hs mind i'll see him all the time with her.what will you do?what should i do?

Reply 7

Helenia

20

Guys, it's only Freshers' week... :wink:

Reply 8

edrees1

Hey, theres plenty more fish in the sea ( me), by the way i won the worlds ugliest contest 4 yrs running and im a serial killer with a fetish for dumpsites, which is where i live. So when can i expect a call ?

Reply 9

Camford

12

Helenia

Guys, it's only Freshers' week... :wink:

Oh dear.... Helen has a long history of things that don't go her way... :redface:

I have yet to find such girl to "totally swept" me away... Anyone intereted in give me a "sweep"?

Reply 10

Mithrandir

The original posters getting some bad advice from quite a few ppl on here, encouraging her to be patient and to live in hope etc. She could be waiting forever!!! Best advice is to try to forget him. He's going out with someone else now. Chances are he knew this other girl pretty well when he decided to go out with her and he probably likes her a lot if he's willing to go out with her when shes on the same corridor. Chances are that he also did pick up that stressed student was interested in him but he chose to go out with other girl instead. Sorry to be harsh but better to move on and don't waste your first year at uni being miserable.

Reply 11

naelse

15

sounds like he wasn't worth the bother. if he'd felt a connection too he'd never have started up with the other girl...

Reply 12

drawmeamonkey

1

Mithrandir

The original posters getting some bad advice from quite a few ppl on here, encouraging her to be patient and to live in hope etc. She could be waiting forever!!! Best advice is to try to forget him. He's going out with someone else now. Chances are he knew this other girl pretty well when he decided to go out with her and he probably likes her a lot if he's willing to go out with her when shes on the same corridor. Chances are that he also did pick up that stressed student was interested in him but he chose to go out with other girl instead. Sorry to be harsh but better to move on and don't waste your first year at uni being miserable.

totally agree, gotta move on. i had a bit ov a thing in freshers week, got a bit over possesive, f*cked up, just mates now. still like her but i realise its not realistic to end up wiv someone you met in the first week of uni! i know its a cliche but plenty more fish n all that! :smile:

Reply 13

Helenia

20

Camford

Oh dear.... Helen has a long history of things that don't go her way... :redface:

I have yet to find such girl to "totally swept" me away... Anyone intereted in give me a "sweep"?

Well, I no longer expect things to go my way ever, but it doesn't stop me getting annoyed when they don't. However, it is only Freshers' week, which is not like any other week you'll ever have, so I say don't get too worked up about it.

Reply 14

Drogue

19

stressedstudent

Anyone else experienced the perilous side of falling for someone at uni yet? :frown:

Kinda, I met a gorgeous girl at some music society drinks, she was smart, kind, and has this wonderfully warming smile. I was meant to meet her in a club later that everyone was going to, but couldn't find her, and forgot to get her number. So not my usual type, but I can't resist someone who's fun and has a smile that stunning.

Reply 15

magiccarpet

2

magiccarpet

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this exactly happened to me!!!!!!! :eek:

!!!!!!
1 i just met this HOTOHOHOHOT guy in freshers week, he's doing LLB 1st yr law aswell, but theres some ho girl who has a boyf (2 actually) but always always comes on strong to him. she wants him to stay round her's at xmas, and always asking hime out and if he want to sleep with her. however he says he doesnt like her and wants to be with me. but i cant help thinking if he changed hs mind i'll see him all the time with her.what will you do?what should i do?