I’ve had depression for months and haven’t told anyone Watch

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(Original post by 10thomaa)
I have depression too.
I think what helps is different for everyone.
What helped me was pushing myself out of my comfort zone, as scary as that sounds. I would try my best to make friends no matter how painful I felt it was. I would push myself to get out of bed. I would push myself to go out even when I wasn't feeling it. If it worked out well, I would thank myself for doing it, I would enjoy whatever it was and I would feel a sense of achievement and be happy for the rest of the day. If it didn't work out well, I congratulated myself for trying anyway. I'd even sometimes buy little gifts for myself to congratulate myself for doing things e.g a new dress or give myself a reward e.g a bath, lazy night eating chocolate and watching films (sounds corny I know, but it works)
As I made a few close friends, I sort of eased up around them and felt more comfortable. I told my closest friend about my depression and she is now sensitive towards it. For example, she knows after a argument that I need to be left alone and don't like to contact anyone. Be careful who you tell though if you're like me and quite private.

Exercise also helped me a lot. I know thats a pretty generic thing to say but it does wonders for your mental health and your confidence. Try to excercise at least 3 times a week.

Take every day as it comes. It is going to be hard for you so don't expect to achieve what you want straight away. Baby steps. I used to reward myself simply just for getting out of bed. It takes time.

Oh and by the way, you ARE normal. Your mental illness doesn't define you. You will be surprised how many 'normal looking' confident teenagers are actually battling the same demons as you. Also, don't expect too much of other people and don't rely on them either. It sounds harsh but this is what got me hurt so I'm just letting you know. The only person who can empower themselves and make themselves happier is you
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and say that, I appreciate it and will defiently try some of the things you have said
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Don't think what your parents think about you. If you good then feel it and overcome from this issue. If you do overthink then tell me what you get? I hope so nothing. Overthinking is not good for you. People who think less live a healthy life. So don't think.
I know, I wish I could just stop overthinking everything, don’t know why I do to be honest as it could be something really silly that doesn’t really affect me life but I’ll overthink it and make it seem a lot worse
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(Original post by Gemmaseed1)
I think you should see a doctor - that way they can professionally diagnose you and give you some advice. I have a friend who told me he wished he’d see a doctor about his depression because, even though he’s ok now, it took him a long time to become ok and knows he would have recovered so much quicker if he had seen someone about it. You could also have a look at this : https://beta.nhs.uk/find-a-psycholog...apies-service/ - You can see a therapist for free on the NHS without a GP referral.
I really hope you find the strength to do something about your depression xx
Thanks so much, I’m going to look into getting the help I need today
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Thanks so much, I’m going to look into getting the help I need today
That’s really great - all will be fine
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Thanks so much, I’m going to look into getting the help I need today
Hey man or girl, I just want you to know that you're not alone and that one day everything will be fine. I am currently going through the same thing but no one notices because I have this facade to hide it. Now I'm looking for help and I got an appointment. Message me if you want to so we can talk and I wanna give you support!
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I’ve had depression for months now and haven’t told anyone.. no ones noticed as ive always been quiet and liked having “me” time but I know it’s getting worse, I just feel so down all the time and overthink literally everything and make it seems as though it’s the end of the world. I am very emotional but my family always say I’m emotionless as I don’t like to show or talk about my feelings. I have really bad anxiety and just see a very bleak future for myself.
Hey OP.

Try and speak up about it to family. Also I would suggest going to the GP and ask for advice/diagnosis, etc. Also, have you tried talking to your friends about it?


Been in a similar situation to yourself. I suffer with OCD since I was around 11 or 12, and it took me a very long time to admit to it because of comments I got off family members because of it, which pushed me into isolation (not very good I know).

Long story short, something happened to me at the end of the summer just gone and I basically had a breakdown and admitted to it. Went to the GP and am now in the early days of my CBT treatment. I’m thinking of joining a gym or something once I get paid to try and get my mind off of it, etc.

Wish I had the courage to speak up sooner though.

Hope you get the help you deserve. :hugs:


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probably not, mostly stressed not depressed. why did you have to post on anon though :flip:
Sounds like anon is a pathetic troll and sounds like all they ever do is troll. -.-



(Original post by xoxAngel_Kxox)
When I was at my worst (and I'm no means 100% better), I actually used to get quite angry at my family for not noticing anything was wrong. I was quiet, I stopped going out, I lost a lot of weight, I pulled away from all of my friends, I stopped dressing nicely (just trackies and hoodies) and even going out and buying nice clothes.. I was a completely different person. I just couldn't open a conversation with them about it though, so I desperately needed them to notice and they never did. That in itself has caused a huge gap between me and family which I just can't seem to get over at the moment. I really hope you find a way to make yourself feel better, I honestly do.
I suffer with OCD, and until I admitted it I felt quite angry with my family for not addressing it with me. They noticed my rituals, and always got the comments like ‘you need to stop it’ which unfortunately pushed me into isolation and made me think if they say these pathetic comments to me will anyone actually care. I felt hopeless and legit didn’t know how to start a conversation about it. Hope you’re feeling like you’re better, etc. :hugs:



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Pull yourself together!
Easier said than done! It’s not easy when you’re suffering from MH problems....
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Unfortunately dear there isn’t really a proper treatment for depression. Go to the doctor before it gets worse. You are going to be experimenting with antidepressants basically. Therapy if you have money.
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Telling people doesn't change a thing.
Its all about opening up and getting things of your chest more than anything. No one can carry all the burden by themselves
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Unfortunately dear there isn’t really a proper treatment for depression. Go to the doctor before it gets worse. You are going to be experimenting with antidepressants basically. Therapy if you have money.
Figure the roots of your depression. Easier said then done. Try to exercise, eat well, sleep well, socialise though I understand that it can be hard to get out of bed. Get them serotonin levels up
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big deal. i had it for 4 years without telling anyone. grow up.
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big deal. i had it for 4 years without telling anyone. grow up.
Wtf “grow up” won’t work for everyone.
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big deal. i had it for 4 years without telling anyone. grow up.
Lol I have been suffering with mental health problems for around 14/15 years and am now getting help for it due to reasons I won’t discuss. Don’t tell OP to ‘grow up’ how pathetic are you!

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Wtf “grow up” won’t work for everyone.
Agreed.
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I suffer with OCD, and until I admitted it I felt quite angry with my family for not addressing it with me. They noticed my rituals, and always got the comments like ‘you need to stop it’ which unfortunately pushed me into isolation and made me think if they say these pathetic comments to me will anyone actually care. I felt hopeless and legit didn’t know how to start a conversation about it. Hope you’re feeling like you’re better, etc. :hugs:
I think unless you've actually been there, you just don't know what to say to people who are suffering, even if it's your own child. Thank you, I am much better these days but I do still get anxious and panicky BUT I have a job, hobbies, friends, a partner, I live in my own house and I can go out whenever I want to without it being a massive deal so life has transformed. Still a way to go, but I'll get there . I really hope you manage to find a way to feel better, too .
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I think unless you've actually been there, you just don't know what to say to people who are suffering, even if it's your own child. Thank you, I am much better these days but I do still get anxious and panicky BUT I have a job, hobbies, friends, a partner, I live in my own house and I can go out whenever I want to without it being a massive deal so life has transformed. Still a way to go, but I'll get there . I really hope you manage to find a way to feel better, too .
True. But long before I made a GP appointment all I had from my mother was ‘do you want to book an appointment?’ Which made me think right ok why not encourage me to go :rolleyes: long story short I was involved in an accident and broke down and then said about it which I think family realised then how much I’m suffering .

That’s good. Hope your anxiety and panicky moments lessen . You’ll get there eventually . Thank you, I’m in the early days of CBT treatment, feeling good about it tbh. I’ve also work, but still living at home, etc. But looking at getting another job..trying to save up to move out but it’s not happening atm :lol: need to push myself more to do it, but also at the same time need to save up for a car, etc
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Easier said than done! It’s not easy when you’re suffering from MH problems....
Rubbish
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Rubbish
Lol bore off. I’ve been STRUGGLING for years and couldn’t tell anyone before the summer due to the silly pathetic comments I got. It’s not easy to ‘pull yourself together’ when your own doesn’t seem to appear to understand. It’s not an easy ride having mental health problems, I’m trying to get through it with the support of CBT sessions. So unless you know what it’s like, please don’t tell people to ‘pull themselves together’. YOU don’t know what the situation is with different people 🙃
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Popping pills would not always make you feel better. It’s only temporary eeekk. But I’m planning on giving it a try but I’m shook lool
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Am I the only one that thinks some people here are ever so mean?
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Talking about my feelings just makes me feel 100x worse. Best of luck to you
Getting counselling made be feel a lot worse for months, but the thing is, there is no counterfactual. You can’t know what your life would be like without talking. I do feel wiser and more aware of my emotions and how to control them. I wouldn’t say I regret it but I wouldn’t do it again.
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Hope OP any anyone else that needs the support for these or related things is getting it . In the pinned post on the forum are some helpful links if you need them for support lines as well .

Best wishes
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