Withdrawing consent mid-sex, is it rape

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Is it rape if I withdraw consent mid-sex? If I actually ask /them/ to stop, and they go on? Even harder actually? I agreed to have sex, I had fun at first. But then, I sobered up. And I didn't want to go on. i said stop, /they/ continued even harder. I don't know if me begging for them to wait, to stop, was a turn-on but..I don't know. Is it rape? Or am I just being extra? Because I felt gross afterwards, I felt disgusted with myself and /them/.
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Yes, that is rape.
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Yes, if you asked them to stop, and they ignored you and kept going anyway, it's rape, no two ways about it.
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(Original post by ltsmith)
then 70% of porn is rape?
you make a good point,.........

"technically" there's a lot of porn scences which if they happened IRL would be classed as rape
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Yes, if you asked them to stop, and they ignored you and kept going anyway, it's rape, no two ways about it.
Could have misconstrued if it was a bit of role play
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(Original post by paul514)
Could have misconstrued if it was a bit of role play
It wasn’t tho
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(Original post by ltsmith)
then 70% of porn is rape?
Porn isn’t realistic though. It’s mostly fantasy. So comparing my experience to porn is just???¿ I’m not living in a porn movie.
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Consent is a continuous thing. You can consent at the beginning of sex, but withdraw it if you become uncomfortable etc. If you make it clear to the other person that you are no longer consenting and they continue, then yes, that is definitely rape.

There's a difference in tone between "role-playing" stop and genuinely wanting them to stop, as others have suggested there being some confusion. You'd have to be pretty emotionally clueless to not be able to distinguish between the two.
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(Original post by ltsmith)
then 70% of porn is rape?
No, because those who take part in the pornographic industry are all consenting adults, who are being paid. Not even comparable.


Yes, if you withdrew consent at any point, then that is rape.
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It wasn’t tho
Well obviously as you are asking the question.

I just mean your partner could have thought that.
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(Original post by figuringstuffout)
Porn isn’t realistic though. It’s mostly fantasy. So comparing my experience to porn is just???¿ I’m not living in a porn movie.
Very true, I find young people’s ideas on sex to be quite sad as a result of porn exposure at a young age.
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So you want 'them' to get arrested or what
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So you want 'them' to get arrested or what
Did she mention getting them arrested?
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Of course. If you've decided you have had enough and they decide to keep on going, they're doing it against your will. No matter how "bad I want it", if a woman says to me she wants to stop, I'm pulling out straight away.
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So you want 'them' to get arrested or what
Aww you don’t think rapists should be arrested sweetheart?
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Did she mention getting them arrested?
Then wtf is the point of this
If it's rape get him arrested, if you don't want him to get arrested why bother with accusing him of rape
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(Original post by paul514)
Very true, I find young people’s ideas on sex to be quite sad as a result of porn exposure at a young age.
Says the guy who justified a man raping a woman by explaining that he may have felt her protests were role play...
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Aww you don’t think rapists should be arrested sweetheart?
I never said that, I think he should defo be arrested
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(Original post by _InnocentOne_)
Then wtf is the point of this
If it's rape get him arrested, if you don't want him to get arrested why bother with accusing him of rape
Perhaps she just wanted it clarified whether it was rape or not.
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(Original post by Waldorf67)
Says the guy who justified a man raping a woman by explaining that he may have felt her protests were role play...
Its called human interaction, people misread things.
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