feel embarrassed working in retail Watch

Helenjn
Badges: 3
Rep:
?
#1
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#1
I'm 19 and I work in stock control in a large retail store. I didn't go to university like my friends because I didn't know what I wanted to do. So I ended up unemployed for a little while before landing a job in this shop.
I've recently become more and more worried about bumping into people I used to know. Especially my friends whom I've lost contact with since they went to uni. I feel almost embarrassed to be working this job but, I know it's good to be working at all. I don't think there's any shame in working in retail but, I also feel as though I expected more of myself by now.
I know I'm making progress at getting a different job (going to get a car pretty soon which means I can cut down commuting times, so jobs/apprenticeships outside of the small place I live are much more achievable.) However, I still can't get this nagging feeling out of my head. That I'm somehow a failure for not living up to my own expectations. What would I tell a friend I lost contact with if they saw me at work? What would they think? Would they pity me? Would I be an example of bad decisions to them? I just don't know.
0
reply
cheesecakelove
Badges: 19
Rep:
?
#2
Report 1 month ago
#2
(Original post by Helenjn)
I'm 19 and I work in stock control in a large retail store. I didn't go to university like my friends because I didn't know what I wanted to do. So I ended up unemployed for a little while before landing a job in this shop.
I've recently become more and more worried about bumping into people I used to know. Especially my friends whom I've lost contact with since they went to uni. I feel almost embarrassed to be working this job but, I know it's good to be working at all. I don't think there's any shame in working in retail but, I also feel as though I expected more of myself by now.
I know I'm making progress at getting a different job (going to get a car pretty soon which means I can cut down commuting times, so jobs/apprenticeships outside of the small place I live are much more achievable.) However, I still can't get this nagging feeling out of my head. That I'm somehow a failure for not living up to my own expectations. What would I tell a friend I lost contact with if they saw me at work? What would they think? Would they pity me? Would I be an example of bad decisions to them? I just don't know.
I don't think there is anything to be ashamed of. Everyone has their own path after school/college, and university isn't for everyone. Retail might not be the most ideal job, but it is a start and you are earning money. You have plenty of time to plan and work towards the career you want - be it trying different job roles to get career ideas and experience, moving onto other fields or looking at further study or apprenticeships later down the line. Chances are you won't be at this job forever and if anyone asks you about it, you don't need to be embarrassed. Take the time to identify what you enjoy and what you want to do in life.
1
reply
MachoMadness23
Badges: 4
Rep:
?
#3
Report 1 month ago
#3
(Original post by Helenjn)
I'm 19 and I work in stock control in a large retail store. I didn't go to university like my friends because I didn't know what I wanted to do. So I ended up unemployed for a little while before landing a job in this shop.
I've recently become more and more worried about bumping into people I used to know. Especially my friends whom I've lost contact with since they went to uni. I feel almost embarrassed to be working this job but, I know it's good to be working at all. I don't think there's any shame in working in retail but, I also feel as though I expected more of myself by now.
I know I'm making progress at getting a different job (going to get a car pretty soon which means I can cut down commuting times, so jobs/apprenticeships outside of the small place I live are much more achievable.) However, I still can't get this nagging feeling out of my head. That I'm somehow a failure for not living up to my own expectations. What would I tell a friend I lost contact with if they saw me at work? What would they think? Would they pity me? Would I be an example of bad decisions to them? I just don't know.
I don’t know if this will make you feel any better but I graduated with a 2:1 degree in Human Resources and will probably be working in retail to gain experience so that I can add it to my CV. Nothing wrong with that, my friends that I know work in Primark and B&Q. At least you have a job I’m still looking for work.
1
reply
sknudson
Badges: 18
Rep:
?
#4
Report 1 month ago
#4
I have a 1st class in mortuary science and passed with credit in philosophy around the 2:2 mark. Some of my most recent jobs have included McDonalds, Holland and Barrett, and a betting shop/small casino (night manager at least). Having a degree isn't a guarantee or even a relevant marker of success nowadays it seems. You do what you have to do to keep the bills paid because there's far more shame in sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and scrounging.
0
reply
ltsmith
Badges: 19
Rep:
?
#5
Report 1 month ago
#5
???????

you're earning money, they're racking up debt.
0
reply
Emma:-)
  • Community Assistant
Badges: 19
Rep:
?
#6
Report 4 weeks ago
#6
(Original post by cheesecakelove)
I don't think there is anything to be ashamed of. Everyone has their own path after school/college, and university isn't for everyone. Retail might not be the most ideal job, but it is a start and you are earning money. You have plenty of time to plan and work towards the career you want - be it trying different job roles to get career ideas and experience, moving onto other fields or looking at further study or apprenticeships later down the line. Chances are you won't be at this job forever and if anyone asks you about it, you don't need to be embarrassed. Take the time to identify what you enjoy and what you want to do in life.
I agree
0
reply
MinaBee
Badges: 14
Rep:
?
#7
Report 4 weeks ago
#7
If I saw an old friend working in retail I really wouldn't think anything negative of them. Be proud that you're out there doing your own thing; university isn't for everyone
0
reply
swelshie
Badges: 15
Rep:
?
#8
Report 4 weeks ago
#8
Some will look down on it and judge you/gossip etc (worked in retail for a couple years after graduating). Just have to get a better job if you feel that strongly about it or learn to deal with it so it doesn't bother you. Any work is better than being unemployed imo. Agree with what other people have said about uni being a bad choice, you may well see your old friends again as colleagues in a few years time!
0
reply
Hanaaaababe
Badges: 2
Rep:
?
#9
Report 3 weeks ago
#9
People will judge you no matter what. I’m also in a similar situation too and ive been thinking what my relatives and friends will say. Don’t think about what other people said- this has ruined more dreams than anything. At least you’ve found a job as I know so many people who are unemployed for more than a year.
0
reply
bones-mccoy
Badges: 19
Rep:
?
#10
Report 3 weeks ago
#10
Don't worry about it. Working in retail will give you a lot of transferable skills. You've got your whole life to figure out what career you'd like to have, there's no rush. Anyone who judges you for working in a shop is very small minded.
3
reply
JAZZA007
Badges: 17
Rep:
?
#11
Report 3 weeks ago
#11
I am nearly 30 and working in retail. Don't worry about what others think! Everyone's career journey is different- blaze your own trail
0
reply
mrahim
Badges: 14
Rep:
?
#12
Report 3 weeks ago
#12
I think you should do what you are at ease with doing. It's how you lead a fulfilling life.
0
reply
X

Quick Reply

Attached files
Write a reply...
Reply
new posts
Latest
My Feed

See more of what you like on
The Student Room

You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

Personalise

Brexit: Given the chance now, would you vote leave or remain?

Remain (866)
80.11%
Leave (215)
19.89%

Watched Threads

View All
Latest
My Feed