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2 years ago, I started dating my boyfriend. Things got serious pretty fast, and I met his family and friends soon into the relationship. I only met his mum and dad a couple of times (separate times as they're divorced) but we got on really well.

As for his friends, it became clear straight away that we were totally different people. I've always been shy while they were a huge rowdy group (basically lads), so I often felt intimidated around them. Although I was quiet around them, I would always be respectful and kind.

Just over a year down the line, my boyfriend cheated on me. To justify the situation (his words not mine), he told his friends and family that he wasn't happy in the relationship and listed every argument we'd ever had, and every time he'd felt unhappy. I'm not sure if you'd call this lies or just megga exaggeration, but whatever it was, it resulted in his friends and family thinking that I'm this horrible, manipulative woman who was making him miserable.

As my boyfriend is literally an angel in his mum's eyes (bit of a mummy's boy) and is never honest about when he's in the wrong, I sent her a text to let her know that we had broken up because he had cheated on me. I received no reply from her, and no acknowledgement that she had even received the text.

After a month of being apart, we decided to give things another go. My boyfriend had been trying to get in contact for the whole month and apologised and owned up to his mistakes. After a LOT of work, we finally got back on track and things went back to normal.

The problem is, his family and friends still hate me after everything he'd said to them to justify the cheating. I asked him multiple times if he was happy with me, and he insists that he is and always has been, and that he said those things purely to justify the cheating. He has spoken to his friends and family and told them this, but the damage is done and they still believe that I'm manipulating him into staying with me or something.

This situation is so hard for me, being made out to be the bad guy when I was in fact the victim. His mum straught up ignores me on the rare occasion that I see her, and his friends still occasionally mention to my boyfriend that he should break up with me. What makes matters worse is that my mum has actually been able to forgive my boyfriend for the cheating, but his mum refuses to like me?

It's really beginning to feel like it's me against the world, and every time my boyfriend and I argue I worry that he will speak to those around him and they will hate me even more. What should I do?
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Leave this manipulative bf and toxic relationship ASAP.
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(Original post by Amb28)
2 years ago, I started dating my boyfriend. Things got serious pretty fast, and I met his family and friends soon into the relationship. I only met his mum and dad a couple of times (separate times as they're divorced) but we got on really well.

As for his friends, it became clear straight away that we were totally different people. I've always been shy while they were a huge rowdy group (basically lads), so I often felt intimidated around them. Although I was quiet around them, I would always be respectful and kind.

Just over a year down the line, my boyfriend cheated on me. To justify the situation (his words not mine), he told his friends and family that he wasn't happy in the relationship and listed every argument we'd ever had, and every time he'd felt unhappy. I'm not sure if you'd call this lies or just megga exaggeration, but whatever it was, it resulted in his friends and family thinking that I'm this horrible, manipulative woman who was making him miserable.

As my boyfriend is literally an angel in his mum's eyes (bit of a mummy's boy) and is never honest about when he's in the wrong, I sent her a text to let her know that we had broken up because he had cheated on me. I received no reply from her, and no acknowledgement that she had even received the text.

After a month of being apart, we decided to give things another go. My boyfriend had been trying to get in contact for the whole month and apologised and owned up to his mistakes. After a LOT of work, we finally got back on track and things went back to normal.

The problem is, his family and friends still hate me after everything he'd said to them to justify the cheating. I asked him multiple times if he was happy with me, and he insists that he is and always has been, and that he said those things purely to justify the cheating. He has spoken to his friends and family and told them this, but the damage is done and they still believe that I'm manipulating him into staying with me or something.

This situation is so hard for me, being made out to be the bad guy when I was in fact the victim. His mum straught up ignores me on the rare occasion that I see her, and his friends still occasionally mention to my boyfriend that he should break up with me. What makes matters worse is that my mum has actually been able to forgive my boyfriend for the cheating, but his mum refuses to like me?

It's really beginning to feel like it's me against the world, and every time my boyfriend and I argue I worry that he will speak to those around him and they will hate me even more. What should I do?
If he is mummy's boy you will never change this.

More than this, if he lied about you, than your best choice would be to run away.
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