I’m not lesbian but i get turned on by girls

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This will confuse a hell alot of people. Okay so here it goes,
I am straight. Like i love boys, obsessed with them and can fall in love so quickly with them. I see myself getting married to a boy, having kids with him ect. However much recently I’ve been getting attraction to girl but not in a romantic way at all... just sexually. I find them to be so hot and when ever i watch lesbian porn it turns me on alot!! Don’t get me wrong i think boys are so hot and i would definitely not turn them down but if i had to choose between a one night stand with a boy and one night stand with a girl i would choose the girl. I find myself fantasising about girls and i want to sleep with a girl (but I can’t because i am a restricted asian girl lol) anyways i enjoy thinking about girls in a sexual way but if i think about getting into a relationship with one I don’t really find it to be something i want. I used to have a lesbian best friend and i used to think alot about sleeping with her but never thought of being in a relationship with her... Is this a wrong feeling? What am i feeling? Am i even straight? I just need help.
Ps. I read something about being hetroromantic homosexual... is that an actual thing or is it fake? What do i tell people? Ugh I’m so confused! Helppp meee pleaseee!!
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This will confuse a hell alot of people. Okay so here it goes,
I am straight. Like i love boys, obsessed with them and can fall in love so quickly with them. I see myself getting married to a boy, having kids with him ect. However much recently I’ve been getting attraction to girl but not in a romantic way at all... just sexually. I find them to be so hot and when ever i watch lesbian porn it turns me on alot!! Don’t get me wrong i think boys are so hot and i would definitely not turn them down but if i had to choose between a one night stand with a boy and one night stand with a girl i would choose the girl. I find myself fantasising about girls and i want to sleep with a girl (but I can’t because i am a restricted asian girl lol) anyways i enjoy thinking about girls in a sexual way but if i think about getting into a relationship with one I don’t really find it to be something i want. I used to have a lesbian best friend and i used to think alot about sleeping with her but never thought of being in a relationship with her... Is this a wrong feeling? What am i feeling? Am i even straight? I just need help.
Ps. I read something about being hetroromantic homosexual... is that an actual thing or is it fake? What do i tell people? Ugh I’m so confused! Helppp meee pleaseee!!
Sounds like you're bi.

Sexuality is about who you are sexually attracted to. You're sexually attracted to men and women, so I would say you're bi. Nothing wrong with your feelings.
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But if i say i am bi doesn’t that mean i want to be in a relationship with both girls and boys... I don’t want to be in a relationship with a girl just want to be in a relationship with a boy. Wouldn’t that confuse people?
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bi romantic exists
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Girls, as in, human girls?

If you're talking humans then you're probably gay.
However, if we're talking like, animals. I had a sexual experience with a lion seal and that got of good, we were the same gender though.

As I say: as long as it's legal (with exceptions)

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same
Wait you understand how i feel??
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A lot of women get turned on by seeing other women turned on. Often that is why women watch lesbian porn. The majority of lesbian porn is watched by women, not men. There are a lot of books about the fact that women are more likely to be turned on by things that are sexually relevant than men are. These are things that involve sex but are not sex that is happening to that person at that moment. Scientific studies have shown women clips of animals having sex, two men having sex, two women, even sex that seemed to be non consenting and while the women had said that they were obviously against bestiality, rape or that they were straight and not interested in women, it was found that they experienced subconscious arousal during these clips.

Women are more empathic when it comes to sex and arousal so if you know you fall in love with men and only want to date men, you're probably straight and getting turned on by sexually relevant content. If you do want to sleep with girls and boy there's nothing wrong with being bi. Also, try not to feel the need to define yourself. Have sex with and love whoever you want and when you find a label that suits what you feel you can use it, if there is never a label then you can just be you
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This will confuse a hell alot of people. Okay so here it goes,
I am straight. Like i love boys, obsessed with them and can fall in love so quickly with them. I see myself getting married to a boy, having kids with him ect. However much recently I’ve been getting attraction to girl but not in a romantic way at all... just sexually. I find them to be so hot and when ever i watch lesbian porn it turns me on alot!! Don’t get me wrong i think boys are so hot and i would definitely not turn them down but if i had to choose between a one night stand with a boy and one night stand with a girl i would choose the girl. I find myself fantasising about girls and i want to sleep with a girl (but I can’t because i am a restricted asian girl lol) anyways i enjoy thinking about girls in a sexual way but if i think about getting into a relationship with one I don’t really find it to be something i want. I used to have a lesbian best friend and i used to think alot about sleeping with her but never thought of being in a relationship with her... Is this a wrong feeling? What am i feeling? Am i even straight? I just need help.
Ps. I read something about being hetroromantic homosexual... is that an actual thing or is it fake? What do i tell people? Ugh I’m so confused! Helppp meee pleaseee!!
ssounds like you are bisexual.
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I have always been heterosexual, but considered myself bi-curious because, like you, I enjoyed watching lesbian porn and thought I might like to experience sex with a woman. I'm an older student, because I waited years to do my post-graduate work, and I've noticed that the people I am in school with now (who are a lot younger than I am) are a lot more sexually fluid than when I was an undergrad. They are attracted to both men and women and they don't necessarily want to be labeled as "gay," or "straight," or "bisexual." It's totally normal and natural for you to be attracted to both men and women, and to be curious about having sex with a woman, even if you've only dated men previously. You don't have to worry about labels if you don't want to. It's no one's business but your own who you are attracted to.
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Don't worry about trying to define your sexuality at the minuite, though it sounds like you could be bisexual. I am bisexual but was 110% convinced that I was only into guys for the same exact reason for literally YEARS. I could only picture myself being in relationships with guys and never women!

My advice is not to think about whether you like girls or guys but to consider whether you would date or be intimate with SPECIFIC ppl, like.. say in the lesbian porn you watched you liked a girl called 'Max' or 'Bella' or something (idk man) just picture yourself with those individuals regardless of gender. Also, ppl in porn, unsuprisingly, aren't ussually marriage or relationship material so you might find that if you watch romantic lesbian films or other romance films with straight girls, that you like some of the women and could possibly want to be in a relationship with one of them! I was only ever really attracted to girls in real life after accepting (even just a little) that I liked girls in films and tv shows. So if you're convinced that you're straight -not saying that you're not- but that closes you off to liking girls quite a lot.

To be honest, fantasies about being in committed relationships with girls aren't often that EXCITING, I'm pretty sure that everyone thinks more about having sex etc with ppl than holding their hands or whatever. I think that relationships can seem cooler when they really happen than in your head.

Also, due to our heteronormative society, you've presumably never really seen lesbian relationships in books, the media, conversations, etc, and therefore never really thought about them. It was totally new terrain for me too ( and probs most lgbt ppl idk) cos it's not something that you're expecting or that you have any idea how to navgate. I still don't lol !

Tbh, it's really good that you can talk about the fact that you're a little confused, even if it's just online. I couldn't even think about it for ages. Not asian or but I have a friend who's bi and muslim and I think she's struggled w it quite a bit so I think it's a common issue- good luck.

By the way, it's fully possible that you're straight and that I'm just automatically picking up on things which could mean that your bi beacause of my own experiences. Just remind yourself that there's no pressure to make a descision regarding your sexuality cos its literally NOT a descision lol! Good luck
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i feel exactly the same as this
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I consider myself bisexual and this is exactly how I feel. You don't have to put a label on yourself straight away though.
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You might be bi sexual you like guys and girls liking girls is not a bad thing so girls have boy friends and get them to get it on with another girl
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Dude finaly someone whom can relate!

My homies always take the michael cos i like zacc effrons batty

from man to man i can respect a fine, tight arse. Doesnt make me gay
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I am biromantic heterosexual
You might be bisexual hetero-romantic. (Attracted to dudes only, wants to be in bed with both males and females’
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I haven't read the other replies on here yet, but there are plenty of reasons for being turned on by girls that aren't strictly being lesbian!

1. Considering you are watching lesbian porn, it is directed and written to make both guys and girls horny - you could just be getting turned on by the sexual acts you are seeing.
2. If you have examined your feelings and determined you are attracted to both guys and girls, then to be honest that's all there is to it! You only need a label if you're comfortable with it! If you do want a label, there are a few you could use (although homosexual heteromantic is a specific one, it determines very specific attractions to the two genders): Bisexual, attraction towards two genders, Pansexual, attraction regardless of gender, or heteroflexible/homoflexible, meaning you are generally heterosexual/homosexual, but if you saw a few rare people of the sex you are not generally attracted to you could be attracted to them.

Hope this helps!
(Original post by Arianarose03)
This will confuse a hell alot of people. Okay so here it goes,
I am straight. Like i love boys, obsessed with them and can fall in love so quickly with them. I see myself getting married to a boy, having kids with him ect. However much recently I’ve been getting attraction to girl but not in a romantic way at all... just sexually. I find them to be so hot and when ever i watch lesbian porn it turns me on alot!! Don’t get me wrong i think boys are so hot and i would definitely not turn them down but if i had to choose between a one night stand with a boy and one night stand with a girl i would choose the girl. I find myself fantasising about girls and i want to sleep with a girl (but I can’t because i am a restricted asian girl lol) anyways i enjoy thinking about girls in a sexual way but if i think about getting into a relationship with one I don’t really find it to be something i want. I used to have a lesbian best friend and i used to think alot about sleeping with her but never thought of being in a relationship with her... Is this a wrong feeling? What am i feeling? Am i even straight? I just need help.
Ps. I read something about being hetroromantic homosexual... is that an actual thing or is it fake? What do i tell people? Ugh I’m so confused! Helppp meee pleaseee!!
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OMG I'm the same! I like girls sexually but not dating, I like guys romantically but not sexually!!
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OMG I'm the same! I like girls sexually but not dating, I like guys romantically but not sexually!!
And so what? thats fine.
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This will confuse a hell alot of people. Okay so here it goes,
I am straight. Like i love boys, obsessed with them and can fall in love so quickly with them. I see myself getting married to a boy, having kids with him ect. However much recently I’ve been getting attraction to girl but not in a romantic way at all... just sexually. I find them to be so hot and when ever i watch lesbian porn it turns me on alot!! Don’t get me wrong i think boys are so hot and i would definitely not turn them down but if i had to choose between a one night stand with a boy and one night stand with a girl i would choose the girl. I find myself fantasising about girls and i want to sleep with a girl (but I can’t because i am a restricted asian girl lol) anyways i enjoy thinking about girls in a sexual way but if i think about getting into a relationship with one I don’t really find it to be something i want. I used to have a lesbian best friend and i used to think alot about sleeping with her but never thought of being in a relationship with her... Is this a wrong feeling? What am i feeling? Am i even straight? I just need help.
Ps. I read something about being hetroromantic homosexual... is that an actual thing or is it fake? What do i tell people? Ugh I’m so confused! Helppp meee pleaseee!!
I think you just want to experiment and experience different relationships and that's okay most people feel this way
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