Is sleeping with someone on the third date too soon? Watch

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Realistically I want to wait until AFTER the third date because I want to find out his true intentions. He’s convinced me he doesn’t just want sex but most boys say that just to jump into bed with you. I really like him, therefore I want to wait. I’m just worried we will kiss and then it’ll turn into something more and I’ll be so annoyed and upset with myself. If it does happen, is it’s slutty to sleep on the third date??
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Realistically I want to wait until AFTER the third date because I want to find out his true intentions. He’s convinced me he doesn’t just want sex but most boys say that just to jump into bed with you. I really like him, therefore I want to wait. I’m just worried we will kiss and then it’ll turn into something more and I’ll be so annoyed and upset with myself. If it does happen, is it’s slutty to sleep on the third date??
Despite what magazine articles tell you, it doesn't matter when you sleep with a guy. A guy who is only after hookups will still ditch you even if you made him wait 10 dates. You can't force a man to commit.

Also, it's not slutty to sleep with someone on the third date. The only rule when it comes to sex is to only have sex when you want to do it.

Also, third date and not having kissed seems a bit OTT to me. Kisses are not just sexual. They can also be very romantic and just affectionate too.

Making a guy wait for sex in the hopes that he will commit to you is just silly and playing games. Don't play games. Just be upfront and tell him that you don't want a hookup but a relationship. If he feels the same, that's great. If he doesn't, at least you know not to waste your time on him.
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It's not slutty for you to decide when you feel ready for a sexual relationship.
If he's worth knowing he'll respect your decision and wait until you want to progress the relationship to the next level.
If not, you'll know.
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(Original post by ihatespongebob)
Despite what magazine articles tell you, it doesn't matter when you sleep with a guy. A guy who is only after hookups will still ditch you even if you made him wait 10 dates. You can't force a man to commit.

Also, it's not slutty to sleep with someone on the third date. The only rule when it comes to sex is to only have sex when you want to do it.

Also, third date and not having kissed seems a bit OTT to me. Kisses are not just sexual. They can also be very romantic and just affectionate too.

Making a guy wait for sex in the hopes that he will commit to you is just silly and playing games. Don't play games. Just be upfront and tell him that you don't want a hookup but a relationship. If he feels the same, that's great. If he doesn't, at least you know not to waste your time on him.
Thank you! Yes this is so true
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Why would it be? You don't need us to tell you what is too soon. If you're ready, then you're ready.
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if you want it he probably wants it too. the time will come
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If she doesn't f*** on a third date, I'm gone. Make of that what you will.
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