Are marriage proposals patriarchal/sexist?Watch this thread
There's a notion that this is inherently sexist/patriarchal as essentially the man who decides whether or not the woman is worthy or making such a profound commitment and the pace in which the relationship moves.
Many believe that in a more egalitarian society, women would feel confident to propose to their partners at a similar rate, or the proposal for marriage would take more of a joint decision format.
And no a guy proposing is not sexist.
i think your idea of 'proposal' is more romantic/old-fashioned than it is in practice tho. in reality most marriage proposals are in 'joint decision format'. most couples discuss when/if they wanna get married long before they actually get engaged since no one wants to propose if the other person isn't thinking about marriage at all. in reality, the proposal is the special day the ring comes out and 'that day' might be a surprise, but it's not like the person being proposed to didn't know it was coming. not really like how it is in the movies.