Are marriage proposals patriarchal/sexist?

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This is an argument I have seen come up more recently. Within most heterosexual relationships of Western society, it is typically the man who proposes marriage to the woman. Even in many homosexual relationships, partners often assume masculine or feminine roles, and typically the more masculine partner is the one who proposes.

There's a notion that this is inherently sexist/patriarchal as essentially the man who decides whether or not the woman is worthy or making such a profound commitment and the pace in which the relationship moves.

Many believe that in a more egalitarian society, women would feel confident to propose to their partners at a similar rate, or the proposal for marriage would take more of a joint decision format.

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Whoever wants to propose should propose, theres no right or wrong answer

And no a guy proposing is not sexist.
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if a woman thought it was inherently patriarchal/sexist as you say OP, then she would have no problem doing the proposing and she's definitely in a relationship where the traditional gender roles are flexible, otherwise she wouldn't be in that relationship. so, for that couple at least 'who does the proposing' isn't a gender role issue at all.

i think your idea of 'proposal' is more romantic/old-fashioned than it is in practice tho. in reality most marriage proposals are in 'joint decision format'. most couples discuss when/if they wanna get married long before they actually get engaged since no one wants to propose if the other person isn't thinking about marriage at all. in reality, the proposal is the special day the ring comes out and 'that day' might be a surprise, but it's not like the person being proposed to didn't know it was coming. not really like how it is in the movies.
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It's very sexist.
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You know that the women can say no, right?
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Here's something that is patriarchal/sexist...

https://www.memri.org/tv/egyptian-de...n-defuse-anger
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spend thousand pounds for women for nothing, british woman's are too much complex😀
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