My mum keeps putting me down when i want to work??

So i found a local volunteer centre in my area and decided to look on the website. I saw multiple opportunities to volunteer at charity shops or help the elderly so i applied for multiple. I ended up accepting the one closest to my house and getting a taster session on Monday for today. I also got interviews for paying jobs e.g subway and a restaurant. But i thought the volunteer one would be easier since it’s only 5 minutes away. I told my mum about the restaurant one and she literally said that i probably won’t get it. When i told her about the subway one she said the same thing and then when i told her i was going to volunteer today she also said “ you won’t like it anyway. no point.” each time i get a job interview she literally keeps saying things like that and she’ll laugh at the end. If my CV was shortlisted doesn’t that mean maybe i have a chance at getting the job? I don’t know why but it really makes me upset cus then i worry i won’t actually get it. I applied for oxfam ages ago and the day came to start and as i left she started making remarks. I ended up going back home as soon as i got there because of that. I know i shouldn’t let it get to me but i usually take what people say to heart. The main reason i’m looking for a job/volunteering is for work experience. I’d like to get a part time job while going to college but you need some sort of experience. The only experience i have is babysitting which doesn’t relate to any jobs i’m interested in. Therefore, i assumed if i did some volunteering it would help me out for next year if i wanted to find a summer job or something. She knows this yet she still puts me down? I don’t really get it to be honest. I told her many times that she doesn’t know if i’d get it or not as she isn’t the employer but she just says “oh i know you won’t.” it confuses me cause she literally told me a week ago to look for a job but when i do she has a problem? She asked when i was leaving because she wanted me to make lunch for her and my sister and i said in 20 minutes and she laughed and said “you’re going to work?” I really don’t get it and it’s actually hurtful.

The best thing you can do is better yourself without her knowing which is difficult. Remember there are other people out there who will appreciate your hard work and grafting so don't let her get to you.

You have your head screwed on the right way and doing some planning for your future. Tell her mum and the sister to get their own lunch.
Go down the voluntary route as it will look good for your CV in the future.

So i found a local volunteer centre in my area and decided to look on the website. I saw multiple opportunities to volunteer at charity shops or help the elderly so i applied for multiple. I ended up accepting the one closest to my house and getting a taster session on Monday for today. I also got interviews for paying jobs e.g subway and a restaurant. But i thought the volunteer one would be easier since it’s only 5 minutes away. I told my mum about the restaurant one and she literally said that i probably won’t get it. When i told her about the subway one she said the same thing and then when i told her i was going to volunteer today she also said “ you won’t like it anyway. no point.” each time i get a job interview she literally keeps saying things like that and she’ll laugh at the end. If my CV was shortlisted doesn’t that mean maybe i have a chance at getting the job? I don’t know why but it really makes me upset cus then i worry i won’t actually get it. I applied for oxfam ages ago and the day came to start and as i left she started making remarks. I ended up going back home as soon as i got there because of that. I know i shouldn’t let it get to me but i usually take what people say to heart. The main reason i’m looking for a job/volunteering is for work experience. I’d like to get a part time job while going to college but you need some sort of experience. The only experience i have is babysitting which doesn’t relate to any jobs i’m interested in. Therefore, i assumed if i did some volunteering it would help me out for next year if i wanted to find a summer job or something. She knows this yet she still puts me down? I don’t really get it to be honest. I told her many times that she doesn’t know if i’d get it or not as she isn’t the employer but she just says “oh i know you won’t.” it confuses me cause she literally told me a week ago to look for a job but when i do she has a problem? She asked when i was leaving because she wanted me to make lunch for her and my sister and i said in 20 minutes and she laughed and said “you’re going to work?” I really don’t get it and it’s actually hurtful.

I think there is a line between wanting to hang onto children which Is perfectly natural - and putting children down and belittling them. When that happens, parents are the losers and the result is that they will reap what they sow and their children will distance themselves when they do fly the nest.