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so basically my bf every time we have sex keeps trying to put it in my bum at first he would say sorry and that it was an accident but then recently he said he wanted to have anal sex I said no I would not be comfortable with it and he got into a hissy fit and he keeps pestering me, I don't want to finish it but he is annoying me by asking so much that it is putting me off having sex all together, advice?
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Tell him either no anal or no sex at all. How old are you?
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Does he not fully lube you up before trying to put it in? If so, I can fully understand why you are so against it. He's a complete idiot if he's been trying to put it in dry, or with just a bit of spit.
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dumb your porn sick boyfriend anal is not pleasurable for women and do not be pressured into this ask him is he minds being pegged first? men have their prostate up there so it would actually be pleasurble for him he will soon change his tune. Honestly dont let him guilt you sounds like he watches to much porn. Ask your self why he wants you to participate in a sex act you wouldnt enjoy?
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dumb your porn sick boyfriend anal is not pleasurable for women and do not be pressured into this ask him is he minds being pegged first? men have their prostate up there so it would actually be pleasurble for him he will soon change his tune. Honestly dont let him guilt you sounds like he watches to much porn. Ask your self why he wants you to participate in a sex act you wouldnt enjoy?
It's the pantomine season. So: oh yes it is!!

Behind you!!


Anal is highly pleasurable and is a great way to give women very strong orgasms.
When it's done right.
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It's the pantomine season. So: oh yes it is!!

Behind you!!


Anal is highly pleasurable and is a great way to give women very strong orgasms.
When it's done right.
please dont listen to pathetic porn sick men who have proberly never given any woman an oragsm and learned everything they no about sex from porn
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please dont listen to pathetic porn sick men who have proberly never given any woman an oragsm and learned everything they no about sex from porn
Would you like to speak to my last 4 girlfriends and ask them about it?

I'm only passing on what they've told me.

It's not my fault if you've never done anal properly and therefore have no first hand experience of what I'm talking about.
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Would you like to speak to my last 4 girlfriends and ask them about it?

I'm only passing on what they've told me.

It's not my fault if you've never done anal properly and therefore have no idea what you are talking about.
lmaooooooo k babe ill be sure to ask your last 4 girlfriends who im sure you gave plennnnty of orgasms to
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lmaooooooo k babe ill be sure to ask your last 4 girlfriends who im sure you gave plennnnty of orgasms to
The sad fact of the matter - and this is an ongoing theme of my posts on this forum - is that it's not difficult for any man to help any woman (of able body and mind) to have orgasms often enough with a reasonable proportion of them being strong one or multiple ones. But, there are far too many men that can't or don't do this.

The OP's boyfriend - from what we've been told so far - appears to be another man with unsatisfactory love making skills.

The Dunning Kruger effect applies to too many men when it comes to their love-making ability.

This general level of love-making ability from men also leads to a lowering of expectations amongst women. To the point where you have people like radbir who are convinced that certain potentially highly pleasurable sex acts for women are not pleasurable for them. With anal, do it wrong and it's a pain in the butt. Do it right and it's a strong orgasm. You can learn how to do it right in 5 minutes. And that's just one example. There are other orgasm inducing love making techniques involving the vaginal area that can be learnt in 5 to 20 minutes.
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please dont listen to pathetic porn sick men who have proberly never given any woman an oragsm and learned everything they no about sex from porn
Sick? you do realise most men would try it if given the chance, yes? OP has a douchey bf but not because he wants to try anal. It's because he's being unnecessarily pushy when he has already explicitly told no.

OP, if he keeps doing this DUMP. Plenty of men who aren't assh*les. No pun intended.
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The sad fact of the matter - and this is an ongoing theme of my posts on this forum - is that it's not difficult for any man to help any woman (of able body and mind) to have orgasms often enough with a reasonable proportion of them being strong one or multiple ones. But, there are far too many men that can't or don't do this.

The OP's boyfriend - from what we've been told so far - appears to be another man with unsatisfactory love making skills.

The Dunning Kruger effect applies to too many men when it comes to their love-making ability.

This general level of love-making ability from men also leads to a lowering of expectations amongst women. To the point where you have people like radbir who are convinced that certain potentially highly pleasurable sex acts for women are not pleasurable for them. With anal, do it wrong and it's a pain in the butt. Do it right and it's a strong orgasm. You can learn how to do it right in 5 minutes. And that's just one example. There are other orgasm inducing love making techniques involving the vaginal area that can be learnt in 5 to 20 minutes.
Lmaoo your so delusional and clearly dont understand womens biology. Your literally trying to explain to me how women work. For women there is nothing to gain from anal there is nothing there to give women pleasure. Maybe if she is also reciveving clitoral stimulation she could get some sense of pleasure but this is not from the anal and as the vast vast majority of women do not want or like anal its unlikely she would be able to feel much pleassure. This is just biology honeslty your just embarrassing to listen to with this **** :')
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Lmaoo your so delusional and clearly dont understand womens biology. Your literally trying to explain to me how women work. For women there is nothing to gain from anal there is nothing there to give women pleasure. Maybe if she is also reciveving clitoral stimulation she could get some sense of pleasure but this is not from the anal and as the vast vast majority of women do not want or like anal its unlikely she would be able to feel much pleassure. This is just biology honeslty your just embarrassing to listen to with this **** :'
No you are wrong. Women can and do have orgasms from anal alone. That is a fact. My speculation is that this comes from stimulation of the nerve cluster at the rear vaginal deep spot.
When anal is combined with some clitoral stimulation, stronger orgams are likely to ensue than from clitoral stimulation alone.

Just because you have no first hand experience of this, please do not label label people who have as "delusional". As I said before, it's not my fault if you've never had anal done properly to you. It's not my fault if all of your lovers have not been good enough to open you up to the delights of anal and if you therefore have low expectations of this form of sex.


Amongst the women I know well enough to candidly describe sex, all of the ones that have had properly lubed anal have loved it and gotten a great amount of pleasure from it. All of the ones that have had it dry or with a bit of spit have hated it.



You'll be telling me that orgasms from no clitoral stimulation whatsoever are not possible next! And that I'm delusional if I think they're possible.
Try opening your mind and stop being so narrow minded on this subject.
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Tell him no emphatically and that you will never do it. If he keeps trying to force you or if he keeps pestering you, then just dump him. He sounds like an immature a-hole anyway.
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Lmaoo your so delusional and clearly dont understand womens biology. Your literally trying to explain to me how women work. For women there is nothing to gain from anal there is nothing there to give women pleasure. Maybe if she is also reciveving clitoral stimulation she could get some sense of pleasure but this is not from the anal and as the vast vast majority of women do not want or like anal its unlikely she would be able to feel much pleassure. This is just biology honeslty your just embarrassing to listen to with this **** :')
You might be getting upvotes from the prudes of TSR, but you're totally wrong. Firstly, you'd be very surprised at the number of girls who have tried anal sex, with around 20% of women in relationships between 20 and 40 having tried it, according to a survey I saw. The anus has a lot of nerve endings and is considered an erogenous zone, plus the skin between the anus and vagina is quite thin and vaginal orgasm is possible through anal sex. There's also the fact that anal sex can be very exciting, and heighten the intensity of orgasms when the vagina or clitoris is also stimulated.
The girl I've been seeing for a year now is huge on anal. I'm the first guy she's done it with and like vaginal sex, it can be uncomfortable the first time, but with repeated bouts it can start to feel great.
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Tell him no emphatically and that you will never do it. If he keeps trying to force you or if he keeps pestering you, then just dump him. He sounds like an immature a-hole anyway.
I agree. This is very much a case of it aint what you do it's the way that you do it.

From the boyfriends point of view, just trying to poke it in, with what appears to be no or minimal preparation is unrealistic and demonstrates a lack of knowledge and experience therefore maturity on his part. Lying about it being an accident is immature too. As is throwing a hissy fit over it.

Successful anal in this scenario is all about emotional, mental and physical preparation. None of which this boyfriend appears to have done.

From the boyfriends point of view, if he wants to do anal and his girlfriend doesn't, even after he's done the emotional and mental preparation bit, then he has the option to dump her and move onto someone more sexually compatible with him. There's no law that says that women are obliged to like or even do anal and it's the right of every woman to not engage in this sexual act if they don't want to. But then there's also no law that says that any man has to stay with a girlfriend that is not sexually adventurous or open minded enough for his tastes.
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so basically my bf every time we have sex keeps trying to put it in my bum at first he would say sorry and that it was an accident but then recently he said he wanted to have anal sex I said no I would not be comfortable with it and he got into a hissy fit and he keeps pestering me, I don't want to finish it but he is annoying me by asking so much that it is putting me off having sex all together, advice?
maybe your boyfriend loves you but thinks you're boring in bed?
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You don't have to have anal sex with him, but then he also doesn't need to be in a relationship with you. If all he wants is sex then either you need to work with this, or you need to tell him to get a new girlfriend.
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(Original post by Ella P)
so basically my bf every time we have sex keeps trying to put it in my bum at first he would say sorry and that it was an accident but then recently he said he wanted to have anal sex I said no I would not be comfortable with it and he got into a hissy fit and he keeps pestering me, I don't want to finish it but he is annoying me by asking so much that it is putting me off having sex all together, advice?
drop him, if he doesnt respect your wishes (especially during sex), then he´s not good for you
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Tell him exactly what you wrote. Doesn't sound too mature or nice either.
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