First relationship at college or uni?Watch
I’ve just found out that my crush doesn’t like me which in a strange way is a relief because I’d been walking on egg shells around him trying not to make a muppet of myself but tbh I haven’t been v ‘me’ which I think might have put him off. He’s fit as hell, clever, doing 3 of the same a levels as me and is genuinely sweet and caring especially for his family. A few other girls have asked him out in the past and he said no. I went to a different school for my GCSEs but still knew him so I asked him to my prom as a friend and he said yes (apparently he didn’t know if it was actually as a friend) so I’ve gotten further than anyone else. While I appreciate that I got his best friend to ask him if he fancied me and he said no I wonder if there might still be a chance in the future but rn he said no so I’ve gotta move on.
Is it better to have your first relationship at 6th form/college or at uni? There are other guys that I like but I don’t want to force anything that’s not meant to be and obviously a levels have to come first but equally I worry that going into uni with no experience could be a bit of a gamble. Surely experimenting at home is much safer than going out one night during freshers and loosing it then? I just don’t want to do anything I’m gonna regret. I want to loose it in a relationship where I trust and feel safe with the other person but I also have massive fomo and don’t want to miss opportunities in the hope of a ‘better one’
Idk if any of this makes sense but any opinions/ experiences would be much appreciated
However seeing as you bumped this I will expand on what Zarek said.
The when and where you have your first relationship is less important than the who and why. It's better if you do it with someone you love and who loves you and you do it because you love each other. Doing it with the first person that will have you, just so you can break your duck is OK, but it won't be as pleasurably memorable.
It's impossible to say when you will meet your first love. As meeting romatic partners is a game of both skill and luck.