(Original post by Anonymous)
So I'm 22 and I've never had a boyfriend. But I have slept with so many guys that I have lost count. Please do not judge me. I find it very upsetting and lonely. Where can I meet decent men? Most men just want my p****. 😓 I want to fall in love and have a boyfriend I think it is a beautiful thing. Especially when my close friend has just got engaged. I have fears I might be older and single forever. Like will anyone ever like me. 😢😢 also there is nothing wrong with my appearance. X
Can you give me some advice on what to do? Thank you
Honestly, from my experience, it doesn’t matter how long you make a guy wait for sex. If he wasn’t willing to commit from the start, he isn’t suddenly going to commit to you after making him wait 3 months for sex. He will just find someone else to have sex with while he waits for you to give it up.
If you want to meet a decent guy, the best thing to do is go to places where you can meet people. Go to clubs that suits your hobbies, e.g. book clubs, pottery classes, etc.
However, if you are feeling upset and lonely, this may be a sign that you aren’t completely content with yourself yet. Relationships shouldn’t be the sole focus of your life. It should just add to it. I used to be sad about being single too but I stopped feeling sad when I had things to make my life busy and fun so that I didn’t feel so bad about single.
You can also look at the positives of being single. Your friend who is getting married will have way less time to herself than you. You can make spontaneous plans without having to consult with someone whilst your friend can’t.
Also, you shouldn’t feel ashamed about how many men you have slept with. As long as you used protection, there is nothing wrong with it.