Boyfriend went limp during sex for the first time????

Hi everyone! My boyfriend and I have been dating a little over a year. I am 24 and he is 33… I find him attractive even though he is very unhappy with his body he has a bit of a tummy and always says he wants to loose weight. We have sex atleast 2-3 times a week. I love having sex with him he turns me on he always gets hard. Until this one time recently.. I wanted to have morning sex and we started to do it and mid way (he was using a condom) his penis became limp/soft something that has NEVER happened while I had sex with him.. It was shocking and honestly made me so upset I wanted to cry. He started stroking it on his own to get hard again which made me feel worse. I understand I am being selfish but I cant help but think is he not attracted to me anymore? Do I not turn him on? Whats wrong? Because this never happened before. And no he does not do drugs, doesnt drink a lot, I really am 99.9% he’s not cheating… I am pretty sure he doesnt watch loads of porn.. What do you guys think? I am so upset. I expressed how I was upset to him and how that never happened before and he said: “It happens to all guys once in a while..” Help anyone?? What do you guys think?

Reply 1

sandytablet

It sounds like maybe he has performance anxiety, and his insecurities over his body are maybe too much for him to the point that it's distracted him from the sex?

Reply 2

Josh Lyman

Original post by bellanicole

I think you’re reading too much into it. It only happened once and maybe he wasn’t feeling it so early in the morning?

(edited 5 years ago)

Reply 3

tuftyispie

Original post by bellanicole

You're definitely overreacting. Its most likely that if he has body image issues, he just got nervous and anxious. If he is attracted to you he is MORE likely to be anxious about having sex because he wants to impress you. Or it could just be because it's in the morning, his mind might be on over things and maybe he had a bad nights sleep.

As he said, “It happens to all guys once in a while..”.

Lastly, I would avoid bringing it up with him as he is probably very embarrassed about it and is probably thinking about it even more than you.

Reply 4

Mr Optimist

The most common reason for such a thing (erectile dysfunction) is psychological. However, if this become a persistant problem, he will need to see his GP for a blood test to check his blood sugar and testosterone levels etc. There is no reason for you to get overly anxious regarding this matter, sometimes these things can just happen. Don't think too much into it, especially given it's only the first time it has happened.

Reply 5

Dunnig Kruger

I think the opening post reads very much like a troll.

Who has regular sex which is great, and then feels like crying because one time the boyfriend lost his erection?

Answer: no-one.

Anyone in that situation would just shrug it off or laugh it off. And then carry on with their sex lives as normal after that.

Reply 6

A Rolling Stone

Original post by bellanicole

*lose

Reply 7

Randyyy

It happens to the best of us

Reply 8

Notoriety

Original post by Dunnig Kruger

Plenty of women are like this.

Shagged plenty like this meself. Moaning cos you don't feel like shagging the 5th time that day; "aren't I pretty any more". This is the risk every lad runs when he bangs an insecure chica.