Girlfriend would Rather Date Anime Character

Me and my girlfriend are 18 and have been going out for about 3 months, and we have been getting on very well. She is quite into anime and is always talking about anime boys she likes, with one boy being her favourite (Shoto Todoroki).

Recently I asked her if she would rather date me or this boy (if he was real), and she said honestly that she would pick the anime character. Is this normal in relationships (but maybe with models, actors or porn stars instead)? It makes me feel kinda inadequate that no matter how hard I try, for her I will always be second best to someone who doesn't exist.

Reply 1

username3774332

22

they. are. fictional.

you would rather have her fantasize over fictional guys rather than friends or actors.

(edited 5 years ago)

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

She watches hentai

How does that make you feel?

Reply 3

kkboyk

21

Original post by Anonymous

Me and my girlfriend are 18 and have been going out for about 3 months, and we have been getting on very well. She is quite into anime and is always talking about anime boys she likes, with one boy being her favourite (Shoto Todoroki).

Recently I asked her if she would rather date me or this boy (if he was real), and she said honestly that she would pick the anime character. Is this normal in relationships (but maybe with models, actors or porn stars instead)? It makes me feel kinda inadequate that no matter how hard I try, for her I will always be second best to someone who doesn't exist.

How old are you guys? My gf says the same thing, but its a joke because anime characters are fictional.

Reply 4

Zasty

19

I'm not gay but shoto todoroki is really hot so i really can't blame her

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by I'mComingOxford

they. are. fictional.

you would rather have her fantasize over fictional guys rather than friends or actors.

I don't mind her fantasising over the characters, everyone watches porn. What I was concerned about what how she would rather be in a relationship with someone she dosen't really know.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by kkboyk

How old are you guys? My gf says the same thing, but its a joke because anime characters are fictional.

We are both 18. I thought she might be joking at first, but she said "at least i'm being honest". I don't mind if she just has sexual fantasies over anime guys, but it's just the preference to be in a relationship with one that has me bothered.

Reply 7

FThisSI'mOut

8

Original post by Anonymous

We are both 18. I thought she might be joking at first, but she said "at least i'm being honest". I don't mind if she just has sexual fantasies over anime guys, but it's just the preference to be in a relationship with one that has me bothered.

Usually people would say the opposite...

Also, it really is nothing to worry about, he ain't real bro.
If you're worried about something as small as this, do you think that it might be stemming from another insecurity you may have about your relationship?
If not then this could be an opportunity to take an interest in your girlfriend's hobbies and maybe see why she's into this character? It could also give you more to talk about and strengthen your relationship.

Reply 8

Pigster

20

Original post by Anonymous

but it's just the preference to be in a relationship with one that has me bothered.

But... she isn't going to dump you and start dating an Anime character. Either you're safe in your relationship without fear of your girlfriend straying or in real danger of being butchered by an unstable psychopath.

Reply 9

saharan_skies

17

It probably comes from the fact that anime characters are quite ~idealistic~ and serve as personalities that most normal boys (and girls) can't live up to. In fact, if they were real, chances are, they would seem extremely obnoxious. Everything in anime is exaggerated for our viewing pleasure (god that sounds gross). There's no point feeling inadequate to something that isn't even in the running. Point is, she chose you to be her boyfriend (in real life) and not him. If you feel insecure you should address it as an issue that hurts your feelings. Open communication is important.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by saharan_skies

It probably comes from the fact that anime characters are quite ~idealistic~ and serve as personalities that most normal boys (and girls) can't live up to. In fact, if they were real, chances are, they would seem extremely obnoxious. Everything in anime is exaggerated for our viewing pleasure (god that sounds gross). There's no point feeling inadequate to something that isn't even in the running. Point is, she chose you to be her boyfriend (in real life) and not him. If you feel insecure you should address it as an issue that hurts your feelings. Open communication is important.

Original post by FThisSI'mOut

Usually people would say the opposite...

Also, it really is nothing to worry about, he ain't real bro.
If you're worried about something as small as this, do you think that it might be stemming from another insecurity you may have about your relationship?
If not then this could be an opportunity to take an interest in your girlfriend's hobbies and maybe see why she's into this character? It could also give you more to talk about and strengthen your relationship.

Thank's for you guy's responses I do feel less insecure now. I would tell her it hurt my feelings, but recently I was acting a little emotionally because of the anticipation, and then reality of being rejected by my dream uni. I said sorry for acting emotionally now that I feel better, but she told me the way I acted was a little annoying. She has said before that it is important that we talk to eachother about our problems, so is this anime crush thing something worth talking to her about? I don't want to annoy her further.

Reply 11

FThisSI'mOut

8

Original post by Anonymous

Thank's for you guy's responses I do feel less insecure now. I would tell her it hurt my feelings, but recently I was acting a little emotionally because of the anticipation, and then reality of being rejected by my dream uni. I said sorry for acting emotionally now that I feel better, but she told me the way I acted was a little annoying. She has said before that it is important that we talk to eachother about our problems, so is this anime crush thing something worth talking to her about? I don't want to annoy her further.

I think I would suggest firstly analysing how you feel before talking to her. Is there a chance that you're still a little bummed out from the rejection from your uni (trust me bro, you'll be okay wherever you end up) which may cause you to view her comments in a biased way? Once you're sure you're totally at ease with yourself, see if her comments still bother you, and if they do then talk to her about it.

Reply 12

VászolySzilvia

9

There's only one solution, start acting like an anime character

Reply 13

TheMcSame

19

Original post by Zasty

I'm not gay but shoto todoroki is really hot so i really can't blame her

Dunno what you see in him...

I'm not gay either, but Chis Hemsworth as Thor... Damn. Jason Momoa ain't that bad either... I'm not helping my case here, am I? :rofl3:

Anyway OP. I wouldn't be particularly worried, it's a fictional character. They generally tend to have personalities that are a bit idealistic and don't really exist. Not to mention the exaggeration in anime. She picked you at the end of the day, that's gotta mean something.

Reply 14

Randyyy

15

Your gf is a nerd. If you don't like her answer tell her you don't want to be second best to anyone, even may it be a fictional character.

Unless she said it as a joke it is kinda muggy

Reply 15

Samsam2019

11

OP, I can tell you take life way too seriously.. it's an anime character for God's sake. 'A cartoon is giving me sleepless nights' .. say that out loud to yourself and you will realise how ridiculous it all is.

You should have found the biggest boobed anime girl and fake-smacked your lips as you stared at her in front of your girlfriend.

(edited 5 years ago)

Reply 16

Balused

1

Being as in my girlfriend wants intimacy with multiple anime guys at once (most of the genshin impact characters) I would just tell her about it and tell her how you feel because in the long-run this may negatively impact your relationship with whom you are dating because it really hurts inside when they say that but the best thing you could do is tell her how you feel

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