(Original post by Rina31)
I'm 18, I want to get married to my boyfriend but need advice on how to tell my parents.
I'm Muslim, dating isn't allowed. So I don't know how to tell them I have been dating him and I am ready to get married. He's 23, has a job and is a really nice guy!
Not sure what other details to add, but any advice or suggestions please?
Feels like you're the kind of 18 year old to want to rush into something with the first older guy with a job you see. I mean, most 18 year olds don't even know what they want to do with their lives, and you're talking about marriage?
And since he's 23, he could well be a non-committal f-boy exploiting you for his own benefits, and he might give it up even if you do manage to convince your parents. The thing is, because you're much younger, you're likely to have been easily led and you'll believe anything. The knowledge of who you can really trust only comes with life experience.
Also, your parents won't take it well, and I don't blame them. Hiding things from family isn't a good first step when it comes to laying the foundations for a new relationship, and things like that could form trust issues between you and the guy as well as you and your family.
If I were you I'd do three things:
1) Cut off the relationship and wait for a time where you're more mature, educated and your thoughts aren't affected by the process of puberty. Yes, he might be nice and might have a job, but so do many other guys - and you're at an age where you don't know what's good for you.
2) Consider where you want to go in terms of your ambitions in life.
3) In a few years, once you've got more life experience and are well on your way to your goals, find a like-minded guy who you can settle down with.
Remember: marriage is about equals - and in this case you two are anything but equals.
All the best
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