Hey guys, sorry for the length but I wanted to explain my issue fully. Here goes...
I've been in an on/off relationship with this guy for two years and known him for four. We were close and know each other's families. He was really charming and evidently fell in love with me, but things turned sour when he started to become too jealous and possessive. We argued a lot because he was always using different girls. He would drive them around and take them on dates in places he knew I'd be to make me jealous and sleep with them later, knowing I would find out. Naturally, I dumped him. Then he'd swear he had changed and wasn't the guy I thought he was, and like a fool I'd fall for him and the cycle continued. One day, I had enough and ended things for good.
He and I stopped talking over a year ago, but he would always drive past my house revving his engine or playing certain, meaningful songs. Friends and family members have seen him, by chance, handing cash to his friends to follow me and my family members. I found out late last year from somebody that knows him that he had a mental breakdown and abused marijuana the year he and I stopped talking and lost his car, money and business and had to be hospitalised. It was around this time that my sister and I began to notice a car parked across the street watching my house at 1-3 am, every other night. This went on for months and we gave him the benefit of the doubt because it was too dark to see him. One night, my sister was out doing the gardening until late and saw him clearly in the car- his interior lights were on. Fast forward to now, and whenever I see him, he gazes at me intensely and follows me like my shadow, and it's really unnerving. He becomes tense and angry whenever another guy expresses interest in me, and the night before last, he was standing outside my house watching my bedroom window. He also interrogated my sisters a couple of weeks ago saying that he always sees me with a particular man- than man happens to be my stepfather.
I've also been finding wrappers in my garden for the past few months from places he frequents. I doubt it's coincidence as it's only been happening recently. He also ran into my sister in town last week and told her to tell me he loves me.
I've spoken to various helplines and the authorities and they've told me to collect evidence- pictures and a diary. The problem is, he deliberately comes late at night and drives away so fast, it's nearly impossible to catch his registration and take pictures. He borrows cars from his friends due to loss of his own. I also found out from people that he kept tabs on me when we were together. He even followed me to a party an hour away a couple of months after we met.
I guess my question is, how do I go about gathering evidence? I have warned him to stay away so many times and threatened to call the police but he's not afraid. I don't know what his motive is and I think that's what scares me most. I think it's worth mentioning that when we were together, he asked for sex very, very often. I told him several times that I'm a virgin and want to save myself for my husband but he was really persistent. He even forced himself on me in his car one night despite my resistance. I know he is psychotic but what I don't know is whether he's trying to get back together with me or planning to rape me. That's my greatest fear.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated and I'm so sorry for the long essay!