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I started university in September 2018 and moved out around 2 hours away from home. For the first semester there was no feeling of missing home or anyone at all. During this time university wasn’t great too, didn’t make many friends, spent far too much time in my room but I kept going. Now coming back to university after Christmas holidays I feel so homesick and don’t want to be at university anymore. There is no one to talk to, flat mates don’t talk, lectures haven’t started, no societies running, campus is empty. I wake up and spend my whole day in a room doing nothing, it feels very suffocating. Should I drop out. Someone please help me, what should I do? Also on another note, first semester was exactly the same but I don’t know what kept me going.
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Then make friends. At a lecture casually sit next to someone and just talk to them.

Find something to do if you get bored. Like going to the gym, swimming, indoor rock climbing, etc
You will also make new friends by finding common interests like above ^^^

I really, don't think you should drop out unless it is the only option.
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By the way I have spoken to so many people but no one seems interested in engaging in any conversation. I’ve tried involving myself in activities but days go slow and I find myself alone again.
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Agreed, just get out there and make the most of your time.
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Thanks for the suggestions but I’ve tried speaking to several people in lectures, societies, clubs but all of them don’t engage in a conversation. There’s nothing I can do about this, I’ve tried everything possible. I can only wait for time to pass until April but that’s a very long time
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(Original post by Kinnnmolom12)
Thanks for the suggestions but I’ve tried speaking to several people in lectures, societies, clubs but all of them don’t engage in a conversation. There’s nothing I can do about this, I’ve tried everything possible. I can only wait for time to pass until April but that’s a very long time
Really? Are the people at your uni that bad?

Maybe change unis?
Is there a uni near your home? I am not sure how the transferring process works though.
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Speak to someone at your uni, I'm sure they have help/support services to offer where they can give advice and point you in the right direction to help solve your problems. Persevere. Dropping out will always be an option, but once you take it, it won't be as easy to get back into uni. I'm sure there are others at your uni in a similar situation - you've just got to seek them out and befriend them
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Speak to someone at your uni, I'm sure they have help/support services to offer where they can give advice and point you in the right direction to help solve your problems. Persevere. Dropping out will always be an option, but once you take it, it won't be as easy to get back into uni. I'm sure there are others at your uni in a similar situation - you've just got to seek them out and befriend them
I feel like I just need to stick by it but it’s so easier said than done until April.
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By the way I have spoken to so many people but no one seems interested in engaging in any conversation. I’ve tried involving myself in activities but days go slow and I find myself alone again.
How so? How do you approach people, and what sort of conversation do you have with them? Do you follow through, and contact them after meeting with them for the first time? I'd say its very crucial to do so.

Although, I've experience similar with a society at uni which was mainly because I didn't 'fit' in at all, but made lots of friends through randomly showing up to house parties and pre drinks (even though I don't really drink or like clubbing).
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