(Original post by Anonymous)
Sorry for posting this in the relationships forum, I had no idea how else to post this anonymously.
Anyways I have been suffering from anxiety this year and visited my GP in – I think October. He prescribed me some basic anxiety medication before I go to sleep and asked me whether I would like to go counselling. I refused as the prospects of counselling are not appealing to me, I am reserved in person and do not wish to talk to someone about this issue.
I am extremely worried that I may fail my third year.
The university doesn’t know of my anxiety and I don’t think they will do grant me any extra support anything as I have already contacted the disability office and tried to make them aware of my anxiety, but they brushed it off and said let us know in a few months in case it gets better.
Also, I have checked the website and it states that your mental health issue must be a long term issue and as I have only been diagnosed in October I feel like they wont recognise it as a mitigating circumstance? Please any advice.
Please help me.
That your actions is the best strategy to put you in the worst position possible.
You need to face up to the situation and all your choices seem to justify making it worse for yourself by hiding.
You need to go and see the GP and get support from mental health services. If your year is going so poorly and you arent exaggerating then i would have no problems in suspending studies to save the degree. I do not know whether its just anxiety or you have a real basis for failing.
In the situation you do really poorly and fail exams, then they will let you resit, but cap all your resits at 40%, which will probably destroy your degree grade.
If you submit a mitigating circumstances claim, then they have the discretion to remove the cap on resits and take your mental health into account.
To take you seriously they need convining evidence from a third party that you are undergoing mit circumstances and its backed up in this case by medical evidence.
You have undermined yourself by failing to bosot the GP regularly.
Failing to attend counselling because it doesnt appeal to you.
Be warned lack of independent evidence will not appeal to the review board and they will find your claim from weak to Unconvincing.
You are going to need to start interacting and attempting to get help for yourself including a diagnosis and medical professionals willimng to support the fact you have anxiety, its extent and the amount it affects your studies. If you dont then your appeal will be weak as you cant provide them with any evidence.
If you are in a mess, then I would suspend, get yourself sorted out or more stable, then retake the year. It is hard to know whether your belief you fail is just the anxiety or you have genuine cause for concern. You need a friend who knows you and is capable of sound objective analytical thinking.
You arent doing yourself any favours at the moment. If you feel too anxious to do anything then you have to reach out to a friend or advisor who can help enact or make the decisions for you in the real world. As it is the anxiety is winning and you are making poor choices that make your situation worse. Please wake up and start protecting yourself or your degree really will be in trouble if theres substance to your fear of failure.
1. Samaritans 116 123
3. Your uni should have their own nightline and student manned counselling service.
4. The Mix. 0808 808 4994. Sunday to Friday from 2pm to 11pm. webchat Sunday to Friday from 2pm to 11pm, and Saturday from 8pm to 11pm.
5. Sane 4.30pm to 10.30pm on 0300 304 7000.
ps Im being direct because Im trying to get you to take some steps to protect yourself and prevent you sleepwalking into disaster. Maybe youve had anxiety for a long time and its come to a head, but it is obviously distorting your perception. Its not too late to sort this out and if things really are poor then have enough protection when things go south. At the moment you have very little. Help yourself.
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