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This week I’ve had a sore throat and a bit of a cough, but not a full blown cold. My cough has been slightly worse today.

Our 3rd date is on Saturday, and we’ve been texting lots and the other dates have gone really well. I don’t really want to cancel and risk ruining the momentum we have.

Or should I let her know that I have a slightly sore throat and a bit of a cough, and see what she wants to do? Or would cancelling it be the ‘right thing to do’?
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Tbh I would cancel if you don’t feel up to it
Just be honest with her and she should be fine with it
Make sure you reschedule/postpone plans just to show you’re not just cancelling bc you’re not interested
Good luck , lmk how it goes
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(Original post by curiousclouds)
Tbh I would cancel if you don’t feel up to it
Just be honest with her and she should be fine with it
Make sure you reschedule/postpone plans just to show you’re not just cancelling bc you’re not interested
Good luck , lmk how it goes
Thanks! Though I should haven said it in my opening post - I actually feel fine in myself. Like I played football on Monday, I’ve been working, etc.
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Thanks! Though I should haven said it in my opening post - I actually feel fine in myself. Like I played football on Monday, I’ve been working, etc.
How much time did you leave between the 1st and 2nd date?
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How much time did you leave between the 1st and 2nd date?
A week
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I completely understand your concern, but I think you'll be fine to cancel if that's what you decide, just don't describe it as "a slightly sore throat/'a bit' of a cough" when you cancel, because that frankly sounds like you're bailing because you don't want to go. :rofl3:
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Eh should be fine to cancel imo
Hope it works out
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I completely understand your concern, but I think you'll be fine to cancel if that's what you decide, just don't describe it as "a slightly sore throat/'a bit' of a cough" when you cancel, because that frankly sounds like you're bailing because you don't want to go. :rofl3:
Thanks, though I suppose my concern is more should I ought to cancel, out of courtesy to her, as I’d like to go ahead with it.
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Thanks, though I suppose my concern is more should I ought to cancel, out of courtesy to her, as I’d like to go ahead with it.
Oh yeah, I get that, I just noticed your wording and felt like I should flag it up since you're worried about generally giving her the wrong impression/ruining your momentum. Best of luck, if you set another definite date when you cancel (not just 'oh another time'), I'm sure things will work out fine.
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do cancel if you don't feel well BUT OFFER TO REARRANGE IN THE SAME MESSAGE and you'll be golden and she won't think you're bailing
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(Original post by charl.elise)
I completely understand your concern, but I think you'll be fine to cancel if that's what you decide, just don't describe it as "a slightly sore throat/'a bit' of a cough" when you cancel, because that frankly sounds like you're bailing because you don't want to go. :rofl3:
Yeah you’re right, though if I was to message her as if giving her the option like:

”really looking forward to seeing you again this weekend. Earlier in the week I had a sore throat, feeling much better now and only coughing slightly - just wanted to let you know in case you’d rather sack it off and move our plans to next weekend?”

would that be ok?
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Yeah you’re right, though if I was to message her as if giving her the option like:

”really looking forward to seeing you again this weekend. Earlier in the week I had a sore throat, feeling much better now and only coughing slightly - just wanted to let you know in case you’d rather sack it off and move our plans to next weekend?”

would that be ok?
That sounds fine yeah
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Do it over a phone call and cough a bit so she doesn't think you're making it up :laugh: (serious btw)
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