So at our christmas party, I got close to this coworker who i have had a crush on FOREVER and we ended up kissing. A LOT of kissing. So basically as a drunken mess, i told him how much i liked him and this terrifies me. I can't know for sure if he was just kissing me because he was drunk or if he actually likes me. Another coworker of mine was the one to actually tell him about my crush on him which prompted him to kiss me. The next day, he messaged me saying he doesn't regret it BUT at our shift later that night, it was different. Things were a little tense with us, especially since everyone at my work now knew about my crush and our little fling. I thought maybe we'd be able to talk more and get to know each other outside of work but he doesn't message me and whenever i message him the conversation just sort of fizzles. I literally don't know what to do, if he rejects me I don't think i'll actually recover. Should i just pretend it never happened and go back to the way it was before?
What happens at the office christmas party stays at the christmas party, whether its a drunken kiss under the mistletoe or something a bit more fun.
If he wanted a date with you he would have asked you out.
Move on and forget about it- until the next christmas party!
Well he was attracted to you or else he wouldn't have allowed the kissing to happen in the first place. But, at the end of the day you are work colleges and I think that is just a 'no, no' for a lot of people. How well do you know him before? Did you actually have much interaction with him or just kind of saw him periodically?
It could be that he is actually shy and just doesn't know how to interact with you. As someone else at work knew of the crush and told him do you know and trust that person enough to have them run interference and ask him about you? If that would be embarrassing for you or you're not comfortable discussing it directly with him then my best advice would be to go back to how things were and just act as if nothing ever happened. You have nothing to feel bad about and although it would have been nice if that had lead to something more that, sadly, doesn't always happen. Hold your head high and continue to be yourself and go back the way things were before unless your or someone else can talk with him.
Tbh although there are those who say co-workers are off limits, its pretty difficult when the workplace is more of less like a soft prison. Nor does it help that trying to meet other women outside of work hours can be a bit of an ordeal if you work in a service industry. Mixing the genders in the workplace was realistically never a good idea as it can lead to all sorts of corruption.
More and more and more..... girls are making the first move because there are a lot of guys who are just unsure so they do nothing. If you haven't already why don't you 'friend' your colleague on Facebook then hopefully you can message back and forth privately there. Gauge the conversation. If he is responsive and receptive to messaging then ask him if he'd be available to meet up for a coffee. If he's at all interested he'll definitely meet you or give a valid reason why he can't. If he makes excuses then act like no worries and just carry on as before and act as if you've just been mates all along.
Yeah I agree. What happened at the party, stays at the party. If he was interested in you he would've asked you out and as another user stated, move on.