Are both girls after me? Crisis!

First of all, I don't have the best appearance nor do I have many muscles, well I've got a few.

Anyway I live in the UK and I've started university. I've met and made many friends, both boys and girls, and I've kept my old friends as well of course. Anyway, me and my mates met another circle of girl mates.

2 of them are best mates, and I've been getting signals that they are after me.

Girl A:

Is my own religion (I'm pretty sure my family care about this issue), she's taken, has gone on holidays to two weeks, she kind of talks differently to me, we talk on MSN (well we did once where she came on just for me she said), we talked about things she doesn't talk about in uni, I've got her number etc, she knows I'm reliable so she has got me to get her the notes from lectures which we agreed to.

She's been giving out signs like looking at me from one end of the lecture theatre, where we both smiled, nodded, and I gave her full eye contact till she looked away - keep in mind I was almost on the other side!, shes friendly to me, she flicks her hair in front of me, plays with her jewellery, made up nicknames for me based on my positive traits, asks to work with me in group projects. Perhaps most significant is that she puts her arm around my waist, holds my hand, or puts her arm round mine like couples do!! She also does this with my best male mate who is taken.

Girl B:

Is girl a's close mate, not my religion (probably an issue for mine and her families), free, we text and email loads where she always asks me what I'm up to, and has a very personal yet cool nickname for me, apologises if she wakes me up because she texts at late times, she also fiddles with her jewellery, flicks her hair, has her legs crossed and hand on her lap, asks to work with me on group projects, we share notes, she asked if I had a girlfriend, laughs at my jokes and laughs when I laugh. She also punches me as a joke, when I was playing with my mobile phone asked me if I'm texting my girlfriend. Maybe she was trying to discretely drop a big question she needs answer to before any relationship into the conversation? I told her I haven't got a girlfriend. She saw a picture of an expensive car on my phone wallpaper and said is that mine to which I replied I wish, but it will be one day. Maybe she was trying to work out my hobbies? I also noticed from the corner of my eye that she was looking at me.

What I need to know is am I really getting signals from both these girls that they like me? I'm new to this stuff and I've confided in close friends over the net who I don't know in person (friends who are girls), and they say yes all the signs are there and they want to know you more and think you could be the one.

I don't want to be stupid about this, nor am I a player, and I don't want to go up to either girl and confront them and lose what I've got. Perhaps I gotta be sly and clever about this.

I'm worried that neither of these girls will see much of me because I'm not the type to go gym (I do a few sports), but I don't do many for very good reason, and I don't exactly have the best looks but I've got the personality and I'm any relationship for the love.

For both girls, at the moment I feel strong friendship but as time goes by I'm sure my feelings will develop into love (well more likely for girl B)!

Worst of all, I'm shy and I think maybe she is a bit too. I suppose the only way to deal with this is to confront my shyness head on and tell her how I feel, put everything on the line.

Any advice appreciated on course of action etc (I'm new to this). And worst of all, I'm still pretty shy. Ok first week I met these girls I was very shy and quiet but now I've overcome much of my shyness. It's easier to talk over the net, but it's more powerful face to face.

What to do? Girl B is beautiful in every way and perhaps every guy wants her. I don't want her taken I have to make things happen!

Oh, an I'm sikh and girl b is muslim. Isn't this going to be a major issue as muslims aren't supposed to date non-muslims? I don't know her parents or how religious she is and I dont care that shes muslim but I'm sure my parents will (even though my brother is dating a white girl who is older and Wwho has her own kids!).

What if girl b is using me for her own benefit or for her to get further? My mate raised this issue but she seems sweet. I mean like I've already let her photocopy my bullet point notes for an essay we are starting soon. I also ask her how she is as she is ill!

First of all, I don't have the best appearance nor do I have many muscles, well I've got a few.

Anyway I live in the UK and I've started university. I've met and made many friends, both boys and girls, and I've kept my old friends as well of course. Anyway, me and my mates met another circle of girl mates.

2 of them are best mates, and I've been getting signals that they are after me.

Girl A:

Is my own religion (I'm pretty sure my family care about this issue), she's taken, has gone on holidays to two weeks, she kind of talks differently to me, we talk on MSN (well we did once where she came on just for me she said), we talked about things she doesn't talk about in uni, I've got her number etc, she knows I'm reliable so she has got me to get her the notes from lectures which we agreed to.

She's been giving out signs like looking at me from one end of the lecture theatre, where we both smiled, nodded, and I gave her full eye contact till she looked away - keep in mind I was almost on the other side!, shes friendly to me, she flicks her hair in front of me, plays with her jewellery, made up nicknames for me based on my positive traits, asks to work with me in group projects. Perhaps most significant is that she puts her arm around my waist, holds my hand, or puts her arm round mine like couples do!! She also does this with my best male mate who is taken.

Girl B:

Is girl a's close mate, not my religion (probably an issue for mine and her families), free, we text and email loads where she always asks me what I'm up to, and has a very personal yet cool nickname for me, apologises if she wakes me up because she texts at late times, she also fiddles with her jewellery, flicks her hair, has her legs crossed and hand on her lap, asks to work with me on group projects, we share notes, she asked if I had a girlfriend, laughs at my jokes and laughs when I laugh. She also punches me as a joke, when I was playing with my mobile phone asked me if I'm texting my girlfriend. Maybe she was trying to discretely drop a big question she needs answer to before any relationship into the conversation? I told her I haven't got a girlfriend. She saw a picture of an expensive car on my phone wallpaper and said is that mine to which I replied I wish, but it will be one day. Maybe she was trying to work out my hobbies? I also noticed from the corner of my eye that she was looking at me.

What I need to know is am I really getting signals from both these girls that they like me? I'm new to this stuff and I've confided in close friends over the net who I don't know in person (friends who are girls), and they say yes all the signs are there and they want to know you more and think you could be the one.

I don't want to be stupid about this, nor am I a player, and I don't want to go up to either girl and confront them and lose what I've got. Perhaps I gotta be sly and clever about this.

I'm worried that neither of these girls will see much of me because I'm not the type to go gym (I do a few sports), but I don't do many for very good reason, and I don't exactly have the best looks but I've got the personality and I'm any relationship for the love.

For both girls, at the moment I feel strong friendship but as time goes by I'm sure my feelings will develop into love (well more likely for girl B)!

Worst of all, I'm shy and I think maybe she is a bit too. I suppose the only way to deal with this is to confront my shyness head on and tell her how I feel, put everything on the line.

Any advice appreciated on course of action etc (I'm new to this). And worst of all, I'm still pretty shy. Ok first week I met these girls I was very shy and quiet but now I've overcome much of my shyness. It's easier to talk over the net, but it's more powerful face to face.

What to do? Girl B is beautiful in every way and perhaps every guy wants her. I don't want her taken I have to make things happen!

Oh, an I'm sikh and girl b is muslim. Isn't this going to be a major issue as muslims aren't supposed to date non-muslims? I don't know her parents or how religious she is and I dont care that shes muslim but I'm sure my parents will (even though my brother is dating a white girl who is older and Wwho has her own kids!).

What if girl b is using me for her own benefit or for her to get further? My mate raised this issue but she seems sweet. I mean like I've already let her photocopy my bullet point notes for an essay we are starting soon. I also ask her how she is as she is ill!

Girl A=player n a tease

yeh my friends parents are like that too! its a tricky situation with "racist" parents!

or a slapper?


GSS i didnt realise you live at home. i do too, and my family are strongly religios but i met this guy i like who is not only a diff relig but diff race as well. i just lie to my mom and dad about where i am and who im with. i figure it's not immoral cos their racism and narrowmindedness is even more immoral.

girl B

Yeah but eventually you're going to have to tell you parents about your relationship and they are going to want to meet your boyfriend where they will see the religion and race difference so they will find out all eventually. I do agree, the hypocritical and ignorant nature of parents, especially mine, is a crime in itself.

What religion are you?
Good luck

Well on 25th October (Monday) I sat down in the lecture theatre with my mates. I sat down in the middle of the row and my mates were surrouding me. I then see her (girl B) sitting two rows in front of me with her girl mates (girl a not being there obviously). I was going to move to sit with her but I couldn't. After the lecture, I make no effort to speak to her thanks to my shyness. She then goes away and gets the player to walk her to her destination. I found out she was walked to the same bus stop - the same one I go to and went to 5 minutes later to go home like she did. Is she losing interest in me by asking the player to walk her? I could have taken her there, especially as I left straight after just after her but didn't see her there. I could have left with her no problem as I had nothing important to do afterwards.

My mates said some good points. One said:

Even if you like a girl as a friend, it's all the same as it grows to love.

Another said:

Maybe the player is getting involved to see if you will step up your pursuit of the girl and ask her out.

I've decided to tell my mate (who's physically strong) to punch me hard in the arm if I don't make an effort around her. That will get me talking.

I don't have this problem with some of the other girls I hang around with.

awwww *massive hug* its refreshing to know there are some shy guys out there, and they're not all rudeboy players!!

you wernt wrong to not sit with her - you'd look weird to get up + move.
some questions
1) by playa, do you mean girl A? or another guy?
2) was she sitting with the playa in the lecture? if yes, she prob didnt notice u or think of talking to u cos was busy w playa.

you say u didnt make the effort to talk to her, yet u r interested. so prob is the same for her! im a girl and i wait for guys to some to me!or else shell look like a hoe chasin some guy. does she txt u still?