This started on Christmas 2017. I don’t gamble, but I bought him some scratchcards, and put them in his stocking. ( it’s kind of a family thing, been doing it for years) Anyway, he won £50 on one of them, and ever since then, he’s been hooked. He would buy a couple a week which wasn’t so bad, but since he won £200 a few months ago, it’s gotten much worse. Anywhere we go, he has to spend at least £30 on them. If I tell him that I’m just popping to the shop for some milk, he’ll tell me to buy him some scratchcards. He will hide them in his drawer so that I won’t see them in the bin. His mum told me that he bought a full pack from Tesco the other day (he spent £120) and begged her not to tell me. I have brought it up with him that he might have a problem but he’s in complete denial. I obviously feel like it’s all my fault but never in a million years did I think something like this would happen. What can I do?
You could stage an intervention, may him fully aware of his actions and how they are damaging his and your life together.
Dump him. Don't bother messing around in his addiction when you're not going marry him. Leave him be. Scratchcars are stupid wastes of money. You can't change him. You won't make him see the light
All you did was buy a present - it's not your fault he's addicted.
I'd let him keep going until he realises it's a waste of money.
It would appear that he has an addictive personality.
Some people are jut built like that. The short term dopamine rush they get from following their addiction outweighs the medium to long term losses for them.
Chances are, if he weren't addicted to scratchcards, he'd be addicted to something else. And if he ever kicks the scratchcard habit it'll be because he's replaced it with something else.
Miss Madie's advice was spot on. Dump him.