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Ever since I reached puberty at 12, I realised girls found me repulsive. I used to just find the opposite sex sexy like a normal person, but eventually when I tried watching normal pornography or imagining me having loving sex it just made me sad.

A decade later, I now realise I have erection problems. I tried to have sex with a girl at uni and I couldn't, but I don't know if it was the fact that no girl had liked me ever before which took me by surprise. I kept thinking it wasn't real and I couldn't believe she liked me. It er did not work out too well.

I tried a couple of prostitutes afterwards. Failed the first two times and because I thought I was wasting my money, got a prescription for viagra for my third time and managed to stay erect and come despite feeling not very much both physically, mentally or emotionally. The 4th time I managed to get an erection and stay stay erect without viagra, but I don't know whether it was because she was kinky or because she seemed to enjoy it, like being physically wet where as the previous 3 I couldn't tell.

Do I sound ready to try and have sex with normal girls again? If I fail again, would you just laugh and never see me again?
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If that would happen to someone I was sleeping with, I would never laugh. I’d try again and try to work around it or support you in any way you’d need me to.

It also sounds like you’ve got rather big self confidence problems. Maybe it would be helpful to see a psychotherapist?
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ah03210200
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Honest;ly just kep trying and make sure that it is nothing wrong with your body
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You're not failing anyone. There are plenty of ways to pleasure a person and sex is what you and the other person make of it. It isn't some kind of test or high-stakes challenge. Relax and have fun.

I will say, though, that this is one of the many reasons that casual sex is usually a bad idea. The only way this could really be a problem is if they don't really care about you and don't want to engage with you as a person.
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It's not really something to laugh about. It's not funny or awkward. Maybe the girl would feel insecure on her part if you can't get it up, but you can just assure her that's not the problem (if you want to, anyway).

I'm pretty sure that being anxious and mindful of it makes it worse, so if you can, try to just enjoy the moment: the senses, the kissing, touch, warmth, etc
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(Original post by anosmianAcrimony)
You're not failing anyone. There are plenty of ways to pleasure a person and sex is what you and the other person make of it. It isn't some kind of test or high-stakes challenge. Relax and have fun.

I will say, though, that this is one of the many reasons that casual sex is usually a bad idea. The only way this could really be a problem is if they don't really care about you and don't want to engage with you as a person.
I guess casual sex isn't for people who are damaged goods?
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