i have a problem with fit girls

I realise I have a problem with fit girls. i just tense up and get all nervous when around them , there's this girl that gets on my bus every day and i'm so insecure about being around fit girls that i can never decide whether to look at her or not because she might look at me looking at her :redface:

argh i hate this! any tips?

ta

Reply 1

Charlybob

10

Stop being so superficial and get to know some girls who are actually nice instead?

Reply 2

dh00001

16

breathe! theyre nonrmal people too, if the see you looking at them; smile and then look away with the occasional glance back to see if theyre looking at you

Reply 3

dobbs

17

Charlybob

Stop being so superficial and get to know some girls who are actually nice instead?

Because fit girls can't be nice? :confused:

Reply 4

Aconite

17

Do you look at "normal" people? Would you catch their eye and smile? Would you say something to them?

If you do/would, then you can do exactly the same to the good-looking girls. They really truly won't bite.

Reply 5

Charlybob

10

dobbs

Because fit girls can't be nice? :confused:

Never said that. Just said it's a bad basis to start on.

Reply 6

pinksparkles2

2

Charlybob

Stop being so superficial and get to know some girls who are actually nice instead?

So every good looking girl is horrible?!
xx

Reply 7

iPaull

I love casting glances at nice girls! It's fun, and you always know there are tons of other girls in case it doesn't work out

Reply 8

Aconite

17

dobbs

Because fit girls can't be nice? :confused:

Absolutely not. Hasn't TSR taught you ANYTHING? :rolleyes:

You could look at it in terms of a graph showing inverse proportion. As the beauty goes up, the niceness goes down. Everyone knows that, don't they?

Reply 9

dobbs

17

Charlybob

Never said that. Just said it's a bad basis to start on.

Not really. The first thing that attracts someone to someone else is the physical attractiveness of that person, then you get to know their personality...except in particular situations (internet dating, etc.)

Plus, the OP never said he fancied them, he just said he has a problem talking to/being around them, which is fair enough.

Reply 10

dobbs

17

Aconite

Absolutely not. Hasn't TSR taught you ANYTHING? :rolleyes:

You could look at it in terms of a graph showing inverse proportion. As the beauty goes up, the niceness goes down. Everyone knows that, don't they?

Doh!! Of course, how silly of me. Please, just neg rep me now for my stupidness :frown:

Reply 11

captainlumpy

ahh great, its one of these guys... in my experience of peoples in general, i find a lot of guys are really nyah (like not wanting to talk, cold shoulder etc) with me if they meet me for the first time as im not the most pleasing to the eye, this used to bother me but in the end guys who did bother talking to me (regardless of my mug) turn out to be pretty nice n less shallow.... thats my opinion on things anyhoo... soz if its too off topic.

Reply 12

BIG BAD BOB

i had this problem too, when I was about ten.

Reply 13

spartan101

Oh dear. OP, man the **** up lol.

Eye contact is sexy...

Reply 14

Aconite

17

spartan101

Eye contact is sexy...

On the bus? :s-smilie:

The whole thing seems silly to me. She's a girl who happens to be on the same bus as him. She probably hasn't even noticed him, and if he frantically makes eye contact and smiles slow-w-w-wly and sexily, all she'll do is change seats to get away.

Reply 15

marcusfox

16

There have been threads on this where apparently most girls would consider it stalkerish if you try and pick up a random on public transport.

Marcus

Reply 16

StotheL

Aconite

Absolutely not. Hasn't TSR taught you ANYTHING? :rolleyes:

You could look at it in terms of a graph showing inverse proportion. As the beauty goes up, the niceness goes down. Everyone knows that, don't they?

Of course, the TSR handbook states that all attractive individuals are awful people, they must be approached with caution! :wink:

I consider myself relatively attractive and I'm a nice person (well nice enough anyway), it's all about building up your confidence, she won't bite (unless it turns out she's some sort of wilderbeast). A smile won't hurt!

Reply 17

Tyler Durden

17

Anonymous

I realise I have a problem with fit girls. i just tense up and get all nervous when around them , there's this girl that gets on my bus every day and i'm so insecure about being around fit girls that i can never decide whether to look at her or not because she might look at me looking at her :redface:

argh i hate this! any tips?

ta

Oh god and she might look at you looking at her but then she would be looking at you and you might look at her looking at you looking at her... and then you might look at her looking at you looking at her looking at you looking at her and and ARGHHH!

Ok, the rest of my message is like a flow chart:

1. Do you want to:

a. talk to the girl

b. want to be able to sit on a bus with her without pulling a muscle due to all the tensing?

IF YOU ANSWERED a. Go to question 2. IF YOU ANSWERED b. Buy a muscle relaxant, plug in your iPod and ignore her.

2. Next time she comes on the bus think of something amusing to do by way of introduction.

Eg. 1. As she walks past the seat next to you, put your hand on it and say "taken" with a serious face. Then smile and move your hand.

Eg. 2. "Hi, I noticed you come on this bus every day... are you stalking me?"

Eg. 3. (for it you can't pull off 1 or 2) "Hi..."

Mind over matter. If you tell yourself you'll be tense you will be tense. If you relax yourself mentally it'll be less bad.

What's the worst that can happen?

Reply 18

spartan101

Aconite

On the bus? :s-smilie:

The whole thing seems silly to me. She's a girl who happens to be on the same bus as him. She probably hasn't even noticed him, and if he frantically makes eye contact and smiles slow-w-w-wly and sexily, all she'll do is change seats to get away.

Lol i meant in general...if she doesnt catch it straight off, then whatever.

Persistently trying to engage in eye contact is just downright creepy!

But i still stand by what i said...man the **** up. Shes just a girl lol.

Reply 19

chaseside

i had this problem too, when I was about ten.

lmao!

OP If you act like an idiot with them, what are your chances?

i have a problem with fit girls

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