Boyfriend Always wants to watch girls masturbate.

My boyfriend likes to watch other girls masturbate instead of me.

(edited 5 years ago)

Um, I feel bad for you and sorry for this but your boyfriend might be addicted to porn. Him getting mad at you for that and treating it like it doesn't matter though is kind of uncalled for. Have you had a serious conversation with him about this?

Reply 2

BirdQueen

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Yes I have had a serious conversation. I’ve actually broken down once because I just had enough. But he still wants it. You are probably right, he most likely does have an addiction. But I’ve agreeed to pretty much anything else. So I don’t understand why he needs the one I dislike. So I’ve turned to here. My self confidence has hit an all time low because of it. Thank you for replying!! I appreciate it!!

Reply 3

username4466290

Maybe he has a fetish for it, or if it's the same camgirl every time he could be obsessing on that camgirl. Maybe it's not about your attractiveness but more about his personal feelings and how he feels about you in general. Because you know imo even if your girl isn't the hottest in the world you still get turned on by her because of what you feel for her. Take what I say with a pinch of salt after all I'm just a random stranger.

4 years is a long time so I would assume you're happy with him in other areas of your relationship and he treats you right except for that one thing. If that one thing is making you this unhappy I wouldn't treat this as just a bump in the road but a blockade. After all, you're together to make yourselves happier and better versions of yourselves, to support each other and lighten your burdens.

You could try masturbating for him, but if he doesn't budge... "Houston, we have a problem."

Reply 4

BirdQueen

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You are right! I do love him, and I will try my hardest to make sure he is happy. I try not to dwell on anything because I like positivity. I know most likely it will always a be a thing he wants. But it’s the one thing I just can’t let go. He says no to many of the things I suggest. So I give up a lot of what I want, to do the stuff he likes. It makes me happy knowing I can that for him. So why can’t he put aside one thing for me. Which is what I don’t get and he won’t answer. And I want to masturbate for him but he still insists to watch it when I try. And at that point I’m just turned off. Thinking the same thing. Thank you for your input!! It really helps!!

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by BirdQueen

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 4 years. In the first two years he lied to me about watching porn. I mean I didn’t really care, he can. But the way I found out was terrible. I saw it by opening his tablet when he left it...tried to hide it under a wash cloth...I was just going to play a damn game. And he lied about it being an accidental click. It just had to be the one thing I hate...
He watches other girls masturbate. And in real time. You know those videos with chats that are live. It hurts to know he wants to watch that instead of me. I don’t even feel like showing my own body to him because I feel like I’m just not attractive. Sometime I feel like all I am is a realistic toy for his fantasies.
Even during sex he ALWAYS needs to have some type of porn going. Like is it not enough that you get me and get to watch porn while we do it. I just feel defeated like I’ll never be good enough and it’s taking a huge blow to my self esteem and trust. Plus I never get any compliments from him. Not even a “you look good today”. I don’t know if anyone else out there has had this happen to them but I’m at a lose. The worst part, I told him I didn’t care if he watches porn, just not that type because it hurts to know. He said he understood...Im not even that bad, i let pretty much anything go. But it’s the one thing I can’t and apparently he needs that one thing. I’ve given up even saying anything anymore because he just gets defensive and denies it. And then just mad. Like okay I guess your gf feeling like crap and unattractive because of you doesn’t matter.

i understand what you are going through my cat wont let me have my way with it. you should definately find a way to tie him down and slowly start chopping him up while you watc a massive asian gangbang.
please respond if this helps, am scared.
jxstin xx

Reply 6

pounder

I once had sex with a chinese mans duck and dog, it was a pleasurable threesome. It turns out they belonged to Kim Jong Un, small world. Hes now huntng me for my sexual services, please help me im scared for the safety of my anus and eardrum.
kind regards and much love :smile:

Archibald

Reply 7

Dunnig Kruger

How much is he spending on his live webcam habit?

Do not ever let him use a computer that you use for banking, ebay, etc, due to the virus, trojan keylogging risk from the sort of sites he visits.

Have I understood this right, does he always have to have porn on the background when you make love? Like always or nearly always? Not just now and again? What if you just had a regular TV programme like Countdown on in the background, would that be OK for him? What if you just wanted a quickie in the middle of a quiet secluded forest, would he not be able to get it up?
It sounds like he's totally crap in bed. And that the 2 of you are not sexually compatible. That's an instant relationship breaker there.

The lack of compliments is a bad sign too. Does he ever do anything romantic with you. Like give you flowers, week-ends away in a nice hotel?

There are some men who can be with the most attractive woman in the world and they will still take them for granted. Especially once the honeymoon period is over. So don't take his behaviour as any sort of indication as to your attractiveness and sense of self worth.

How do you feel about the prospect of leaving him or kicking him out from your home?
It may seem scary. But from the sounds of things you don't want to spend the rest of your life with this man. Being single for a while will give you a fantastic amount of freedom. And then it's a case of finding someone else who will be more compatible with you. Someone who is more of a romantic would be a good start.

Reply 8

Emily_lou

nah f*ck that, you dont need to put up with that sh*t. Get out while you can

Reply 9

FailedMyMocks

It's a disgusting habit, that many young people are engaging in. It doesn't make it right, in the least.

You should tell him to pick porn or you (If you even like the guy, if not drop him). I couldn't imagine being in your position and not even feeling desired during Sex.