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Hi

I'm currently 18 studying at Birmingham City University (commuting by train from coventry) and wondering why I'm not much of a party person or ladies man.

I'm working above a grade First at uni and I want to continue keeping it that way but I still don't have any thoughts on having a girlfriend or go out partying like other people at my age usually do.

Some of my friends at uni seem to be the same like me (but we do socialise a lot) but most of my friends from school and NCS seem to like partying and drinking, and they already seem interested in a girlfriend.

I don't know why I prefer staying at home and studying staying away from most of the social stuff, I feel all this stuff could affect my degree and I don't feel ready yet for any of this stuff.

Is it normal that I'm still like this, is it good or bad?

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Hi,
It all boils down to time management and if you can spare the time to socialise or give up some of your studying time. There’s this triangle that sounds like a joke, but is actually a bit true: you can choose two of the following three: social life, sleep and study.
On the other hand, if you do want to change you MUST step out of your comfort zone and try new things. I feel a reason you’re not interested in a girl is maybe you haven’t met one you are truly attracted to. Meeting new people and doing new stuff would raise the chances.
However, don’t force yourself to do things or act in a way that isn’t you to other people. You can change your way of interacting, and you’ll gradually see how you change.
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I think you’re right, I’m probably too scared from being too attracted towards a girl and then dumping me. One of my friends had that happen to him just for money
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Oh and to add, you probably should go build up some self confidence. It would be pretty beneficial as you could talk about your passion and be less awkward. Remember though, asking someone “why am I a boring person?” Would make the person you’re speaking to INSTANTLY think you’re boring.
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Hey,

Sorry about your situation. Don't feel like youre the odd one out, there are loads of kids in your situation. Focus on what you enjoy doing, i.e if you dont like partying then dont feel like you have to! If you enjoy learning about the things that you are passionate about, that is also completely normal! However, you are only young once so dont miss out on the opportunity to party every now and then!

Hope this helps,

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