my view of marriage is if u were to jump out a plane and had 50% chance of parachute opening you say no im not going. and same with marriage is it not 50 chance that it wont last and most divorces are initiated by women. women that would rather cash out with money and prizes than fix it. yet despite this men are eager to marry but they dont think u know what i am probably getting in the line to lose half my stuff
Last edited by SJW-; 1 week ago
Do people still care about marriage these days?
Honestly it is very young but there’s no way of anyone knowing if it will work or not. I know couples who got engaged at that age and are still together, but I also know couples who were together 10+ years and it still didn’t work out. I don’t really see the need to get married so young, surely you’d be better off just waiting a couple of years until you’ve done things like get a stable job/career, bought a house etc. If it’s for religious reasons then I guess go for it, it’s your choice.
I am going to be uncharacteristically blunt here and say I'm afraid that in my own personal opinion, 20 is far too young to even consider marriage.
The reality is that being 20 is actually like being age 0. You are not long out of school or similar, and have not yet experienced life or the world fully. Enjoy being young and exploring the avenues that life has to offer. Once you are thirty and have 10 whole years of experience, THEN you will have grown enough and experienced enough of the world to know what marriage is and how to 'run' a marriage.
Honestly, and I mean this with all sincerity, don't marry at 20. you and your partner have plenty of growing left to do yet. If they are the one and it is truly meant to be then they will still be there when you are 30 and you will both have some mileage and scars and stories and know what marriage is all about.
AAWWWWEEE, i find this soo cute. If you really think you can keep everything floating then go for it. Just make sure you're sure. Marriage will probably change a lot, not that i would know.
But if you do think that you can live with this girl for the rest of your life then go for it.
Don't let all this financial crap that you've been reading sway your decision.
If this is what you want and what she wants, then i don't see anything against it.
Besides, this girl is probably one lucky girl
Last edited by Mona.M; 1 week ago
pretty young yeah
not unheard of though for people to gret married at your age usually for religious reasons though
Totally depends on your relationship. I got engaged at 20 and married at 22, we’ve been together 8 years now and married nearly 4. We’d lived together most of our relationship though, first in halls where we met, then a shared flat then a flat of our own and had lived just the two of us for just over a year and a half by the time we got engaged (which was on our 3rd anniversary). We were still at uni/college (I switched during our second year} when we got engaged but we’d both been graduated a year when we got married giving us time to settle into jobs etc. We had no family opposition or concerns about age etc and all of our friends and family were over the moon for us.
I wouldn’t want my children to marry until they’d established their careers and could finance their own home. Living with me, when married, would feel to me like some kind of failure at adulthood, so marrying at 20, to me, is not compatible with that standard.
Last edited by DrSocSciences; 1 week ago
I won't flat out say yes or no like some others here, but I'll give you my take:
I know someone at my university who got married before they started their course... they seem to be happy. It's all a crapshoot because each individual couple's situation is going to be highly variable. Don't just trust your 'gut feeling' (I.e.; don't listen to your infatuation.) But do think clearly about if you're ready to commit the last 40-60 years of your life to being with this person, after only knowing them for 3. I'm not sure about the specific answer for you, because I'm not you.
At the end of the day my personal intuition is... probably too young, but sometimes it works out so clearly it isn't always a horrible decision. You have to decide (using your logic not your emotions) which situation your particularly relationship is in, because I can't decide that for you.
Sounds rushed. What's the hurry? If no hurry, then a few more years will be good for the relationsip to grow into maturity before committing to a lifelong relationship, which is a good thing to aim for, although many look at marriage differently.