It's a bit ignorant for them to get "turned off" when it was forced from you - it wasn't your fault. They make it sound like you slept with someone when you were 6 and drunk.
You don't need to tell people if you don't want to, because it's a personal thing. But, honestly, if people leave you because of that, they're not even worth your time.
You don't need to lie to them because then you'll trip up in your own guilt eventually and want to confess about it. It's good enough to tell people that maybe it wasn't a happy experience for you and you don't have to share it.
You don't have to be fully honest with people when it's personal and probably quite hurtful for you to talk about. Make up something else about when you had consensual sex for the first time (if you have), or just tell people you're still a virgin. There's no shame in keeping things private and not telling everyone who asks.
First ask them what age then you tell them.
You don't have to tell them, but if you're worried about 'slipping up' and revealing that something happened to you at that age, there is a way you can explain it. In my opinion, losing your virginity is the first time you choose to have sex with someone you want to have sex with - you are making the decision to lose your virginity. It's perfectly fine to say that you lost your virginity at a later age (or not yet at all).
Rape or sexual assault should not count towards losing your viginity.
I've never had a boyfriend ask me that.
If you have been sexually abused, do not include that when talking about your sex life.
Sex is consensual, abuse is criminal.
Focus on the relationships that you chose.
I'd encurrage you to keep being honest. May I ask how old you are now?
I think it's something I'd want to know as a partner, it may be a traumatic event in your life and could have a bearing on your future sex life. I'd be happy talking about it. I don't think it's something I'd bring up with a bunch of pissed friends.
We should talk about such things.
I hope you are ok now?
It's a lot to ask but is there anyone willing to have me message them about it? I never really have anyone I can talk to about it
I'm really sorry this happened to you!!! And you shouldn't feel like you need to tell anyone at all. It's your business.
Something like that happened to me too when I was 12. It wasn't my dad but it was some older guys at a adult party who got me kinda drunk and then got me to do stuff with all of them. Your not alone!
I wouldn’t count that as when you lost your virginity - it was abuse/rape and not sex.
Just say you don’t want to know about their past and you won’t discuss your history.