I am a third year history student at Exeter, and I have found this year to be one of the most difficult of my life. I basically feel incredibly lonely, and I cannot wait to leave here - which makes me feel like an utter failure and that I have wasted my years at university which are supposed to be some of the best of your life.
In first year, I had two close friends who I lived with and on my course but at Christmas they both decided to drop out. By then I felt like everyone had made friendship groups, and so I pretty much just hung out with people in my flat which was okay. Then in second year, I tried to join societies etc., but became really ill a couple of months in (I have a long term illness) and pretty much had to become a recluse. I very nearly had to drop out because of how unwell I got.
It is now my final year, I live with people from my first year flat and we get on, but they have their own friendship groups who they hang out with and go out with. I'd feel stupid trying to tag along with them now. I feel really alone, and like a total failure. I am absolutely dreading graduation as my family will come along to see that I have nobody to talk too...
Sorry for the long, depressing question. This is not like me at all, I am usually a happy, fun person and at home I am used to having a large group of friends. Am I the only one who feels like this? Are there any other Exeter students who want to talk?
It’s tough but hang in there. I know it may seem weird but try and befriend one or two of the people you live with that you think you have a lot in common with. Even if it’s weird at the start.
Unless you’re a ***** which I don’t suspect you are, people are always open to new faces in those friendship groups.
I am similar but a postgraduate student. The only difference I have found is that I have almost no time to socialise when doing my taught masters as the workload is much more intense than any years at undergrad where I was able to do coursework, play some video games and go out for meals with friends almost every day.
Sorry to hear about your situation.
1. Dont drop out, things will get better!
2. Go along to a few societies, have a look at the Christian Union, they are always friendly!
3. Try and get out of your room more e.g. go to the libary do some exercise (strike a conversation with someone)
Hope this helps,
Hey, you are there for your education and future. That is important.
You can join clubs, societies or even a facebook group. You could even join online meet ups.