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(Original post by karl pilkington)I you worried that he is gay or that you won't see him?
That I won’t see him and the majority of who he will work with will be female and he’ll have to stay in hotels with them and spend more time with them than me
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(Original post by karl pilkington)I you worried that he is gay or that you won't see him?
That I won’t see him and the majority of who he will work with will be female and he’ll have to stay in hotels with them and spend more time with them than me
How old are you both?
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How old are you both?
I’m 19, he is 24
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I’m 19, he is 24
Right I see - the problem you ultimately have is, you can’t try and dissuade him or guilt him into not doing it if it’s his dream (not that I’m saying you are doing that, just in case you wonder) so really, you just have to trust him that he wouldn’t do anything with the girls - I will say, it doesn’t sound like you trust him which is why you’ve asked people on here maybe?
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I would've thought a professional attitude is what keeps cabin crew in their jobs, so i don't think you have any real need to be scared he'd be fired the moment he makes out, and I'm sure he wouldn't want to endure the shame of telling you he's fired
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That I won’t see him and the majority of who he will work with will be female and he’ll have to stay in hotels with them and spend more time with them than me
So this is more of a trust issue. What makes you think he'll do something with his coworkers?
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So this is more of a trust issue. What makes you think he'll do something with his coworkers?
We’ve been together almost a year but before meeting me he used to sleep around a lot, and has text girls behind my back before, he also has a very flirty personality
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I would've thought a professional attitude is what keeps cabin crew in their jobs, so i don't think you have any real need to be scared he'd be fired the moment he makes out, and I'm sure he wouldn't want to endure the shame of telling you he's fired
I’d like to think you’re right, but with him barely ever being home I don’t feel he’ll get as much attention as he wants, and with not many straight guys in the industry at all, surely the girls will be all over him cause they have no other option
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I’d like to think you’re right, but with him barely ever being home I don’t feel he’ll get as much attention as he wants, and with not many straight guys in the industry at all, surely the girls will be all over him cause they have no other option
So, flipping this a bit, what’s stopping you cheating on him when he’s not around?
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I’d like to think you’re right, but with him barely ever being home I don’t feel he’ll get as much attention as he wants, and with not many straight guys in the industry at all, surely the girls will be all over him cause they have no other option
I'm sure the female attendants are expected to be fully professional too, if anything they have to deal with advances from male customers more often than from male colleagues. It would be great if someone with cabin crew experience came on this thread to advise you because I have no idea what a typical cabin crew shift is like, especially in long haul travel
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I'm sure the female attendants are expected to be fully professional too, if anything they have to deal with advances from male customers more often than from male colleagues. It would be great if someone with cabin crew experience came on this thread to advise you because I have no idea what a typical cabin crew shift is like, especially in long haul travel
I’ve been longing to find a girl who’s been out in my situation, I think reading threads online hasn’t helped as such, cause all I’ve seen is that a lot goes on between crew when they’re away, but they keep it to themselves
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So, flipping this a bit, what’s stopping you cheating on him when he’s not around?
I mean technically nothing, but as far as I’m aware he fully trusts me as I’ve never given him a reason not to, and I don’t think I could bring myself to do such a thing if I love someone
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(Original post by hannahh2005)
I mean technically nothing, but as far as I’m aware he fully trusts me as I’ve never given him a reason not to
Has he ever given you a reason not to trust him?
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Has he ever given you a reason not to trust him?
Exactly this. I think the OP is over thinking the job. How I see it is, if someone is likely to cheat, they’re going to do it regardless. It doesn’t matter if they’re away from home, working from home or working in a office.

If he’s given you reasons to not trust him since you’ve been together, then your ultimately have to talk it through with him. The reality is, it’s hard at best to impossible to be in a relationship with someone you don’t trust, it causes issues and friction in the end.
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Exactly this. I think the OP is over thinking the job. How I see it is, if someone is likely to cheat, they’re going to do it regardless. It doesn’t matter if they’re away from home, working from home or working in a office.

If he’s given you reasons to not trust him since you’ve been together, then your ultimately have to talk it through with him. The reality is, it’s hard at best to impossible to be in a relationship with someone you don’t trust, it causes issues and friction in the end.
What I’m really wanting to know is would you stay with a partner who is doing this as a career, cause even if the trust is there, we will barely see eachother
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I have a relative who is long haul cabin crew for BA. He gets more time at home than with a regular job. At least 9 days off a month. It isn't true that you will barely see him.
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What I’m really wanting to know is would you stay with a partner who is doing this as a career, cause even if the trust is there, we will barely see eachother
So the question really is, do you think it will bother you and do you think you can do this? I get the impression that It already sounds like you have your doubts unless I’ve understood wrongly?
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I have a relative who is long haul cabin crew for BA. He gets more time at home than with a regular job. At least 9 days off a month. It isn't true that you will barely see him.
But is it difficult keeping in contact with the different time zones? Is there much standby time or for the remainder of the month are they normally always abroad?
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But is it difficult keeping in contact with the different time zones? Is there much standby time or for the remainder of the month are they normally always abroad?
The 9 days leave is all in the UK. To be honest it feels more than that.

The model basically seems to be that they fly somewhere exotic, stay there overnight or perhaps for a day, then fly back. They don't tend to spend a lot of time abroad.

I think cabin crew get more time off than a regular job. Though like many jobs I guess those days will vary, so it could be weekdays off or could be weekend.
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