Hey, I would like to ask for opinions of what you guys think especially girls although having guys opinions too would be great!
I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend although we both leave in the UK.. and the thing is that he told me he watches porn to masturbate. He’s been doing it for many years already so he’s used to it he told me he will stop but it’s not that easy and he can’t do it straight away just like that as it helps him to masturbate etc.. and he can’t really do it without porn.. we have talked about it that I don’t like it and it does hurt my feelings, as I do think it’s toxic, disrespectful and unfair.
I don’t do such things so I expect the same. He understands and genuinely feels guilty, sad that it hurts me he told me he wouldn’t like that if I did it and he understands how I feel about it.. he even asked me to promise him I that I’ll never! he limited it and does it less like before apparently, he used to watch it every day etc now it’s once a week. He does say that he now starts with porn and then to the end he thinks about me but I still feel really uncomfortable what do you guys think? Would you mind if your boyfriend or girlfriend do such things etc? How would you deal with it? (Btw we are both 19)
Last edited by beznicku; 1 week ago
Well then I don’t understand why he doesn’t want me to watch it and told me to promise him I don’t do it.. doesn’t make sense if he expects me not to do it but he does.
(Original post by Ciel.)What do you expect him to do? You are in a long distance relationship... Anyway, it's just porn, why would it bother you?
porn is incredibly addictive and if one uses it often for years its basically impossible to quit
i think porn is one of the most addictive drugs the world has ever seen. its being flagged up as a public health crisis in the u.s. this is just the beginning
futher more to this, in my experience pron is a great escapism method to get away from thoughts and pain for a few minutes. so it might not just be 'human needs' but masking stuff thats going on in his life
Last edited by SJW-; 1 week ago
It's a bit odd that he has a problem with you watching porn. I would tell him to get stuffed and do what made me happy.
Porn shouldn't be the issue here - guys tend to have more 'cravings' than girls so they have to satisfy themselves somehow. Plus they are not really thinking about the girl on the screen, they're just looking at her boobs etc. My ex watched it all the time, like if I didn't feel up to sex he would go watch. The one thing I did notice is that after dating me he started watching pornos where the girl looked similar to me (tan skin, middle eastern) so it was flattering in a weird way lol.
The real issue here is him having one standard for himself and one for you, that makes him sound like a kid.
Guys watch porn. It's a fact of life. Don't read too much into it. It does not threaten you in any way.
I would be AOK with a woman I was in a relationship with who admitted to watching porn. It would not affect me whatsoever. Peoples sex drives are very varied.
Even if someone does not watch porn, ever, but have sexual thoughts or dreams or masturbate thinking about something else, what is the difference?
Many people in relationships watch porn. Him saying you're not allowed but he should be allowed is f***ing stupid, though, call him out on it and ask what's with the double standard and tell him you'll continue to do it until he stops doing it. Besides that, I don't really think you need to fill him in on your masturbation habits when he clearly sees it as a negative thing.