Girl who rejected me showing interest now I’m in a relationship? Watch

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Hi guys,

How would you handle this one? Asked this girl out at work in January last year, she rejected me, and we remained friends and have had a good laugh over the last year. However I’ve since entered into a relationship, and now I find her sliding into my DMs, texting me, flirting with me, in ways she hasn’t done since before I asked her out. She’s even asked me to attend socials with her as she doesn’t want to go alone.

I don’t mind it too much, but it all feels a little weird, and wouldn’t want my current girlfriend getting the wrong idea. I don’t want this girl getting the wrong idea either.

Is this normal behaviour and should I say anything?
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Zarek
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I guess what you can't have is more alluring that something which is on a plate. A chance to get your own back.
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(Original post by Zarek)
I guess what you can't have is more alluring that something which is on a plate. A chance to get your own back.
Thanks, though not on a revenge mission!
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this is just what wahmen do, they never see the appeal in you until they see you with other women

in fact life has been like this for me in general. employers have regretted not hiring me after i got a job somewhere else and people suddenly wanna become friends with me when i made friends with others. its just how the world is. oh well, they had their chance and they lost it. let them live to regret it hee hee
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Sounds like she has realised your value. Tell her you will attend a social with her and get her to come clean about how she feels, if she says she likes you proceed from there.

But don't risk your current relationship over someone who likes someone who is already in a relationship. Maybe her kink is you cheating, you never know with some people.
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It's an example of social proof or whatever you want to call it.

You should listen to your instincts on this one. You know it's not right to reciprocate and she could be trying to mess up the relationship.

I would avoid. She had her opportunity when you were single, now that ship has sailed and she's going to have to swim alone.
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It's an example of social proof or whatever you want to call it.

You should listen to your instincts on this one. You know it's not right to reciprocate and she could be trying to mess up the relationship.

I would avoid. She had her opportunity when you were single, now that ship has sailed and she's going to have to swim alone.
Agreed unless she is very hot or there is something special about her back off, she may not have realised your value but now you can realise hers. She made a mistake and it's not your business to fix it.
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You need to be careful. You don’t want your gf getting the wrong idea , your gf is your main priority . You shouldn’t interact with the other girl that often
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Women tend to go after preselected men. They are herd creatures in a sense.
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I agree that you should avoid her. Her behaviour is selfish (being kind). If she got you, she probably wouldn’t want you any more.
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Ye thats pretty normal behaviour from women tbh lmao.

I would also avoid her because she might try some crazy **** like sabotaging your relationship.

Lots of red flags indicating she's a crazy sloot.
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You should have stopped communicating with her after she made the first decision.
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You should have stopped communicating with her after she made the first decision.
I couldn’t, we work side by side.
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