I want to lose my virginity already, 19 and female.

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So I'm 19, 20 this year and I still haven't met the one. I've made out and been out with a couple of guys, but because of awful experiences, (being sexually abused while sleeping, being with jerks who didn't understand I needed alone time and I'm busy or over all really controlling or creepy guys who just wanted sex) I'm really scared to be in a relationship again. But I really do want to lose my virginity, or meet a guy. Can anyone give ant advice?
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I've heard of people in your situation, who are so desperate to lose their virginity they will go out with anyone but they've always said they regret it and wish it was saved for a better experience.
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I don't want to come across as being judgemental or anything, but being in a relationship purely for the sake of losing your virginity doesn't sound a healthy mindset as it is.

Although you know you're ready to do it, take the time to get to know the person and get comfortable with them first, just to be clear and save hurt feelings. Maybe I'm just old fashioned and in that case, ignore me completely.
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You met guys who just wanted sex and you want to lose your virginity and that's a reason for you not having done it?!

I might have spotted where you're going wrong....
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Take your time here, get to know them, feel comfortable around them, trust them.

There's many ways to achieve this-through online dating, speed dating, meetings guys through education, from your network, social circle, bars, clubs.
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hit my sc? jxmeshb
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(Original post by username4510528)
So I'm 19, 20 this year and I still haven't met the one. I've made out and been out with a couple of guys, but because of awful experiences, (being sexually abused while sleeping, being with jerks who didn't understand I needed alone time and I'm busy or over all really controlling or creepy guys who just wanted sex) I'm really scared to be in a relationship again. But I really do want to lose my virginity, or meet a guy. Can anyone give ant advice?
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Your points are conflicting with each other. You said you've been with "creepy guys who just wanted sex" but you also want to have a relationship just to lose your virginity? Unless I'm wrong, I'm confused. Also imo your virginity should be your pride and you should lose it to someone worthy of it, but again you don't have to listen to me.
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She should message you because you've decided that she needs another virgin to share her woes with or because you're desperate to lose it and she may be just as desperate? It might even make her message you to expand on why you've found a bunch of girls who've posted about being virgins and decided that the answer is you (their male equivalent apparently)...although if that works you get lots of girls and one gets a virgin and the others get an awkward desperado...

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(Original post by username4510528)
So I'm 19, 20 this year and I still haven't met the one. I've made out and been out with a couple of guys, but because of awful experiences, (being sexually abused while sleeping, being with jerks who didn't understand I needed alone time and I'm busy or over all really controlling or creepy guys who just wanted sex) I'm really scared to be in a relationship again. But I really do want to lose my virginity, or meet a guy. Can anyone give ant advice?
I'm still a virgin too if it helps
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I'm still a virgin too if it helps
Wow, that's a really helpful message. Now the OP along with the shed load of virgins on here can feel better knowing they're not alone in their hundreds/thousands/hundreds of thousands...

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(Original post by username4510528)
So I'm 19, 20 this year and I still haven't met the one. I've made out and been out with a couple of guys, but because of awful experiences, (being sexually abused while sleeping, being with jerks who didn't understand I needed alone time and I'm busy or over all really controlling or creepy guys who just wanted sex) I'm really scared to be in a relationship again. But I really do want to lose my virginity, or meet a guy. Can anyone give ant advice?
Look - A lot of people on here are going to jump all over you(Not in a good way) for saying something like that.

You want sex. You're probably a little lonely. You want a relationship. A relationship with sex. That's totally normal.

What are you doing to try to meet someone? If we know what you're trying, we can help a bit more.
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