Worth keeping virginity till marriage in this age? Relationship advice Watch

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Okay where to start
I'm a 21 years old muslim guy
Looks department i'm attractive so I don't see a problem getting laid if i tried i remember when i was around 18 I made a tinder account out of curiosity to compete with another friend and got a couple hundred matches in a short amount of time to put things into perspective

well I've been in a relationship with a girl for around a year and a half but never did anything sexual I'm still a virgin and the girl im with is really good so she'd never do it before marriage so i respect that and im the only guy she speaks to

I honestly didn't mind waiting till marriage cause I knew she was the one we just had that spark but one day she said that if her parents didn't want her to marry me then she'd leave me and that really left a mark

So do i stick it out till I get her parents verdict which may be another few months

or do I just let it go , cause i've come to the conclusion If I don't get her whats the point in waiting till marriage when most muslim females have lost it and even the ones that haven't are the ones all the guys want to marry in the end even the guys who have lost their virginity prefer virgins for marriage

so what do i do , like i'm so conflicted at the moment
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I am a Muslim girl as well and honestly I would leave you if my parents said no, and it is always better to wait until marriage. There are many benefits such as Baraka throughout your married relationship and it will be noted that you didn't give into lust. The sins from having sex before marriage are too much and it's always better to start your marriage while following the right path.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Okay where to start
I'm a 21 years old muslim guy
Looks department i'm attractive so I don't see a problem getting laid if i tried i remember when i was around 18 I made a tinder account out of curiosity to compete with another friend and got a couple hundred matches in a short amount of time to put things into perspective

well I've been in a relationship with a girl for around a year and a half but never did anything sexual I'm still a virgin and the girl im with is really good so she'd never do it before marriage so i respect that and im the only guy she speaks to

I honestly didn't mind waiting till marriage cause I knew she was the one we just had that spark but one day she said that if her parents didn't want her to marry me then she'd leave me and that really left a mark

So do i stick it out till I get her parents verdict which may be another few months

or do I just let it go , cause i've come to the conclusion If I don't get her whats the point in waiting till marriage when most muslim females have lost it and even the ones that haven't are the ones all the guys want to marry in the end even the guys who have lost their virginity prefer virgins for marriage

so what do i do , like i'm so conflicted at the moment
Are you asking whether you should have sex with her or if you should do it with another girl?

It sounds like the latter, in which case it is up to you. I wouldn't suggest doing the former though, and if you do choose to have sex before marriage, please don't do it with a muslim girl who is a virgin.
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(Original post by Hope_adx)
I am a Muslim girl as well and honestly I would leave you if my parents said no, and it is always better to wait until marriage. There are many benefits such as Baraka throughout your married relationship and it will be noted that you didn't give into lust. The sins from having sex before marriage are too much and it's always better to start your marriage while following the right path.
But you would know that Barak is a very controversial subject in Islam; linked to Zayra, idol worship. Being a virgin before marriage has no intrinsic benefit.It is better to know beforehand what you are getting into physically. Have you heard of muslim gay guys who,because of cultural family pressures, get married to women and both husband and wife suffer because of it? If thr women knew more about their future husbands physically then they would more likely discern whether the guy is gay or not. Love honesty integrity are much more important. Your husband to be is most unlikely to actually be a true virgin either.
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Okay where to start
I'm a 21 years old muslim guy
Looks department i'm attractive so I don't see a problem getting laid if i tried i remember when i was around 18 I made a tinder account out of curiosity to compete with another friend and got a couple hundred matches in a short amount of time to put things into perspective

well I've been in a relationship with a girl for around a year and a half but never did anything sexual I'm still a virgin and the girl im with is really good so she'd never do it before marriage so i respect that and im the only guy she speaks to

I honestly didn't mind waiting till marriage cause I knew she was the one we just had that spark but one day she said that if her parents didn't want her to marry me then she'd leave me and that really left a mark

So do i stick it out till I get her parents verdict which may be another few months

or do I just let it go , cause i've come to the conclusion If I don't get her whats the point in waiting till marriage when most muslim females have lost it and even the ones that haven't are the ones all the guys want to marry in the end even the guys who have lost their virginity prefer virgins for marriage

so what do i do , like i'm so conflicted at the moment
date the woman. Be respectful and have healthy, guilt -free consensual sex before marriage. Simple.
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Are you asking whether you should have sex with her or if you should do it with another girl?

It sounds like the latter, in which case it is up to you. I wouldn't suggest doing the former though, and if you do choose to have sex before marriage, please don't do it with a muslim girl who is a virgin.
Why not , if she consents?
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