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My bf finally told me he loves me after 4 months. But I felt like I had to really nudge him to say it as he's the type that's really respectful and does think things through very carefully. I dropped hints on valentines day and recently told him I want him to express his emotions more and he said the three words literally after this discussion.

My birthday happened to drop on our 3 month anniversary, and he took me to a really swanky restaurant. I did think we'd tell each other then, and I had planned to but nerves got the better of me. Whilst we were in the restaurant I was telling him how much I like him, to which he replied 'I love my (my name)'. I didn't say it back but smiled and said 'aww', I was really happy to hear this. He didn't outright tell me he loves me though - if he did, I would've said it back.

It makes me a bit sad because right after my birthday came valentines day and we didn't get to enjoy it as much - it was a bit awkward at times since we hadn't expressed our emotions fully to one another yet. But I was certain he loved me at this point and certain that I did too. I also wish it was said on my birthday as it would've been a really special day to remember as everything else was perfect.

Am I being ridiculous for being slightly annoyed at this?
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I mean in my honest opinion I don't think you need to be slightly annoyed, it's just one of those things, it'll happen eventually.
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Yes you are being ridiculous. Seriously wtf is this what people bloody stress over. Get a grip ffs.
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(Original post by camembertqueen)
he replied 'I love my (my name)'. I didn't say it back but smiled and said 'aww'
And you're wondering why he didn't tell you he loved you again for a while.
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You're being ridiculous.
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And you're wondering why he didn't tell you he loved you again for a while.
he didn't say 'I love you', and it was kind of a a passing comment in conversation
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(Original post by camembertqueen)
My bf finally told me he loves me after 4 months. But I felt like I had to really nudge him to say it as he's the type that's really respectful and does think things through very carefully. I dropped hints on valentines day and recently told him I want him to express his emotions more and he said the three words literally after this discussion.

My birthday happened to drop on our 3 month anniversary, and he took me to a really swanky restaurant. I did think we'd tell each other then, and I had planned to but nerves got the better of me. Whilst we were in the restaurant I was telling him how much I like him, to which he replied 'I love my (my name)'. I didn't say it back but smiled and said 'aww', I was really happy to hear this. He didn't outright tell me he loves me though - if he did, I would've said it back.

It makes me a bit sad because right after my birthday came valentines day and we didn't get to enjoy it as much - it was a bit awkward at times since we hadn't expressed our emotions fully to one another yet. But I was certain he loved me at this point and certain that I did too. I also wish it was said on my birthday as it would've been a really special day to remember as everything else was perfect.

Am I being ridiculous for being slightly annoyed at this?
  1. You shouldn't push people to say or do anything before they are ready. How would you feel if it was the other way round? Or in more familiar terms for now - how would you feel if you'd been together a few months and not had sex, and then he's saying "y'know it's really about time we did the do, we've been together ages and I feel like you don't want me"?
  2. Anniversaries are celebrated once a year, by definition. You don't have a "three month anniversary". If you must have anything, you have a "third mensiversary". If you think that sounds silly, that's because it is. Staying together for three months is not an achievement or a triumph of True Love. It's the first quarter of a formative period, and that is all.
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You shouldn’t have to make him say it... believe me I’ve made that mistake before aswell... I know it feels nice to hear it but he could just not be ready yet

You’ve got nothing to worry about at you’d rather have him say it when he means it than just say it whenever
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You've posted this thread before.

Like everyone else is saying, calm down. You seem to be pressuring him a bit much and seem hard to please. He will tell you he loves you when he's ready. Stop trying to push things over.
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Get a grip.
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It sounds like you have idealistic view of relationships. In reality no grown adults celebrate being together for 3 months - by definition an anniversary is celebrated once a year. Surely you'd rather him say "I love you" when he's ready and actually means it rather than him saying it because he feels that's what you want to hear?
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(Original post by camembertqueen)
he didn't say 'I love you', and it was kind of a a passing comment in conversation
SO, you're saying you expect a bunch of flowers and a limo when saying "I LOVE YOU"???? Naa girl, u over-reacting... You're the one who didn't even reply backk. tbh he should've made a thread titled "I said 'I love you' but she decided to make a thread saying I said it at the wrong time"...
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Tbh, if the both of you follow what you're doing, neither of you will tell the other if there is love there, simply because the other didn't go first. He took a baby step, you should at least reciprocate that if not respond fully.
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Over the past few weeks this person has posted about four threads on this same thing as anon.
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Dude, if your pressuring him to say It how do you know he means it, and he didn't just say it so you'd stop pressuring him. But at the end of the day he said it, what more do you want?

Edit: So you've made about 4 threads about this and you also have a thread pretending to be your bf after he said "I love my Emily". And this thread was made 5 months ago, so why are you bumping it?
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(Original post by Zain_Ahmed)
SO, you're saying you expect a bunch of flowers and a limo when saying "I LOVE YOU"???? Naa girl, u over-reacting... You're the one who didn't even reply backk. tbh he should've made a thread titled "I said 'I love you' but she decided to make a thread saying I said it at the wrong time"...
Just a nice declaration that’s all. It was kind of random
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