Thinking about cheating in a relationship...
Okay so... I was wondering if anyone in a stable relationship ever thinks about cheating, or thinks about other people, even just for a split second?
I guess the question is, does everyone in a stable relationship think about cheating?
I guess the question is, does everyone in a stable relationship think about cheating?
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Original post by Anonymous
Okay so... I was wondering if anyone in a stable relationship ever thinks about cheating, or thinks about other people, even just for a split second?
I guess the question is, does everyone in a stable relationship think about cheating?
I guess the question is, does everyone in a stable relationship think about cheating?
No, I haven't. You shouldn't be thinking about those things if you truly love and respect your partner.
Original post by Anonymous
Okay so... I was wondering if anyone in a stable relationship ever thinks about cheating, or thinks about other people, even just for a split second?
I guess the question is, does everyone in a stable relationship think about cheating?
I guess the question is, does everyone in a stable relationship think about cheating?
It’s not real if you’re pondering about cheating. Save the person the bother and remain single if it’s any consolation.
Don’t ruin someone else’s life for your happiness.
^ Everyone above seriously saying they have never thought of anyone else, for even a split second? Even in relationships that last years? That's thousands of hours worth of waking thought guys, come on. Thought we're talking about here, not action, doesn't have to have any actual will or genuine desire behind it. Are your thoughts seriously always 100% squeaky clean appropriate? You've never imagined just... committing suicide or shooting someone, something outrageous? Doesn't mean you want to do it!
Everyone also says that all men watch porn... How can you only ever be thinking of your partner when you're watching porn? I wouldn't know, I don't watch it myself, so maybe that's possible, but I wouldn't think so.
I think they've either not been in relationships, or have strange brains. Or maybe they're in heavy denial. Confuse what sounds good for what's true. Or they've misunderstood the question, think they mean only seriously considering cheating.
Obviously you shouldn't be seriously considering it, then maybe you have some issue/s to address in your relationship. Even then, if you address it instead of cheating, then there's nothing wrong with that either.
(edited to say 'thousands of hours' instead of 'billions'... that was a bit ridiculous >.>)
Everyone also says that all men watch porn... How can you only ever be thinking of your partner when you're watching porn? I wouldn't know, I don't watch it myself, so maybe that's possible, but I wouldn't think so.
I think they've either not been in relationships, or have strange brains. Or maybe they're in heavy denial. Confuse what sounds good for what's true. Or they've misunderstood the question, think they mean only seriously considering cheating.
Obviously you shouldn't be seriously considering it, then maybe you have some issue/s to address in your relationship. Even then, if you address it instead of cheating, then there's nothing wrong with that either.
(edited to say 'thousands of hours' instead of 'billions'... that was a bit ridiculous >.>)
(edited 5 years ago)
Original post by Ribbits
^ Everyone above seriously saying they have never thought of anyone else, for even a split second? Even in relationships that last years? That's billions of hours worth of waking thought guys, come on. Thought we're talking about here, not action, doesn't have to have any actual will or genuine desire behind it. Are your thoughts seriously always 100% squeaky clean appropriate? You've never imagined just... committing suicide or shooting someone, something outrageous? Doesn't mean you want to do it!
Everyone also says that all men watch porn... How can you only ever be thinking of your partner when you're watching porn? I wouldn't know, I don't watch it myself, so maybe that's possible, but I wouldn't think so.
I think they've either not been in relationships, or have strange brains. Or maybe they're in heavy denial. Confuse what sounds good for what's true. Or they've misunderstood the question, think they mean only seriously considering cheating.
Obviously you shouldn't be seriously considering it, then maybe you have some issue/s to address in your relationship. Even then, if you address it instead of cheating, then there's nothing wrong with that either.
Everyone also says that all men watch porn... How can you only ever be thinking of your partner when you're watching porn? I wouldn't know, I don't watch it myself, so maybe that's possible, but I wouldn't think so.
I think they've either not been in relationships, or have strange brains. Or maybe they're in heavy denial. Confuse what sounds good for what's true. Or they've misunderstood the question, think they mean only seriously considering cheating.
Obviously you shouldn't be seriously considering it, then maybe you have some issue/s to address in your relationship. Even then, if you address it instead of cheating, then there's nothing wrong with that either.
Firstly I agree withe everyone saying that it's not a relationship of you consider cheating... In my eyes cheating is the worst thing you could ever do, It is a fact I will punch anyone who cheats... It is just wrong, and I would not consider it if I was in a relationship as I'd only be in a relationship of I loved the person wholeheartedly... On the oyehr hand people will 'look' at other people, its natural, if we were still in the wild the alpha male would fight off other males and mate with multiple people... So it's biologically okay for us to examine fine specimens, that doesn't meant you want to cheat on the one you love, you just yearn for sex, it's natural. Looking is fine as long as you do not act and don't do it repeatedly/stare.
And I quoted this comment on the discussion of porn... Porn although I'd not recommend it in a relationship it is only about sexual gratification... It is not cheating, although it shouldn't be done anyway.
Original post by Ribbits
^ Everyone above seriously saying they have never thought of anyone else, for even a split second? Even in relationships that last years? That's billions of hours worth of waking thought guys, come on. Thought we're talking about here, not action, doesn't have to have any actual will or genuine desire behind it. Are your thoughts seriously always 100% squeaky clean appropriate? You've never imagined just... committing suicide or shooting someone, something outrageous? Doesn't mean you want to do it!
Everyone also says that all men watch porn... How can you only ever be thinking of your partner when you're watching porn? I wouldn't know, I don't watch it myself, so maybe that's possible, but I wouldn't think so.
I think they've either not been in relationships, or have strange brains. Or maybe they're in heavy denial. Confuse what sounds good for what's true. Or they've misunderstood the question, think they mean only seriously considering cheating.
Obviously you shouldn't be seriously considering it, then maybe you have some issue/s to address in your relationship. Even then, if you address it instead of cheating, then there's nothing wrong with that either.
Everyone also says that all men watch porn... How can you only ever be thinking of your partner when you're watching porn? I wouldn't know, I don't watch it myself, so maybe that's possible, but I wouldn't think so.
I think they've either not been in relationships, or have strange brains. Or maybe they're in heavy denial. Confuse what sounds good for what's true. Or they've misunderstood the question, think they mean only seriously considering cheating.
Obviously you shouldn't be seriously considering it, then maybe you have some issue/s to address in your relationship. Even then, if you address it instead of cheating, then there's nothing wrong with that either.
Yess!!! Girl goooo!!!
Original post by DrawTheLine
No, I haven't. You shouldn't be thinking about those things if you truly love and respect your partner.
Have you truly been tested though?
and how often are you being tested?
In your blog you mention you're not really too big on socialising ...so you won't have "hot" guys throwing themselves at you at clubs and stuff,
I have witnessed people [who are against cheating] give into temptation before on nights out or come dangerously close to cheating..
Original post by ANM775
Have you truly been tested though?
and how often are you being tested?
In your blog you mention you're not really too big on socialising ...so you won't have "hot" guys throwing themselves at you at clubs and stuff,
I have witnessed people [who are against cheating] give into temptation before on nights out or come dangerously close to cheating..
and how often are you being tested?
In your blog you mention you're not really too big on socialising ...so you won't have "hot" guys throwing themselves at you at clubs and stuff,
I have witnessed people [who are against cheating] give into temptation before on nights out or come dangerously close to cheating..
Why do so many people think you're only loyal if you've passed a loyalty test? I don't need a test to know that I'm loyal and wouldn't cheat on my partner. Anyone who needs a test to prove that is concerning.
Anyone who gives into temptation or comes close needs to re-evaluate their feelings for their partner.
And before anyone attacks me for this, it's my opinion. Disagree if you like, but respect my opinion.
Problem is, you're going to get mixed reactions to this thread as you've worded the question incredibly vaguely and people are going to get different meanings from it. Asking the question "do you think about cheating?" to a lot of people is going to mean "have you considered cheating on your partner?" meaning actually planning to physically cheat on your partner, to which most people would answer that if you're doing this then you should break up with your partner as it's not fair on them. If you meant "have/do you fantasise about having sex with someone else?" then most people in relationships do that even if it's just momentary. Just human nature.
So perhaps clarify what you mean to avoid further confusion?
So perhaps clarify what you mean to avoid further confusion?
Original post by Anonymous
Okay so... I was wondering if anyone in a stable relationship ever thinks about cheating, or thinks about other people, even just for a split second?
I guess the question is, does everyone in a stable relationship think about cheating?
I guess the question is, does everyone in a stable relationship think about cheating?
It's not a stable relationship if you are contemplating about breaking the trust you have with your current partner. It goes to show you don't feel fulfilled in your relationship. A good relationship is one where both parties love each other till the day they die, no questions asked. Also, instead of thinking about cheating, why don't you express your concerns about your relationship and have a think about why you want to go behind your partner's back and betray the love you had?
I sound bitter, and I've never even been cheated on ahah
I ain't even in a relationship and I don't think about cheating.
Original post by DrawTheLine
Why do so many people think you're only loyal if you've passed a loyalty test? I don't need a test to know that I'm loyal and wouldn't cheat on my partner. Anyone who needs a test to prove that is concerning.
Anyone who gives into temptation or comes close needs to re-evaluate their feelings for their partner.
And before anyone attacks me for this, it's my opinion. Disagree if you like, but respect my opinion.
Anyone who gives into temptation or comes close needs to re-evaluate their feelings for their partner.
And before anyone attacks me for this, it's my opinion. Disagree if you like, but respect my opinion.
I think most people are inherently "good" and have no intentions of going and doing the dirty on their partner, but when you add alcohol ...and temptation [and a hot person from the opposite sex being persistent] ..you'd be surprised how many people either cave in and cheat or come close.
I've seen it with my own eyes
Original post by ANM775
I think most people are inherently "good" and have no intentions of going and doing the dirty on their partner, but when you add alcohol ...and temptation [and a hot person from the opposite sex being persistent] ..you'd be surprised how many people either cave in and cheat or come close.
I've seen it with my own eyes
I've seen it with my own eyes
Alcohol isn't an excuse to cheat and doesn't make it okay. When I get drunk I don't forget about my relationship. I think it's disgusting when people say "yeah I slept with someone else but I was drunk so it wasn't my fault".
I do however think people who cheat when drunk expose what they truly think of their partner and their relationship.
Original post by Anonymous
Okay so... I was wondering if anyone in a stable relationship ever thinks about cheating, or thinks about other people, even just for a split second?
I guess the question is, does everyone in a stable relationship think about cheating?
I guess the question is, does everyone in a stable relationship think about cheating?
If a hot guy/girl walks by most if not everyone will turn their heads irrespective of whether they’re in a relationship or not. This doesn’t make you a bad person. I think people compare their partner to others and perhaps certain thoughts may be entertained.
What’s the reason behind you wanting to cheat? Have you fallen out of love, maybe the relationship has gone stale? Whatever the reason is, never cheat in a relationship as you’ll definitely regret it.
Original post by DrawTheLine
Alcohol isn't an excuse to cheat and doesn't make it okay. When I get drunk I don't forget about my relationship. I think it's disgusting when people say "yeah I slept with someone else but I was drunk so it wasn't my fault".
I do however think people who cheat when drunk expose what they truly think of their partner and their relationship.
I do however think people who cheat when drunk expose what they truly think of their partner and their relationship.
ANM775 didn't actually say alcohol is an excuse to cheat. What they actually pointed out, and quite rightly in my opinion, is that alcohol does have an effect on how people think and act. That is a fact.
I've never cheated on a partner, but I will confess to the following:
1. Under the influence of alcohol, I have said and done things that I would not have said or done while sober. Things that hurt others deeply. But, I would not have done them sober. Because when sober, we think, act and process emotions differently. And with a sober mind, my ability to rationalise things would have stopped them from happening.
2. I have said and done things drunk that did not reflect my actually feelings towards something when sober. Before and after the drunken events, my feelings towards the subject were consistently on the contrary. But alcohol effects our thought processes.
In neither of those situations do I claim that it was the alcohol's fault. Because I take responsibility for the consumption of the alcohol and for the events that pursued during my intoxication. But the alcohol did effect my judgement and the way both situations unfolded.
Having been cheated on in past relationships multiple times, I've come across a small handful of the different kinds of people who cheat and the context for cheating. And I can certainly say that, from my experiences, it is very hard to paint all cheaters and the context of cheating with the same brush. We are all human and we all make mistakes. It's the context and how we deal with it that defines the severity of our mistakes.
It's not a normal thing to think about. I'd never think about cheating on anyone lol. I would think about breaking up with them but not cheating.
Even when I've been completely ****ed on drugs and alcohol I don't think of it lmao.
Just depends on your morals/principles.
Even when I've been completely ****ed on drugs and alcohol I don't think of it lmao.
Just depends on your morals/principles.
(edited 5 years ago)
If you're thinking about cheating on someone then you aren't in a stable relationship. You should only think about being with your SO in that way and not be wanting to do something that would hurt them.
Original post by Anonymous
Okay so... I was wondering if anyone in a stable relationship ever thinks about cheating, or thinks about other people, even just for a split second?
I guess the question is, does everyone in a stable relationship think about cheating?
I guess the question is, does everyone in a stable relationship think about cheating?
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