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My life feels like a process, a guide
There's just no satisfaction in it and I can't work out why. I mean I don't have a social life so therefore I maybe can't express and enjoy myself but still lately my life just feels like a 'process' or a 'guide'. It feels like 2 years college, then 3 year uni, there's no other feeling if that makes sense. Everyday is just the same I just go to college, weekends nothing, repeat etc and I don't enjoy college either. I just feel starved of anything interesting, even the train ride I take to college is miserable, there's nothing adding any spark to my life at the moment. I've joined up in 1 or 2 things but still I feel the same, just a 'process'. anyone else feeling similar or am i just mentally screwed?
Yep, I feel the same. I know a few people who do as well. I guess it's just something some people go through.
what about getting yourself a weekend job? thats always a good way to make friends and get a good social life. I dont know where id be if I hadnt got myself that because most of my close friends I used to work with!
Just before I left school, I had the idea that life consisted of the following:
Born
Nursery School
Primary School
Secondary School
Sixth Form College
Good university
Good job
Marry
Children
Retire
Die
- and that anyone who dared to deviate from that was a failure. This was something subconciously backed up by the society I was in (made all the more confusing being from a mixed race family in a predominantly white middle class society - hence why I've never really understood the concept of "minority ethnic communities" because it's something I've never experienced even though people always assume I have.)
Only when I came close to crashing and burning at college did I realise that this was all wrong. (In the 6 months between getting an "N" for my mock in A-Level Geography I turned it around to a "B" so not sure what happened there.)
When I left university, my view was "OK, I've done what I needed to do for the parents" (Good degree classification in a respectable subject from a reputable university.) I did drift for a few years studying, working and volunteering trying to find my feet and to get onto a path that my heart wanted to get onto rather than one that my head/parents/school/church had predestined. I knew that I didn't want to get into the office every morning and think "our sales have gone up by 0.00001% this quarter, aren't we fantastic?!?!"
What finally worked with me is that I got out of the habit of following my "head" on the big decisions in life - basically because it made me over-cautious. Let rational thinking deal with the small things. I basically let my heart decide the big things - for example learning how to dance, travelling around Europe and even getting onto the fast stream. (I had the option of staying at home but the reality was that I needed to make the move.) I left the rational part of my thinking to deal with how I was going to achieve these things.
What you need to ponder is what your heart really desires. If you don't know, see it as an opportunity to try out new things that you've never done or never even thought of doing before. You never know what you might find.
Born
Nursery School
Primary School
Secondary School
Sixth Form College
Good university
Good job
Marry
Children
Retire
Die
- and that anyone who dared to deviate from that was a failure. This was something subconciously backed up by the society I was in (made all the more confusing being from a mixed race family in a predominantly white middle class society - hence why I've never really understood the concept of "minority ethnic communities" because it's something I've never experienced even though people always assume I have.)
Only when I came close to crashing and burning at college did I realise that this was all wrong. (In the 6 months between getting an "N" for my mock in A-Level Geography I turned it around to a "B" so not sure what happened there.)
When I left university, my view was "OK, I've done what I needed to do for the parents" (Good degree classification in a respectable subject from a reputable university.) I did drift for a few years studying, working and volunteering trying to find my feet and to get onto a path that my heart wanted to get onto rather than one that my head/parents/school/church had predestined. I knew that I didn't want to get into the office every morning and think "our sales have gone up by 0.00001% this quarter, aren't we fantastic?!?!"
What finally worked with me is that I got out of the habit of following my "head" on the big decisions in life - basically because it made me over-cautious. Let rational thinking deal with the small things. I basically let my heart decide the big things - for example learning how to dance, travelling around Europe and even getting onto the fast stream. (I had the option of staying at home but the reality was that I needed to make the move.) I left the rational part of my thinking to deal with how I was going to achieve these things.
What you need to ponder is what your heart really desires. If you don't know, see it as an opportunity to try out new things that you've never done or never even thought of doing before. You never know what you might find.
Anonymous
There's just no satisfaction in it and I can't work out why. I mean I don't have a social life so therefore I maybe can't express and enjoy myself but still lately my life just feels like a 'process' or a 'guide'. It feels like 2 years college, then 3 year uni, there's no other feeling if that makes sense. Everyday is just the same I just go to college, weekends nothing, repeat etc and I don't enjoy college either. I just feel starved of anything interesting, even the train ride I take to college is miserable, there's nothing adding any spark to my life at the moment. I've joined up in 1 or 2 things but still I feel the same, just a 'process'. anyone else feeling similar or am i just mentally screwed?
believe me you won't be doing much work in your first year of uni, it's great!
I always saw it more the case when I was younger, "right I'm unhappy now, but uni will be different, different people, different things, different place and most importantly a different me". That was true to an extent, I have changed a lot and I enjoy life a lot more now and I have friends unlike the ones I had previously.
Anyway the point was that you shouldn't view university as a just a step on your career, It's an experience and you can make what you want of it, there are so many people that its hard not to find someone you get on with or find something your interested in.
good things come to those who wait. i guess
I sometimes feel like this, but i can't exactly say i haven't got a social life. It's taken me a while to accept who i am and now i have i often wonder why my life isn't as exciting as everyone elses. My friends argue otherwise but it's not me who's going on a two week break abroad and going out and having a blast, it's them. It's usually money that always gets in my way.
jenren22
I sometimes feel like this, but i can't exactly say i haven't got a social life. It's taken me a while to accept who i am and now i have i often wonder why my life isn't as exciting as everyone elses. My friends argue otherwise but it's not me who's going on a two week break abroad and going out and having a blast, it's them. It's usually money that always gets in my way.
Same. about both parts. I tend not to go out as much as everyone else, partially because of money. At the minute i'm trying to keep expenditure with my loan (is rather difficult when you're on minimum loan though).
I feel more I'm not achieving anything though, asides from my degree, which I don't really see as that worthwhile in terms of it actually mattering in the long term.
I think everyone feels like that at some stage. I did a couple of months ago, but somehow got out of it. Book a holiday or give yourself something to look forward too. Start watching Coronation Street, it's well funny 
I guess sometimes when life is dull you have to find pleasure and amusement in simple everyday things like Paul O'Grady on Channel 4 and making toastie sandwiches. It'll be all worth it.
I guess sometimes when life is dull you have to find pleasure and amusement in simple everyday things like Paul O'Grady on Channel 4 and making toastie sandwiches. It'll be all worth it.
Lloyd Anthony
I think everyone feels like that at some stage. I did a couple of months ago, but somehow got out of it. Book a holiday or give yourself something to look forward too. Start watching Coronation Street, it's well funny
I guess sometimes when life is dull you have to find pleasure and amusement in simple everyday things like Paul O'Grady on Channel 4 and making toastie sandwiches. It'll be all worth it.
I guess sometimes when life is dull you have to find pleasure and amusement in simple everyday things like Paul O'Grady on Channel 4 and making toastie sandwiches. It'll be all worth it.
That sounds like my own personal hell. Sorry to be pedantic but isn't Paul O Grady of ITV1?
TSR is quite good for taking the dullness out of everyday monotony.
Its all about mindset. Just start thinking differently. You say youve started activities, well do more. Fill any spare time with sport or reading, music, theatre... whatever. You will start to develop more interests, make friends, create special memories, etc. "Life is what you make it", and all that jazz
when i was doing a-levels, i was annoyed at how i was going nowhere and everything seemed 'boring' and 'the same'.
I think you just go through stages like that - as far as im aware, its normal.
I think you just go through stages like that - as far as im aware, its normal.
Anonymous
There's just no satisfaction in it and I can't work out why. I mean I don't have a social life so therefore I maybe can't express and enjoy myself but still lately my life just feels like a 'process' or a 'guide'. It feels like 2 years college, then 3 year uni, there's no other feeling if that makes sense. Everyday is just the same I just go to college, weekends nothing, repeat etc and I don't enjoy college either. I just feel starved of anything interesting, even the train ride I take to college is miserable, there's nothing adding any spark to my life at the moment. I've joined up in 1 or 2 things but still I feel the same, just a 'process'. anyone else feeling similar or am i just mentally screwed?
Heck yeah. Same old same old. It's so boring. And the lack of good friends is annoying too. I spent a year as a loner basically. A2's been a bit better. But I can relate
Prince Rhyus
Just before I left school, I had the idea that life consisted of the following:
Born
Nursery School
Primary School
Secondary School
Sixth Form College
Good university
Good job
Marry
Children
Retire
Die
- and that anyone who dared to deviate from that was a failure. This was something subconciously backed up by the society I was in (made all the more confusing being from a mixed race family in a predominantly white middle class society - hence why I've never really understood the concept of "minority ethnic communities" because it's something I've never experienced even though people always assume I have.)
Only when I came close to crashing and burning at college did I realise that this was all wrong. (In the 6 months between getting an "N" for my mock in A-Level Geography I turned it around to a "B" so not sure what happened there.)
When I left university, my view was "OK, I've done what I needed to do for the parents" (Good degree classification in a respectable subject from a reputable university.) I did drift for a few years studying, working and volunteering trying to find my feet and to get onto a path that my heart wanted to get onto rather than one that my head/parents/school/church had predestined. I knew that I didn't want to get into the office every morning and think "our sales have gone up by 0.00001% this quarter, aren't we fantastic?!?!"
What finally worked with me is that I got out of the habit of following my "head" on the big decisions in life - basically because it made me over-cautious. Let rational thinking deal with the small things. I basically let my heart decide the big things - for example learning how to dance, travelling around Europe and even getting onto the fast stream. (I had the option of staying at home but the reality was that I needed to make the move.) I left the rational part of my thinking to deal with how I was going to achieve these things.
What you need to ponder is what your heart really desires. If you don't know, see it as an opportunity to try out new things that you've never done or never even thought of doing before. You never know what you might find.
Born
Nursery School
Primary School
Secondary School
Sixth Form College
Good university
Good job
Marry
Children
Retire
Die
- and that anyone who dared to deviate from that was a failure. This was something subconciously backed up by the society I was in (made all the more confusing being from a mixed race family in a predominantly white middle class society - hence why I've never really understood the concept of "minority ethnic communities" because it's something I've never experienced even though people always assume I have.)
Only when I came close to crashing and burning at college did I realise that this was all wrong. (In the 6 months between getting an "N" for my mock in A-Level Geography I turned it around to a "B" so not sure what happened there.)
When I left university, my view was "OK, I've done what I needed to do for the parents" (Good degree classification in a respectable subject from a reputable university.) I did drift for a few years studying, working and volunteering trying to find my feet and to get onto a path that my heart wanted to get onto rather than one that my head/parents/school/church had predestined. I knew that I didn't want to get into the office every morning and think "our sales have gone up by 0.00001% this quarter, aren't we fantastic?!?!"
What finally worked with me is that I got out of the habit of following my "head" on the big decisions in life - basically because it made me over-cautious. Let rational thinking deal with the small things. I basically let my heart decide the big things - for example learning how to dance, travelling around Europe and even getting onto the fast stream. (I had the option of staying at home but the reality was that I needed to make the move.) I left the rational part of my thinking to deal with how I was going to achieve these things.
What you need to ponder is what your heart really desires. If you don't know, see it as an opportunity to try out new things that you've never done or never even thought of doing before. You never know what you might find.
You sound just like me. Over analysing is SO annoying isn't it?
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