Only girl in a flat full of boys

I’ve applied for accommodation starting in september as a first year university student but i found out today that i’ve been placed in a flat with 4 other boys and due to high demand i’m unable to move :frown:

it’s not that i don’t like nor get along with males as i’ve already got a lot of male friends, i’m just more nervous than anything else. Could someone who has already experienced or is currently/will be experiencing being the only girl living in an all boy flat give me some advice or tell me what it was like?

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Reply 1

999tigger

Original post by bb273

Depends on the boys. It could be fine. Ring accommodation and ask to be put on a waiting list to a more balanced flat. Sometimes people drop out. They could all treat you fine and look out for you.
On the other hand a flat full of females isnt a guarantee you will get on or be happy.

Dont be afraid to lay down some rules from the start and stick up for yourself. It most likely will be fine. Do think very carefully if you start thinking about having a relationship with a housemate.

Reply 2

PhoenixFortune

Original post by bb273

Last year I was in a flat of 7, and I was one of only 2 girls. The biggest issue we had was with uncleanliness in the communal areas, as all the males refused to accept that the mess had anything to do with them. Of course not all males are messy and unhygienic, but that was my personal experience.

Reply 3

gr8wizard10

all this feminsm talk, but no girls wants to integrate

Reply 4

Bio 7

Original post by PhoenixFortune

Most of them are, this coming from a male. However I live in a studio as I don’t like other people’s mess so maybe I’m a bit of a hypocrite. At least I only bother myself though.

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Reply 5

bb273

Original post by PhoenixFortune

did you face any other issues? what was the experience like as a whole?

Reply 6

PhoenixFortune

Original post by bb273

did you face any other issues? what was the experience like as a whole?

Uncleanliness was only one of the issues, the others being noise disruption, stealing food, and letting their guests sleep in the kitchen. Generally they were all lad-type males, so they weren't particularly cooperative/would get defensive if we brought up any complaints. I didn't socialise with them at all, as they weren't my kind of people, but the other girl did and she said it didn't make them any more approachable when it came to discussing their behaviour.

As I say though, that was just my experience, and the cumulative effect of 5 lad-types was probably worse than if you just lived with one.

Reply 7

ageshallnot

Original post by bb273

Which uni is this?

Reply 8

awkwardshortguy

I've seen this film. Next thing the plumber turns up.

Reply 9

bb273

Original post by ageshallnot

Which uni is this?

nottingham trent

Reply 10

Student Roost Liverpool

Hi bb273,
Have you tried asking your accommodation provider if you can maybe do a room swap with someone who doesn't have any preferences as to where they will be staying. You could ask if its possible to move a male from a mixed gender flat to your all male flat if he doesn't have a preference, this shouldn't really be a problem so its worth and ask.
Hope you get this issue sorted and enjoy your stay :smile:

Original post by bb273

Reply 11

doodle_333

I lived with only boys for 1st year. My course was mostly female so I still made girl friends there. I actually enjoyed living with boys, I found them more chilled, less *****y and actually cleaner than lots of girls.