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I have just had my very first counselling session today. It was alright but i know that there is no way it's going to benefit me. Instead of helping me and making me feel better it has made me feel even worse.
What should I do?
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Counselling is a process - it's a journey, so you wont reach your destination on day 1 and, uless you are prepared to embark on that journey, you may find it of limited use. It is about taking steps forward and back and allowing you to come to some realisations about yourself. Give it another go as the first session is often more about setting boundaries.
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Counselling is a process - it's a journey, so you wont reach your destination on day 1 and, uless you are prepared to embark on that journey, you may find it of limited use. It is about taking steps forward and back and allowing you to come to some realisations about yourself. Give it another go as the first session is often more about setting boundaries.
I don't want to though. I know for a fact that it won't benefit me at all.
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Well don’t then. There is a major shortage of counselling appointments so if that is how you feel, someone else will certainly benefit. Nobody will force you to go!
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Well don’t then. There is a major shortage of counselling appointments so if that is how you feel, someone else will certainly benefit. Nobody will force you to go!
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Doesnt that put you back to the place that led you to get the counsellor in the first place?

How are you going to deal with it?
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Doesnt that put you back to the place that led you to get the counsellor in the first place?

How are you going to deal with it?
Would it?
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Would it?
Thats what I was asking.
I dont believe you progressed it or answered the question.
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Thats what I was asking.
I dont believe you progressed it or answered the question.
Yeah but counselling is not for me.
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I don't want to though. I know for a fact that it won't benefit me at all.
This is how I felt for so long, but it is possible to get better. If counselling is not the best option for you, have you considered any other options?
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I know how you feel. Ive had years of therapy to no avail. Every time I go I end up feeling drained as though id given a pint of blood. I thought it would get better after a while but it didnt, so I gave up.
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This is how I felt for so long, but it is possible to get better. If counselling is not the best option for you, have you considered any other options?
I don't know any other options.
What are the other options?
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I know how you feel. Ive had years of therapy to no avail. Every time I go I end up feeling drained as though id given a pint of blood. I thought it would get better after a while but it didnt, so I gave up.
So should i tell my teacher that i don't want it?
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Yes. If you don’t want counselling then it’s not going to benefit you because you will be resistant to it.
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So should i tell my teacher that i don't want it?
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Recovery takes effort. If you want to get better then you have to put the work in. Stuff like counselling and therapy often makes you feel worse before it makes you feel better because you actually have to try to unpick what is making you feel bad.
If you dont want it then give it up so another student can take your place.
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Yes. If you don’t want counselling then it’s not going to benefit you because you will be resistant to it.
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Recovery takes effort. If you want to get better then you have to put the work in. Stuff like counselling and therapy often makes you feel worse before it makes you feel better because you actually have to try to unpick what is making you feel bad.
If you dont want it then give it up so another student can take your place.
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I don't know any other options.
What are the other options?
It depends on the problem.
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Yeah but counselling is not for me.
You havent given it much of a try, but if its not for you, then how are you going to deal with the thing that took you there in the first place?
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It depends on the problem.
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