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I'm 24 and hate my life, I'm a young carer for my sister, who is older than me but has the mind of a child and has epilepsy. I've been a carer now for over one year, and whilst I do get paid for it, I never leave the house. I'm depressed and it's getting worse, all I want to do is leave this current situation behind forever, get a job and move out, but whilst my mother is at work and so is my stepfather, there is no one else to look after my sister.

How can I give up, it would mess up my mother's life and I'll feel guilty about it.
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you have to live your own life; nobody should be able to force you to care for your own sister just because she has a disability, each of us has the right to choose what we want to do. if you’re getting paid for the job then you could help your parents look for someone else in your stead; your mom should be able to understand that while it may inconvenience her, you are your own person. she should have known that by giving birth to you she couldn’t force you or guilt trip you into babying your sister forever so i’m guessing she won’t be 100% taken aback by your choice. your mental health is more important for your own life, above all imo
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Have you spoken to your mother about it? As a mother she should be able to understand she has more than one child who are different from each other. If she doesn’t see that then that’s your cue to stand up for yourself and maybe if you feel to, find someone else to look after your sister like there’s villages disabled people can live in with other likeminded people. With the money you get paid to do it which is probably from the government right you can find someone else to live in or look after her when you can’t. Good luck, it’s always harder with family!
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You might want to think about reducing your hours to part time within a shift system so that several people are involved in caring for your sister.
Do you go to events organised by carer support groups?
There are also online carer support forums and opportunities for carers to study for free qualifications.

Check out these links:

https://www.vision2learn.net/courses
https://www.reed.co.uk/courses/free/online/regulated
https://www.futurelearn.com/
https://www.carersuk.org/help-and-advice/get-support
https://www.vocal.org.uk/carer-suppo...upport-groups/
https://carers.org/
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Just wow. I never thought I'd find someone in a similar situation.

I live with my mum who is ungrateful and constantly makes me feel like **** and depressed and suicidal and have looked after her since a young age and would be less horrible about it but she uses me and I let her because the rest of my family would look down on me. I play on either, going to uni, joining the military or failing that, moving out in secret.

I don't know how your parents would take it and I don't know if you get on with them but either way things need to change for you so take this as an opportunity to leave and develop as a person.
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