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okay so i've been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months, we go to the same school, and i love him and have very strong feelings for him. i would say i'm quite extroverted and i enjoy spending time with lots of people, and i although i do enjoy being with him, i also want to spend time with my friends etc. i also do other activities like sport and music and i have high ambitions for academics (hoping to study in america.) however he is quite needy and wants to spend every waking hour with me. i have been with him every day after school this week, and today he said he feels depressed because he feels like he's barely seen me this week. i feel awful saying this because he struggles with depression and loneliness, combined with a lack of good friends and an unsupportive family, but i feel he relies on me too much. he says he feels sad when I'm not around, but i want him to be able to live his own life and the same for me. he's very sensitive, so i would struggle to tell him this without making him upset and making his anxiety and sadness worse. i love him and i want him to be happy.
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U need to explain to him how this is, it sounds like he would be more suited with a girl who puts him first and wants to spend more time with him. I'm not saying its your fault u just want different things.
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Ofc talk with him about this. He is your boyfriend soo be confident about what you want to say and speak honestly like the most important person in his life and avoid judging. People in depression can be needy af bc well i have depression now but my bestie supports me whole time. Sorry for broken englishhh lmaooo
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In relationships there are going to be times where you need to have difficult conversations and you need to be open with them about how you feel. Otherwise you're going to keep it pent up and then you'll start to feel it taking an effect on your happiness and wellbeing.

It will be a difficult conversation, but be brave and have the chat with him, it might just be that you're not compatible for one another, if you're in school then you're young, and a lot of things will be happening and changing when you go to college and finish school. So you need to focus on yourself and what you want. Maybe gently suggest that you need some space to focus on yourself, if he loves you he'll understand.
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okay so i've been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months, we go to the same school, and i love him and have very strong feelings for him. i would say i'm quite extroverted and i enjoy spending time with lots of people, and i although i do enjoy being with him, i also want to spend time with my friends etc. i also do other activities like sport and music and i have high ambitions for academics (hoping to study in america.) however he is quite needy and wants to spend every waking hour with me. i have been with him every day after school this week, and today he said he feels depressed because he feels like he's barely seen me this week. i feel awful saying this because he struggles with depression and loneliness, combined with a lack of good friends and an unsupportive family, but i feel he relies on me too much. he says he feels sad when I'm not around, but i want him to be able to live his own life and the same for me. he's very sensitive, so i would struggle to tell him this without making him upset and making his anxiety and sadness worse. i love him and i want him to be happy.
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