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Is it normal for a straight guy (in a relationship) and girl (his friend he just knew < 1 month) to go out for drinks (alone), get drunk and go to each other’s places to cook and have dinner together just the both of them - as friends? Opinions?
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I don't know about normal, as in it's not something most people do, but I wouldn't think it would be a massive issue provided nothing happens between you.
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Is it normal for a straight guy (in a relationship) and girl (his friend he just knew < 1 month) to go out for drinks (alone), get drunk and go to each other’s places to cook and have dinner together just the both of them - as friends? Opinions?
I think it is normal and nothing wrong with it, but at the same time, I can see why a partner might feel threatend by it if they have trust issues.
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Is it normal for a straight guy (in a relationship) and girl (his friend he just knew < 1 month) to go out for drinks (alone), get drunk and go to each other’s places to cook and have dinner together just the both of them - as friends? Opinions?
You're asking if it's normal to get drunk with a friend, socialise at each other's houses and eat food together? Of course that's normal.

I'm guessing you are the girlfriend and don't trust your boyfriend and/or his friend? If you don't like it then talk to him about it and work out a solution with him. But ultimately you need to trust him, or the relationship won't last.
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You're asking if it's normal to get drunk with a friend, socialise at each other's houses and eat food together? Of course that's normal.

I'm guessing you are the girlfriend and don't trust your boyfriend and/or his friend? If you don't like it then talk to him about it and work out a solution with him. But ultimately you need to trust him, or the relationship won't last.

No, there are no trust issues. I’m trying to see this situation objectively, as in my culture this wouldn’t be appropriate. I’m trying to understand what is considered inappropriate here and what is.
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(Original post by DrawTheLine)
You're asking if it's normal to get drunk with a friend, socialise at each other's houses and eat food together? Of course that's normal.

I'm guessing you are the girlfriend and don't trust your boyfriend and/or his friend? If you don't like it then talk to him about it and work out a solution with him. But ultimately you need to trust him, or the relationship won't last.
There are no trust issues. I’m trying to objectively decide and understand if what happened was appropriate here. In my culture, it wouldn’t be. Simply put, I’m trying to understand what is considered inappropriate here and what is
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Is it normal for a straight guy (in a relationship) and girl (his friend he just knew < 1 month) to go out for drinks (alone), get drunk and go to each other’s places to cook and have dinner together just the both of them - as friends? Opinions?

he should be more respectful to the person he is dating and not get so friendly with new females
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Wait are people actually ok with this? Not saying there's anything wrong with it but I would completely understand why the partner would be paranoid about two heterosexual people eating dinner together at HIS home without other company, as if people think that's normal.
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To be fair- there were other tenants at his place.
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Wait are people actually ok with this? Not saying there's anything wrong with it but I would completely understand why the partner would be paranoid about two heterosexual people eating dinner together at HIS home without other company, as if people think that's normal.
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Wait are people actually ok with this? Not saying there's anything wrong with it but I would completely understand why the partner would be paranoid about two heterosexual people eating dinner together at HIS home without other company, as if people think that's normal.
Your post is contradictory because apparently you're "not saying there's anything wrong with it" yet are surprised that people are "actually ok with this". It actually is normal for friends to have a meal together
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(Original post by harrysbar)
Your post is contradictory because apparently you're "not saying there's anything wrong with it" yet are surprised that people are "actually ok with this". It actually is normal for friends to have a meal together
Not male and female ones at their own home, and if you think so I challenge you to think of once instance to the contrary.
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Not male and female ones at their own home, and if you think so I challenge you to think of once instance to the contrary.
One instance of a male and female friend having a meal together at home? Are you for real?
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if u have a gf - no, not really
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I'm not saying I'd be okay in the slightest if my partner wanted to do this with another girl, even less so if he'd known her for just a month, however.. as soon as you stop your partner doing things they want to do, there are going to be problems in the relationship. You have to trust that wherever they are, or whoever they're with, they're not doing anything untoward. Think about it, it would have been so easy for him to lie about who he was going out with, but he didn't. My partner has a lot of female friends and basically gets on with anyone, and I have an anxiety disorder.. so not exactly well matched in that respect.. but I would never start to question him about anything because if you don't have trust, you have nothing.

I also have a lot of guy mates, and if I wanted to spend an evening with them I would expect my partner to trust me to do so. There's nothing worse than having lots of mates the opposite sex and then getting with someone who doesn't like it..
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Not male and female ones at their own home, and if you think so I challenge you to think of once instance to the contrary.
Yes, how dare he be friends with a member of the opposite sex? Men should only talk to women they are dating.
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I think we're diverting from the main discussion... It's not about having trust issues / if friendship can be established between heterosexual man and woman. The discussion is about if the given situation is normal, as in appropriate.
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Personally that seems really weird and not something myself or my partner would do in our own relationship.
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However, the other tenants did not take part in their party.
Also, the other tenants may be there or they may not be.
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To be fair- there were other tenants at his place.
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If I was the partner of the guy, I’d be seriously worried about him going for drinks alone and then to the house of another girl, even if it was just “as friends”.
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There are no trust issues. I’m trying to objectively decide and understand if what happened was appropriate here. In my culture, it wouldn’t be. Simply put, I’m trying to understand what is considered inappropriate here and what is
To me, it's perfectly fine. Sounds like two mates doing what mates do - having drinks and food.

Everyone will have a different idea as to what is appropriate and what isn't. So you need to decide if you think it's fine or not. Nobody else can decide that for you.
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