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Recently an issue developed with my flatmates because I politely disagreed with them about something, and then all three of them essentially ganged up on me to try and make me agree with them, and eventually I told them that I felt like i wasn't being respected and that I wanted them to back off a bit. Ever since then, it feels like everything I do is analysed to the extreme, and everything I say / do they insist on resolving it through talking when a lot of the time I really don't think I've done anything wrong (maybe been a bit snappy, but they seem to take more of an issue with the fact that I've disagreed in the first place). I'm at my wits end, and I'm really struggling to get my side of the story through to them without being dismissed. Any advice?
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Recently an issue developed with my flatmates because I politely disagreed with them about something, and then all three of them essentially ganged up on me to try and make me agree with them, and eventually I told them that I felt like i wasn't being respected and that I wanted them to back off a bit. Ever since then, it feels like everything I do is analysed to the extreme, and everything I say / do they insist on resolving it through talking when a lot of the time I really don't think I've done anything wrong (maybe been a bit snappy, but they seem to take more of an issue with the fact that I've disagreed in the first place). I'm at my wits end, and I'm really struggling to get my side of the story through to them without being dismissed. Any advice?
What was the thing that you disagreed with them in the first place?
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It was basically because they wanted us to all get our shower drains unblocked on the same day (we have really crappy showers and the block up really easily) but I said that I would rather get it done on a different day for me personally, not saying that they couldn't get it done, because I was really really busy working on a group project with people on my course and I had left my smartwatch in my room and I didn't really want to risk someone going into my room without me being there. Long story short, they wouldn't leave me alone about it, saying that I didn't understand what they meant when I really did and eventually I asked them to leave me alone and to let me sort out my shower at a different time. And they've been off with me and confronting me about really small trivial things ever since, one of them had a go at me earlier for not wanting to watch a film with her because I was busy! I just feel like I'm struggling with them at the moment.
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What was the thing that you disagreed with them in the first place?
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Recently an issue developed with my flatmates because I politely disagreed with them about something, and then all three of them essentially ganged up on me to try and make me agree with them, and eventually I told them that I felt like i wasn't being respected and that I wanted them to back off a bit. Ever since then, it feels like everything I do is analysed to the extreme, and everything I say / do they insist on resolving it through talking when a lot of the time I really don't think I've done anything wrong (maybe been a bit snappy, but they seem to take more of an issue with the fact that I've disagreed in the first place). I'm at my wits end, and I'm really struggling to get my side of the story through to them without being dismissed. Any advice?
This kind of problem is not uncommon. I always think that when flatmates move in together or a new flatmate moves in they all usually fail to do the obvious- set up a meeting with everyone. Discuss matters such as which flat rules are regarded as essential and why. Also let each person contribute their thoughts /ideas. Try to get a resolution consensus agreement on things. People can also feel free to apologise. Have some agreed ground rules about respect in meetings. Also state when the next meeting would/ should be etc. (Research how to do meetings) If you and your flatmates do this things will definitely improve. (similar to what you would do if youhad a boyfriend/ girlfriend you respected )
You can be the catalyst for the change!
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