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Fancy an older married man at work
Hi, I'm 22 years old and female. I'm in a bit of a dilemma atm. I fancy one of my colleagues at work. I dont know if its just a small crush or something more, but I do think about him alot, mainly lust for him, sex etc... He is 36 years old. He is married with 2 children. He is cute. He is really nice to me, and sometimes we sorta end up giving each other the eye. I work in my office alone and I tend to get lonely, but he comes to me everyday just to talk about our similarities. He doesn't stay long, he just walks out. Also we have a tiny kitchen at work, where only 2 people standing tightly next to each other would fit. Whenever I'm in the kitchen alone and he opens the door, he gets embarrassed and doesn't come in, despite wanting too. I find myself getting more dressed up too, putting more makeup on, to impress him or summit. The thing is I know it is incredibly wrong to silently flirt like this, and he probably doesn't even fancy a silly young girl like me. I day dream about having sex with him all the time. I've also told our secretary that I once dreamt about him 
Today whenever I saw him, I just ended up smiling and probably going red in the face. Gosh how I want him! What do I do? I have trouble getting over partners. I painfully split up from a two year relationship in Feb this year, and I find myself that the only way I get over someone is to be with someone else. I want to move on, but oh how I just want to grab my colleague and shag him on my office desk. Any advice would be appreciated, thanks. x
Today whenever I saw him, I just ended up smiling and probably going red in the face. Gosh how I want him! What do I do? I have trouble getting over partners. I painfully split up from a two year relationship in Feb this year, and I find myself that the only way I get over someone is to be with someone else. I want to move on, but oh how I just want to grab my colleague and shag him on my office desk. Any advice would be appreciated, thanks. xScroll to see replies
If he's married, I would stay away, particularly as he has young children too. Perhaps try and maintain a distance from him until you get over your crush, and avoid being alone with him just in case you get tempted to try something. It's not worth the hassle and probably wouldn't end very well, which sounds like the last thing you need at the moment.
I have been trying to distance myself from him. I don't go to his shared office anymore. But its impossible, he turned up 3 times at my room today just to tell me he is starting his coursework for his MSc 
He wants to see me alone tomorrow to talk about some stupid database report, which is so simple, I'm sure he doesn't need me to tell him. Its things like this, which makes me thing he wants me, or he is just being a friendly colleague. He bought me a chocolate flake last week 
as he knows I love chocolate. I know its wrong, but I just want to once have sex with him and sorta be done with it, if that makes sense. Its so wrong 
He wants to see me alone tomorrow to talk about some stupid database report, which is so simple, I'm sure he doesn't need me to tell him. Its things like this, which makes me thing he wants me, or he is just being a friendly colleague. He bought me a chocolate flake last week as he knows I love chocolate. I know its wrong, but I just want to once have sex with him and sorta be done with it, if that makes sense. Its so wrong Just to add that his children are aged 9 and 15. And they live with their mother, he only sees them at the weekend.
Maybe find yourself a boyfriend to take your mind off him? It tends to be when you are single that you start fantasising about being with people who really you probably wouldn't enjoy being with.
When I worked at a soft play adventure centre for young kids, I kept eyeing up the single mothers. When I thought about it, it freaked me out a bit!
On the other hand, although he's married and has kids, I'm sure most 36 year old guys would be LOVING the attention from a 22 year old girl!
When I worked at a soft play adventure centre for young kids, I kept eyeing up the single mothers. When I thought about it, it freaked me out a bit!
On the other hand, although he's married and has kids, I'm sure most 36 year old guys would be LOVING the attention from a 22 year old girl!
I wonder. I'm not exactly a looker though.
I wish it was that easy to find a boyfriend. I am best friends with my ex, and I honestly say I love him too bits and miss him. We split up for other reasons. But I miss the love, attention, intimacy and sex. My colleague could give me those, he is a sweetheart *sighs*
Anonymous I wonder.
I'm not exactly a looker though.
I wish it was that easy to find a boyfriend. I am best friends with my ex, and I honestly say I love him too bits and miss him. We split up for other reasons. But I miss the love, attention, intimacy and sex. My colleague could give me those, he is a sweetheart *sighs*
I wonder. I'm not exactly a looker though.
I wish it was that easy to find a boyfriend. I am best friends with my ex, and I honestly say I love him too bits and miss him. We split up for other reasons. But I miss the love, attention, intimacy and sex. My colleague could give me those, he is a sweetheart *sighs*
There was a thread the other day asking girls to rate themselves (as always pop up on TSR) and lots of girls gave themselves less then 5 out of 10 for looks, yet in their profile pictures they were incredibly attractive....so really when you say "I'm not exactly a looker though" I would hesitate to believe you!
BUT I agree - since graduating and now working, I don't seem to be meeting many new people and being single sucks! But unlike you there are no hot girls at our office (consisting of 48 men and 3 women!)....gutted!
I didn't realise he was separated from his wife. If so then it's obviously not so bad, but still....would you want to get involved with someone who has kids, one of whom is only 7 years younger than you??
Unless, of course, you both agreed you just wanted crazy sex. That would be ok
I have a couple of times too made silly jokes about his age - how his daughter is nearly my age bad bad move I dont want commitment, Its just too soon. I just want crazy sex! without appearing like some slut. He is separated from his wife, but lives with his long term girlfriend, who he calls the "Mrs".
bad bad move I dont want commitment, Its just too soon. I just want crazy sex! without appearing like some slut. He is separated from his wife, but lives with his long term girlfriend, who he calls the "Mrs".Titch89
I would personally find this seriously weird.
I don't really find that weird. At aged 15 I was naive and immature (obviously). I am now maturer, a woman, fully sexed, but still young and ambitious. 23 in a couple of months too
Anonymous
I have a couple of times too made silly jokes about his age - how his daughter is nearly my age bad bad move I dont want commitment, Its just too soon. I just want crazy sex! without appearing like some slut. He is separated from his wife, but lives with his long term girlfriend, who he calls the "Mrs".
bad bad move I dont want commitment, Its just too soon. I just want crazy sex! without appearing like some slut. He is separated from his wife, but lives with his long term girlfriend, who he calls the "Mrs".We all want crazy sex, we all do
Why are you anonymous btw? It's not that much of an embarrassing issue is it?
dobbs
We all want crazy sex, we all do
Why are you anonymous btw? It's not that much of an embarrassing issue is it?
Why are you anonymous btw? It's not that much of an embarrassing issue is it?
Because my ex bf is a TSR user.
Its obvious, he is off limits and openly talks about his partner and family. Everyone hates a homewrecker. There are nice people out there but you got to avoid the taken ones so you can focus on meeting single. My friend is a homewrecker which is one of the reasons why I have disowned her!
Angel83
Its obvious, he is off limits and openly talks about his partner and family. Everyone hates a homewrecker. There are nice people out there but you got to avoid the taken ones so you can focus on meeting single. My friend is a homewrecker which is one of the reasons why I have disowned her!
Yes you are right. I'm just going to have to get over him somehow. I am currently applying for jobs atm, so I can move away from that workplace.
Thanks to those who replied to my post.
Anonymous
Yes you are right. I'm just going to have to get over him somehow. I am currently applying for jobs atm, so I can move away from that workplace.
Thanks to those who replied to my post.
Thanks to those who replied to my post.
You're not just applying for jobs elsewhere to get away from this guy are you??
If so then it's not a good idea to change your career just because of some guy who you have a crush on. You will get over it eventually you know!If not, apologies for assuming you were!
dobbs
Ahhh that would explain it, hehe.
Well....hope you find some crazy sex, either with the grandad at work or with someone more your age
Well....hope you find some crazy sex, either with the grandad at work or with someone more your age
He actually looks like he is in his late 20's. I thought he was at first. When I heard he was a family man and 36, I was in shock. He rides his bicycle alot, and has a very toned body and thighs *drools* *argh get over this lust*
I think I will go to bed now and NOT dream of him, dream of some celebrity or summit. But I will see his face tmrw morning at 9am.
dobbs
You're not just applying for jobs elsewhere to get away from this guy are you?? If so then it's not a good idea to change your career just because of some guy who you have a crush on. You will get over it eventually you know!
If not, apologies for assuming you were!
If so then it's not a good idea to change your career just because of some guy who you have a crush on. You will get over it eventually you know!If not, apologies for assuming you were!
My contract runs out in Nov
It doesnt affect my career, its like work experience. Im looking for a similar position elsewhere. But moving away from him, would help. Although I would miss him. Goodnight xxx
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