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So i’m not the best looking guy and Iv never DM’d a girl before and i’m 21 (Never has a GF or really even come close). But one girl I have followed on instagram she followed me back and I watched her story’s for a few weeks and she is exactly my type and she’s into the same stuff I am. So I tried to DM her about music because she made a story on it and I asked a question and she and I exachanged 2 messages and she just liked my comment and didn’t reply back.

So today she made another story on a artists new song that came out, and she literally replied with in a minute and I said something back and she just left me on seen.

Now this has crushed my little confidence I had I feel like i’m too ugly to DM girls because only good looking guys are successful in DMs.
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DMIng a random girl seems a bit weird especially if it’s boring convo. If she does gets bored while texting, its best to leave it as it is. Why not actually talk to girls in real life rather than just DMing them?
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So i’m not the best looking guy and Iv never DM’d a girl before and i’m 21 (Never has a GF or really even come close). But one girl I have followed on instagram she followed me back and I watched her story’s for a few weeks and she is exactly my type and she’s into the same stuff I am. So I tried to DM her about music because she made a story on it and I asked a question and she and I exachanged 2 messages and she just liked my comment and didn’t reply back.

So today she made another story on a artists new song that came out, and she literally replied with in a minute and I said something back and she just left me on seen.

Now this has crushed my little confidence I had I feel like i’m too ugly to DM girls because only good looking guys are successful in DMs.
although I agree with big lad Professional G i'll add one thing from experience, don't even bother your attempts will end up fruitless.
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DMIng a random girl seems a bit weird especially if it’s boring convo. If she does gets bored while texting, its best to leave it as it is. Why not actually talk to girls in real life rather than just DMing them?
Idk, I also hear people talk about how they successfully DM random girls so I thought i’d try it and I failed horribly
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If you're just commenting on music she probably doesn't even realise you're into her. :dontknow:
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So i’m not the best looking guy and Iv never DM’d a girl before and i’m 21 (Never has a GF or really even come close). But one girl I have followed on instagram she followed me back and I watched her story’s for a few weeks and she is exactly my type and she’s into the same stuff I am. So I tried to DM her about music because she made a story on it and I asked a question and she and I exachanged 2 messages and she just liked my comment and didn’t reply back.

So today she made another story on a artists new song that came out, and she literally replied with in a minute and I said something back and she just left me on seen.

Now this has crushed my little confidence I had I feel like i’m too ugly to DM girls because only good looking guys are successful in DMs.
Not sure about other girls but my friends and I don't generally spend time texting people we don't know - we have a hard enough time keeping up with our real-life social lives as it is. Replying to your text is something that takes up my time - randomly DM-ing makes it seem like you're bored and looking for someone to entertain you. Maybe try asking her out directly for a coffee?
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It's a trap in every sense of the word.
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Terrible if your confidence is this low lmao. The DM game needs serious balls to come anything close to success. I'd argue your looks are a bit less relevant than they would be irl, but calling yourself ugly is useless regardless as there's huge amounts of subjectivity in attraction.

Anyhoo, DMs more generally:
-If you're going to slide into a girl's DMs when you don't know her IRL and hit her with some weak chat, success chances are basically 0 in 99% of circumstances regardless of outside factors

-If you slide into a random girl's DMs when you don't know them IRL but get straight to a point and ask em out on a date... I have no idea tbh I've never seen it tried but it's a maverick play that'd probably turn the circumstances to more like a 98.5% chance of failure

-If it's somebody you know irl and have some vague rapport with, if you smack em with some chat the chances of things going in your favour aren't so awful as long as you've actually got something interesting to say and aren't just going "hey... wuu2" or whatever

-If it's somebody you know irl and have some vague rapport with and you just straight up get to the point and ask for a date, your chances should be roughly equal to whatever chances you'd have if you did the same thing irl.

Overall, chances of success tend to be low if it's not somebody you'd have a chance with irl anyway.

With regards to what counts as "dead chat", I direct you to this post and expect you to learn from it:
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If you're just commenting on music she probably doesn't even realise you're into her. :dontknow:
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Terrible if your confidence is this low lmao. The DM game needs serious balls to come anything close to success. I'd argue your looks are a bit less relevant than they would be irl, but calling yourself ugly is useless regardless as there's huge amounts of subjectivity in attraction.

Anyhoo, DMs more generally:
-If you're going to slide into a girl's DMs when you don't know her IRL and hit her with some weak chat, success chances are basically 0 in 99% of circumstances regardless of outside factors

-If you slide into a random girl's DMs when you don't know them IRL but get straight to a point and ask em out on a date... I have no idea tbh I've never seen it tried but it's a maverick play that'd probably turn the circumstances to more like a 98.5% chance of failure

-If it's somebody you know irl and have some vague rapport with, if you smack em with some chat the chances of things going in your favour aren't so awful as long as you've actually got something interesting to say and aren't just going "hey... wuu2" or whatever

-If it's somebody you know irl and have some vague rapport with and you just straight up get to the point and ask for a date, your chances should be roughly equal to whatever chances you'd have if you did the same thing irl.

Overall, chances of success tend to be low if it's not somebody you'd have a chance with irl anyway.

With regards to what counts as "dead chat", I direct you to this post and expect you to learn from it:
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If you had to compare Violet evergarden to another anime what would it be?
Cory in the house.
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Maybe she just thinks the convo is too dry to continue to drag it out. Doesn't necessarily mean anything negative.
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Need more interesting chat brudda.
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Now she might not be thinking anything of it at all so do not doubt yourself here.
Honestly the conversation could just be a bit dry, I'm not the most attractive guy, heck I don't even post on Instagram. My number 1 tip is be funny, what you lack in looks make up for in personality and just humour. Chances are slim but don't beat yourself up over it. Maybe wait until an opportunity opens up to perhaps get each other on snap chat (if you both have that), that application works wonders compared to DM's on Instagram. Best of luck
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Now she might not be thinking anything of it at all so do not doubt yourself here.
Honestly the conversation could just be a bit dry, I'm not the most attractive girl, heck I don't even post on Instagram. My number 1 tip is be funny, what you lack in looks make up for in personality and just humour. Chances are slim but don't beat yourself up over it. Maybe wait until an opportunity opens up to perhaps get each other on snap chat (if you both have that), that application works wonders compared to DM's on Instagram. Best of luck
Very good tips. If OP wants some good advice, this girl has them.
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Thanks, but guy auto corrected to girl. I'm actually a guy. Need to edit that lmfao
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Very good tips. If OP wants some good advice, this girl has them.
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So i’m not the best looking guy and Iv never DM’d a girl before and i’m 21 (Never has a GF or really even come close). But one girl I have followed on instagram she followed me back and I watched her story’s for a few weeks and she is exactly my type and she’s into the same stuff I am. So I tried to DM her about music because she made a story on it and I asked a question and she and I exachanged 2 messages and she just liked my comment and didn’t reply back.

So today she made another story on a artists new song that came out, and she literally replied with in a minute and I said something back and she just left me on seen.

Now this has crushed my little confidence I had I feel like i’m too ugly to DM girls because only good looking guys are successful in DMs.
What on earth does good looking mean? it means different things to different people! Your real problem is your self esteem. Why not try socialising face to face and practice building up your confidence! I suspect fsce to face is easier than messaging and hoping!
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Thank you, seems like no point in DMing people if you don’t know them irl then.
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Terrible if your confidence is this low lmao. The DM game needs serious balls to come anything close to success. I'd argue your looks are a bit less relevant than they would be irl, but calling yourself ugly is useless regardless as there's huge amounts of subjectivity in attraction.

Anyhoo, DMs more generally:
-If you're going to slide into a girl's DMs when you don't know her IRL and hit her with some weak chat, success chances are basically 0 in 99% of circumstances regardless of outside factors

-If you slide into a random girl's DMs when you don't know them IRL but get straight to a point and ask em out on a date... I have no idea tbh I've never seen it tried but it's a maverick play that'd probably turn the circumstances to more like a 98.5% chance of failure

-If it's somebody you know irl and have some vague rapport with, if you smack em with some chat the chances of things going in your favour aren't so awful as long as you've actually got something interesting to say and aren't just going "hey... wuu2" or whatever

-If it's somebody you know irl and have some vague rapport with and you just straight up get to the point and ask for a date, your chances should be roughly equal to whatever chances you'd have if you did the same thing irl.

Overall, chances of success tend to be low if it's not somebody you'd have a chance with irl anyway.

With regards to what counts as "dead chat", I direct you to this post and expect you to learn from it:
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Thank you, seems like no point in DMing people if you don’t know them irl then.
I've known people to have success with it, but generally yes. The vast majority of girls aren't intending to use their facebook or instagram as a dating service, so getting their interest is incredibly difficult.

If you wanna play the messaging then date game with strangers, get tinder.
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