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Trapped in a marriage

i got married way too young at 20 years old and all my friends are out partying but im sat at home doing all the housework because my husband cant be bothered it was great when we first met we were always having sex but soon as we got engaged it stopped almost and he was more interested in his video games, whats worse i dumped a guy for him who was far more adventerous and always up for doing stuff, guess I was naive because my husband is rich and I thought I could go on lots of holidays but now I actually miss the walks me and my ex used to go on, I sent him a message the other day but he told me to stop bothering him as he had moved on, im in such a mess, I don't know what to do?
Communicate how you're feeling to your husband. See if you can improve the situation.

Also don't let being married stop you from going out with your friends. If the alternative is being sat at home bored then there's no point in passing on socialising.
Original post by Antonia M
i got married way too young at 20 years old and all my friends are out partying but im sat at home doing all the housework because my husband cant be bothered it was great when we first met we were always having sex but soon as we got engaged it stopped almost and he was more interested in his video games, whats worse i dumped a guy for him who was far more adventerous and always up for doing stuff, guess I was naive because my husband is rich and I thought I could go on lots of holidays but now I actually miss the walks me and my ex used to go on, I sent him a message the other day but he told me to stop bothering him as he had moved on, im in such a mess, I don't know what to do?

Let me guess. You see your friends having all these sexual experiences in their 20s and you're jealous that you're seemingly missing out. You want to have sex with other people (it's clear from you messaging your ex) and you'll find any excuse to do it. You're married now, you need to seek counselling for your marital problems instead of being tempted to cheat. It'll be hard but this is better for you in the long run
Original post by Antonia M
i got married way too young at 20 years old and all my friends are out partying but im sat at home doing all the housework because my husband cant be bothered it was great when we first met we were always having sex but soon as we got engaged it stopped almost and he was more interested in his video games, whats worse i dumped a guy for him who was far more adventerous and always up for doing stuff, guess I was naive because my husband is rich and I thought I could go on lots of holidays but now I actually miss the walks me and my ex used to go on, I sent him a message the other day but he told me to stop bothering him as he had moved on, im in such a mess, I don't know what to do?


Relationships arent always ideal and marriage is no different. You cannot expect to be constantly happy or have his attention - when you messaged your ex however you essentially betrayed his trust. You went looking for something better and people will be like you did not cheat but you did? Because if he was open to it you would have been there.

You NEED to tell him what you did and if he sticks by you, then and only then you can tell him how you are feeling. Dont try and use how you were feeling as an excuse for what you did, it will be taken much worse.

Whether you want to hear it or not: I think only a small part of you is in love with your husband the other part is chasing your ex... which is sad because you are probably throwing away something good for a temporary feel good factor.
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Reality is, he comes home, you alive = happy. He will never figure out that you think, or miss, or secretly want. It just does not work that way. I am literally figuring out how thinking works for living and I have no idea what goes trough her mind... :biggrin:
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Reality is, he comes home, you alive = happy. He will never figure out that you think, or miss, or secretly want. It just does not work that way. I am literally figuring out how thinking works for living and I have no idea what goes trough her mind... :biggrin:


This is so so true. I feel the fact you havent talked to him has led you to even messaging your ex. In reality he thinks you are okay because... you know... you havent told him otherwise.

I feel so sorry for him as he is under the impression you both are fine and you are moving like this.

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