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Unattractive guys, do you unconsciously lower your standards when looking for a girl?

Ok, just wondering, since most men naturally are so shallow and looks obssessed, if you know you're not good looking, is it possible for you to make yourself become attracted to uglier girls?
Having a lot of guy mates, I know how shallow of judgemental they can be of women, so I'm surprised there are so many conventionally unattractive girls at uni with boyfriends, are these guys just being practical, or might they genuinely have affection for the girl?

Reply 1

bete noire

17

Ok, just wondering, since most women naturally are so shallow and looks obsessed, if you know you're not good looking, is it possible for you to make yourself become attracted to uglier men?

Having a lot of girl mates, I know how shallow of judgemental they can be of men, so I'm surprised there are so many conventionally unattractive men at uni with girlfriends, are these girls just being practical, or might they genuinely have affection for the guy?

Reply 2

louisedotcom

13

If its unconscious how would you know you were doing it?

Reply 3

username186742

i have actually always wondered this

Reply 4

Profesh

20

Having been rejected by girls significantly less attractive than ones I've pulled, and deemed both 'ugly' and 'gorgeous' in equal measure, I find it difficult to draw any firm conclusions regarding my looks; but I would say I'm unconsciously drawn/more receptive to girls that resemble me in some way (though, being so thoroughly unconventional of appearance, such a person is comparatively rare).

Reply 5

prettylittlerichgirl

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bete noire

Ok, just wondering, since most women naturally are so shallow and looks obsessed, if you know you're not good looking, is it possible for you to make yourself become attracted to uglier men?

Having a lot of girl mates, I know how shallow of judgemental they can be of men, so I'm surprised there are so many conventionally unattractive men at uni with boyfriends, are these girls just being practical, or might they genuinely have affection for the guy?

Missed one. :rolleyes:

Reply 6

bete noire

17

Well you get my point...To say out rightly that most men are naturally shallow is fairly sexist if not wholly untrue

Reply 7

Chewwy

17

men are stereotyped to be shallow, but equally they're stereotyped to take whatever's on offer.

Reply 8

jaguarfan_1

i know im unattractive and because of this i dont usually go for the prettier girls. i feel uncomfortable knowing they could do better. i also don't judge people by their looks, i tend to get to know the person before asking them out, if you know what i mean?

Reply 9

Charlybob

10

Rouge

most men naturally are so shallow and looks obssessed

We are?

When did this happen? I know guys often think, talk about, and compare, how attractive girls are, but I missed the point where we actually focused on it so much.

Reply 10

thatsjustit

I have actually asked myself this too. Like when you see really horrible looking (sorry) girls with boyfriends...Do they really find the girl sexually attractive, or is it just because they cant get any better? Is the girls personality so amazing that they can just put their looks to the side? And vice versa with unattractive guys as well. I guess if you love the person inside you start to love the outside as well, even if you dont at first.

Reply 11

Crosseyed And Painless

13

What do you mean OP? I didn't realise aesthetic attractiveness was the primary concern when choosing a partner? I'm a bit like Shallow Hal, people I don't like seem ugly, and those I do look nicer for it.

Profesh

but I would say I'm unconsciously drawn/more receptive to girls that resemble me in some way (though, being so thoroughly unconventional of appearance, such a person is comparatively rare).

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Reply 12

Profesh

20

Crosseyed And Painless

Have you tried GingerBrides.com, for all your mail-order specialist needs?

Oh, my. I haven't laughed that much in days.

Rep. tomorrow.

Reply 13

Crosseyed And Painless

13

Profesh

Oh, my. I haven't laughed that much in days.

Rep. tomorrow.

Does that mean you'd do her? ^o)

Reply 14

Profesh

20

Crosseyed And Painless

Does that mean you'd do her? ^o)

Do you doubt the extent of my narcissism?

Reply 15

L i b

19

Chewwy

men are stereotyped to be shallow, but equally they're stereotyped to take whatever's on offer.

Which is, realistically, nonsense.

Reply 16

ahijaw

11

Crosseyed And Painless

What do you mean OP? I didn't realise aesthetic attractiveness was the primary concern when choosing a partner? I'm a bit like Shallow Hal, people I don't like seem ugly, and those I do look nicer for it.

Have you tried GingerBrides.com, for all your mail-order specialist needs?

Quirky-ly attractive woman.... :p:

Reply 17

Em.

It definitely goes both ways. I see gorgeous girls with saddd looking guys and vice versa.
I'm quite shallow tbh, so regardless of whether I'd be considered attractive or not, I wouldn't usually go for a guy I wasn't realllyyy physically attracted to.

Reply 18

Frodz

11

Oh how many of these situations would be solved if people realised the key to getting a partner or not has little to do with looks and almost everything to do with personality.

I've never been in a relationship and i wouldn't say i'm ugly!

Reply 19

rmhumphries

17

I don't always tend to go for the 'traditionally' attractive girl, I look more for subtle beauty, and forms of perfection (Its hard to explain, but basically I find some girls more attractive than others would say they are, and some girls less attractive than people would say.)

Also, what I know of the person's personality will affect how I see their looks, the two are linked for me.

So in answer to OPs question, I have quite a large amount of people I would be willing to give it go with, but I do have standards, and I don't just throw myself at anyone.

(P.S. On a good day, I consider myself plain. On a bad day, I consider myself ugly. I just hope the girl sees my good points, not my bad.)

Unattractive guys, do you unconsciously lower your standards when looking for a girl?

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